After the #LoveBombing stage, many clients settle for crumbs of affection in their relationship with a #NPD, #BPD, #HPD partner because that’s what they subsisted on in their #FamilyOfOrigin as kids. The unloved child within
holds onto the crap relationship out of fear of “losing love.” Or rather, what little love they can #PeoplePlease from a self-absorbed, selfish unfit parent and, as an adult, partner.

You’re not losing love, though. That's the lie of #abuse. In reality,
you’re ending a relationship with someone who’s incapable of love.

If you don't know how to love yourself, begin by respecting yourself. Respect your grown self and hurting younger versions of yourself enough to walk away from people who don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. A #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic partner is no more capable of love than a similarly #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder parent.

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow