@Steve98052 Oh! Sorry, I may have given the wrong impression. I'm writing here, yes, but I'm also working on a long-form piece, of a sort I always wanted to write, but never actually believed I could. Another of #TamsinsNewYearResolutions, I suppose. 🤷‍♀️

So, I've taken my first concrete step towards my goals for the year... specifically, my transition goals:

I've signed up for voice transition lessons.

#TamsinsNewYearResolutions #Tamsition

And one more, before the actual turn of the calendar:

I will strive to be the best Tamsin I can be. Not who I think anyone else wants me to be, or who anyone else insists I should be. If someone dislikes the best me I can be, I'll remember that other people's opinions of me are none of my business... and if they're obnoxious about it, I'll just airlock them.

I don't have time for assholes, predators, or manipulative users.

I have a life to live and joy to chase. 💕

#TamsinsNewYearResolutions

I will get my birth certificate corrected.

Difficulty: ****½

Commentary: This is it. My white whale, my nemesis, the last legal document which still bears my deadname. Everything else has been corrected: driver's license, Social Security card, US passport, university diploma, insurance, credit cards, PayPal account, everything. Once the birth certificate is fixed, I can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that the paperwork part of my transition, at least, is over.

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I will read more books. Paper, digital, audio, doesn't matter. Less social media, more anti-social media.

Difficulty: *

Commentary: I've already started on this, and it's been a refreshing shift of focus. I never quite STOPPED reading, but I did get complacent: occasionally re-reading an old favorite or listening to audiobooks I know well enough to quote. It's been all about comfort media these past few years, for obvious reasons. I'm ready to be challenged again.

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I will wear more skirts and dresses.

Difficulty: ***

Commentary: I have some cute skirts, but I only wear my Verillas Trans Pride mini-kilt regularly. Some of that is the weather, some is the fact that I don't go out much, and some is just fear: of being clocked, of being mocked, of being in danger. I have a gorgeous formal dress, but I'm not going to game night in it. I need more dresses, less fear, more confidence, and fewer fucks to give.

#TamsinsNewYearResolutions

I will wear more skirts and dresses.

Difficulty: ***

Commentary: I have some cute skirts, but I only wear my Verillas Trans Pride mini-kilt regularly. Some of that is the weather, some is the fact that I don't go out much, and some is just fear: of being clocked, of being mocked, of being in danger. I have a gorgeous formal dress, but I'm not going to game night in it. I need more dresses, less fear, more confidence, and fewer fucks to give.

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I will stop trying to make myself smaller for other people's convenience or comfort.

Difficulty: ****

Commentary: This is one of the core emotional issues I grapple with. It's a combination of past trauma, self-esteem issues, and an almost debilitating fear of abandonment which leads me to want to not be a bother or a burden, to not stay anywhere I'm not wanted, to shrink myself down until I can't possibly be annoying or "too much." Super fun times!

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I will let myself play with makeup more.

Difficulty: **½

Commentary: This is surprisingly difficult, given the low bar to entry. The effort is mostly emotional, though, which can be difficult to overcome or move through... and, if the aftermath involves tears, messy and wasteful of some good eyeshadow

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I will let myself play with makeup more.

Difficulty: **½

Commentary: This is surprisingly difficult, given the low bar to entry. The effort is mostly emotional, though, which can be a difficult to overcome or move through... and, if the aftermath involves tears, messy and wasteful of some good eyeshadow

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I will also stop second-guessing every post I write. Not everything is profound, or needs to be. Moreover, I'm not writing on the birdsite. If someone's an ass to me in replies, I can just erase them from my universe. It's not that deep.

Difficulty: ***

Commentary: ...have you met me? Overthinking things is one of my go-to movies, right up there with underthinking them. 😅

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I will stop posting selfies on a thread in hopes of external validation and approval from random strangers on the internet.

Diffculty: **½

Commentary: Selfies are a really new thing for me, and posting the first selfie in a thread only to get ZERO interaction is intensely demoralizing. If I'm going to post a selfie, it'll be for my own reasons, not because I want randos to give me an ego boost.

#TamsinsNewYearResolutions

New Year's Resolutions: a thread.

I don't actually do New Year's resolutions. Honestly, I find them a little weird... but that doesn't mean I won't play with 'em. It's a concept people understand, and an easy way to explain my desire to list things I really need to do—or not do, as the case may be. And since I'm chronically (as opposed to terminally) online, it feels like a fun way to hold myself accountable.

Feel free to mute-filter #TamsinsNewYearResolutions if you're not interested.