A quotation from Thomas a Kempis:

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The wise lover does not consider so much the lover’s gift, as the giver’s love. He pays more attention to the giver’s affection than to the gift’s value, and he places less value on all gifts than he does on the beloved.
[Prudens amator non tam donum amantis, quam dantis considerat amorem. Affectum potius attendit,…
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Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/thomas-a-kempis/3838/

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A quotation from Martial:

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I wanted to love you: you prefer
To have me as your courtier.
Well, I must follow your direction.
But goodbye, Sextus, to affection.
[Vis te, Sexte, coli: volebam amare.
Parendum est tibi: quod iubes, coleris:
Sed si te colo, Sexte, non amabo.]
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Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/martial/59430/

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At first, amiability looks like a common-sense “things I learned in kindergarten” virtue.

But when does our obligation to be agreeable and tolerant get eclipsed by our obligation to insist on better standards of behavior or our disgrace at being associated with shameful behavior?

Does a standard of amiability mean you smile and nod politely when someone tells a racist joke, for example?

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/EWpb7KmSSw8gbhH8i/notes-on-amiability

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