One of the things that causes people to feel uncomfortable with specific relationships is the idea of the power struggle.

For example, western culture promotes that certain relationships are taboo and are inappropriate. This includes relationships such as workplace relationships as well as student/teacher relationships. Even when these relationships are with consenting adults, they come with strong taboos that cause people to feel uncomfortable. This is caused by the observed positions of power that arise from relationships in which one individual has power over someone else in a way that can be abused.

I used to feel this way myself. I would find certain relationships uncomfortable, especially those with age gaps, or those with neurodivergant and dependant individuals. It was impossible to simply look on the outside of the relationship, and assume it was abusive or manipulative. Who has the power over who? And are they using that power to get what they want from their partner?

What most people don't understand, is that power structures always exist within relationships, regardless. This can be caused by things such as intellegence or finances (or in abuse cases, physical or manipulative power), in which an individual can hold these powers over someone who might be in a position of dependence. While such advantages and power structures can be used for abuse, many relationships do not use such power for manipulation or abuse. We as a society have "assumed" that these relationships can and will lead to abuse.

Lets take a look at intellegnce for example. You can have a 30 year old female with an IQ of 160 and a 30 year old male with an IQ of 80 and some people will wonder "why?". There is an idea that someone needs to "marry within their class." And often times this can be associated with things such as wealth and intelligence. Now. Instead, lets replace the male with a male dog instead. A creature of lesser intellegence. Now its drawn a line, a line you aren't allowed to cross. While having sex with an animal is illegal in many counties and states, having sex with a mentally challenged individual is not, despite being a very similar intellegence power dynamic.

Now, if you replace one of the individuals with a child. The power dynamic almost always favors the adult in physical, intellectual, and financial power. This is why people become extremely offended when they hear about adults having romantic or sexual relations with minors. The power dynamic is typically stronger with the adult holding the power.

So in order to combat these stigmas, we have to conquer the ideas perceived by power structures. Culture dictates that we automatically assume that power structures will lead to abuse. But we know power structures will automatically form regardless, and thus we shouldn't put emphasis on the power dynamic being the defining factor of what determines if a relationship is valid or not. Instead, we should only discriminate against relationships that abuse said power dynamics for personal gain.

It gets even wilder when we consider siblings incest, where the playing field and power dynamics are often even. Yet, culture finds such relationships uncomfortable. Just something to consider.

Needless to say. If you "feel uncomfortable" about a relationship and you are only seeing it at face value, you have been programed by the modern western culture. Relationships between adults and children, humans and animals, or the intelligent and neurodivergant, are not intrinsically abusive. They only appear so because of the power dynamic. They do not automatically become abusive because of it. These relationships can be valid as long as the individuals are consenting and powers aren't being abused.

#map #zoo #nnia #transage #zoophile #nomap #Freelove #lgbt

I adopt the Free Love movement, at the very least by its core principles being that you can LOVE ANYONE. And any laws that restrict loving someone is WRONG. #Freelove #lgbt #lgbtq #nnia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Free_love

Chapter 2 (the first and only non-explicit chapter so far) of my NNIAVEMBER 2022 Anthology.

This chapter handles #Vanellope and Ralph trying to be an open couple on large social platforms. As the summary suggests, it's pretty meta, but so is the second #WreckItRalph movie so hopefully it works. Vanellope is cute imo, and I might be a little obsessed with the #Disney movies.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/43207509/chapters/108597964

#NNIA #November #Anthology #2022 #MAP #AO3 #fanfiction #mappositivity