Meh #scammers on #OkCupid. That service is only useful if you pay their outrageous monthly fee. I miss living in a major city. #Dating #Polyamory

@alter_kaker @atomicpoet I've spent decades managing commercial and volunteer teams, sometimes in the same organisation (#OkCupid had a very dedicated team of volunteers helping out) - But anything we got from the volunteers was a huge plus, and never an assumption. We can never tell them what to do, or expose them to horrible, illegal or assumed private things - #Meta will be using paid teams working to international #legal #Compliance guidelines, so I am not sure how that interface will work.

@yawnbox That's because we are evil at the #dating sites, and although we want to claim that our aim is to get you off, that's nonsense... Retention is excellent and we'll always keep sending you new people unless both of you disable your profiles. And how would you know the other person had if you disabled yours?

#OkCupid used to have a mechanism for two people who had matched to mutually disable, but that is loooong gone.

Pink News: Bad news for single bigots – most dating apps have zero tolerance for your sad transphobia https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/05/05/trans-inclusive-dating-apps/ #LGBT #LGBTQ #Trans #Lesbian #2SLGBTQ #Business #eHarmony #OKCupid #Dating #Grindr #Tinder #Trans #Hinge #News

#MatchGroup has announced that it is pulling out of #Russia by the end of June because it is "committed to protecting human rights".

Sometimes, it is better to just shut up instead of reminding the world how shitty you have been for the last year+ in not doing so when most decent companies left.

That being said, maybe #MTCH pulling out of #Texas because they are committed to protecting human rights would be a good idea next?

#Dating #WomensRights #Match #Tinder #OkCupid #Hinge #Meetic #POF

@Bomdia @ablackcatstail I am biased, but I'd go back to a model that matches #Sparkmatch and early #OkCupid

There was nothing new or original as such, but it widened dating from the current model which is basically swiping left or right on a single photo, or a curated set to a model that could be based on a LOT of data.

Modern OkC still sort of matches on question answers, but the questions are no longer user-generated, and the quizzes that people loved ( again #UGC ) have gone.

Listening to a This American Life about dating: 791 Math or Magic... It's sweet.

https://www.thisamericanlife.org/791/math-or-magic

#OkCupid #Dating #Love #ThisAmericanLife #Podcast #Radio #Math #or #Magic

#MayAsWellMention #Tinder #POF #and #Hinge #because #I #abuse #HashTags #SoThere

#OkCupid question:
You're picking up beer in an unfamiliar town. The store you found has some nationally distributed craft beers and some locals you've never heard of. Which do you pick?

- The nationally distributed beer
- The mysterious local
- I buy liquor instead
- I go somewhere else

"A group of conservative Colorado Catholics has spent millions of dollars to buy mobile app tracking data that identified priests who used gay dating and hookup apps and then shared it with bishops around the country."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2023/03/09/catholics-gay-priests-grindr-data-bishops/

#Republicans #LGBTQ #Dating #OkCupid #Grindr #Scruff #Surveillance #Religion #Catholic #Church #Nutters

@nus This was a genuinely accidentally conversation thread today that amused me too much.

#ValentinesDay #Cupid #OkCupid

@darius https://theblog.okcupid.com/okcupid-has-zero-tolerance-for-racism-ffaae9f2d800 #OkCupid #Nazis

@darius https://theblog.okcupid.com/okcupid-has-zero-tolerance-for-racism-ffaae9f2d800 #OkCupid #Nazis

@darius #OkCupid did used to. I ran Moderation for 9 years and we openly stated a number of policies, such as our zero tolerance of Nazis and Queer/Transphobia and the fact that we would always believe reports by women if it came down to a word-against-word situation.

I also didn't ever write a big rule-book. We hired T&S people aligned with our values, and after training we trusted them to make their own calls; if an appeal overturned them; there was no pushback on the front-line moderator.

@darius #OkCupid did used to. I ran Moderation for 9 years and we openly stated a number of policies, such as our zero tolerance of Nazis and Queer/Transphobia and the fact that we would always believe reports by women if it came down to a word-against-word situation.

I also didn't ever write a big rule-book. We hired T&S people aligned with our values, and after training we trusted them to make their own calls; if an appeal overturned them; there was no pushback on the front-line moderator.

@sarahgilbert

Until a few months before I left, #OkCupid had a huge volunteer community doing free photo #Moderation - After about 2015 nobody in management understood, or was willing to read about, the enormous volume of free work that they did; and importantly the speed at which they could remove legally bad stuff from the site.

My plan was to shift them to a full scale trusted-flagger organisation; but I had less than zero support from the company. Sadly their work is now lost to history.

@yoyoel At #OkCupid we used to have all of the #moderation and #CustomerService people on the /about page - It wasn't until one of the C-levelers started getting hassled about moderation issues that I managed to get that page made internal only.

By that point all of the T&S people were using fake names, which made it pointless as an internal who's who page anyway.

Oddly, it was never removed when some nutter was posting the CEO Anthrax in 2017.

It's an odd world :)

#GoodNight folks.

I will leave you with a completely random #Dogs of #OkCupid post.

#MYLEEF #Leaves #Mosstodon

I just found this in an old chat from 2014...

No matter how many years I have been doing this, I always feel that there are some things you shouldn't need to tell people.

#OkCupid #Tinder #Support #CustomerService #TrustAndSafety #Dating #Advice

@nus Na, they dropped it quicker than they dropped #OkCupid :)

#introduction

Managing online #Policy, #Security, #Moderation, #T&S, #Operations, #Compliance, #Governance, #Safety, #DEI, and #Ethics for 40 years now.

I released the first self-hosted #Mud (#AberMud) into the world under #Opensource, co-ran the first #IRC server out of Finland and remain IRC's longest serving operator.

I quit #OkCupid after 9 years as their head of User Safety & Governance and now I'm accidentally studying #ageism in tech.

1st Interview in 20 years: https://bit.ly/michael-lawrie