Leonardo DiCaprio, model Vittoria Ceretti caught packing on PDA in Ibiza nightclub #LeonardoDiCaprio # #VittoriaCeretti #PDA #Ibiza #socialnewsxyz

https://www.socialnews.xyz/2023/09/07/leonardo-dicaprio-model-vittoria-ceretti-caught-packing-on-pda-in-ibiza-nightclub/

Welcome! Meeting is a great thing. I love to meet others autists outside!

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so, it seems that I’m a Palm Pilot after all 😜📱#PDA

https://youtu.be/1Uq1n8UQ3hc

ironically, the more “omg this explains so many mysteries about myself” diagnoses i learn (ADD! HSP! #ActuallyAutistic!), the more exhausted and frustrated i feel — if i had heard these concepts earlier in my life, i could have spent all these decades fixing my shit or at least not constantly berating myself for it

but also, I’m frustrated at my various therapists (and managers and friends and coworkers) for hearing me describe the exact irrational / atypical experiences this youtuber does, and simply shrugging, or suggesting ineffective pabulums like “just make it a habit!” or “give yourself a little treat after!” or whatever, then flouncing away while i flounder and fail

(i mean I’m frustrated at the little versions of these people in my head; obviously I know that most of the real people were trying their best to be supportive and I can’t blame them)

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Not-going-to-bed, because "I should probably go to bed" ... it's 1:30am and I haven't actually *done* any of the fun things I wanted to. Because even just wanting to do something (even a special interest / music hobby) feels like a (subconscious) demand. #PDA sucks!
(at least I think this is what's going on... or maybe I'm just burned out)
#actuallyautic #DemandAvoidance @actuallyautistic

Not-going-to-bed, because "I should probably go to bed" ... it's 1:30am and I haven't actually *done* any of the fun things I wanted to. Because even just wanting to do something (even a special interest / music hobby) feels like a (subconscious) demand. #PDA sucks!
(at least I think this is what's going on... or maybe I'm just burned out)
#actuallyautic #DemandAvoidance @actuallyautistic

I didn't even know #PDA was a thing until recently. It's like I've levelled-up in my self-understanding 🙂

@btaroli It might be helpful
not to think of it as "dividing his attention",
but more like "frequently switching, as often as he needs to".

The way it sometimes works for me;
If there's one thing I have to (even if I want to) do, then I'll avoid doing that thing.

But if I have two things,
then I can actively avoid thing #1 by doing #2,
and then when I feel like avoiding #2, switch back to #1.

And in the end, both things may get done, even though I felt like I was working on the wrong thing,
the "wrong thing" is just "another right thing".

It's something I recently realised, I'm planning try and make this magic scenario happen more frequently.

PS, I think (for me) this has something to do with #PDA / #DemandAvoidance
- read up on that and see if it applies...
it was a game changer for me personally!

How would you rename #ADHD? For my #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD folks, how would you rename that? What about #PDA? What are the alternatives ways of expression that you’d go with? For a long time I’d say “I’m ADHD/AuDHD” but that’s also doesn’t feel right.

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How long does it take my #ActuallyAutistic comrades to get dressed in the morning? For those of you who are #AuDHD or #PDA, how long for you?

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When the spirit is willing but the flesh (PDA burned out nervous system) is weak...

Yesterday I got the sudden urge to work on my novel, which I haven't been able to do for months, so it was a Big Deal. I wrote 2 paragraphs, and despite the writing itself being easy and enjoyable, the demand avoidance and anticipatory anxiety were so intense that:

1) I melted down from sudden sensory sensitivity
2) my heart was in my throat from overwhelm and anxiety and still is 24 hours later
3) I dissociated and shut down to non speaking
4) I gor (and continue to have) agonizing psychogenic itch and temperature dysregulation so bad I couldn't sleep.

I wanted to write. I was *enjoying* writing. But my nervous system is so shot and my demand avoidance+anxiety so high that just 2 paragraphs was enough to fuck me up beyond belief for hours/days.

How do I do the things I want to do in life in the face of this? 😭

#PDA #PathologicalDemandAvoidance #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD @actuallyautistic

I give a lot of 1:1 support/guidance to neurodivergent folk online, and I'm always thinking "man, other people would probably find this info handy" but never get around to doing a post. So here's the first in a series of Q&As based on those conversations:

Q: What do you do when you feel stuck or in a rut? Doing new or unusual things helps a bit, but not much.

A: I guess my first thought is to examine why the rut happened in the first place. Try and see what needs aren't being met, or what might be overloading you to the point where it's a big ask to go outside your comfort zone. And then, rather than just pushing yourself to be more active or shake things up, try and first address why you're finding it hard to do that in the first place. Window of Tolerance resources can be really helpful here.

When you feel like you're back in a position where things are less overwhelming, that's when you can start to gently reintroduce novelty and go outside your comfort zone. But right now, that stuck feeling is telling you something. The best thing you can do is stop and listen. 🧡

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My whole life, my particular flavour of neurodivergence has meant I've struggled to complete long term projects or stick with--well, just about anything. It's a huge source of grief knowing that I have the potential to do so many things, but have never been able to get it together long enough to do something big enough to really make a difference.

But it occurs to me that while I've never managed to do a big thing that helps, over the years, I have done lots of little things that helped. And maybe that's enough. After all, little things add up. If life is like decorating a cake, then maybe I'll never be a thick chocolate ganache--but there's just as much value in being sprinkles.

:ir:

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Hot take. As an #afab and (possibly because I'm #PDA #RSD #AuDHD with loads of C-PTSD), I'm really tired of feeling like I am or have been responsible for men's penises a majority of my life.
I feel like burning bras or something.

@Fo
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Yes, oh, yes. Although I suspect a lot of that stuckness is more #PDA #OCD and #ADHD than the #autism. It's honestly the most disabling aspect of my neurotype. I have so, so many things I want to do--not even just should do, want to do--and I can't do them. It brings me so much grief.

Nobody's perfect. It's always easier said than done. But if you want to practice self-care, and you want to have more peaceful and enjoyable days and nights, then tips like these will take you a long way. Your goal is progress, not perfection. You can do it. Peace. (PMM)♧
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How it feels when #ExecutiveDysfunction, #DemandAvoidance and #OCD get together for a party: just that terrible stuckness of wanting to do things but feeling totally unable, and you don't even know why, just that when you try your brain says NO...

and then becoming riddled with guilt that you're not doing anything, which of course makes it even *harder* to do things, and leads to even more anxiety that you're not doing things, over and over in a cycle, until you're totally paralyzed and can't do anything you wanted, or anything else either, and the stress has pushed you into shutdown so you're dissociating and struggling to speak...

so you give up and go to sleep because being awake with all this going on is overwhelming

and your brain yells at you that you're lazy the whole way there 🫤

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