Christina Ricci Seems to Address Danny Masterson Support Letters #2023_09_10 #vulture #jennifer_zhan #christina_ricci #danny_masterson #danny_masterson_trial #news #abusers #celebrity #statements

>> http://www.vulture.com/2023/09/christina-ricci-danny-masterson-support-letters-ashton-kutcher-mila-kunis.html?utm_source=flipboard.com&utm_medium=social_acct&utm_campaign=feed-part

Also, the #people who fight the hardest against rights & protections for #women are always the actual #abusers in #society.

They are the same people. #MAGA #✝️

#karma #abusers #NDIS
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-08-02/universal-medicine-clinic-ndis-funds-730/102576660?utm_source=sfmc&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=abc_news_newsmail_pm_sfmc&utm_term=&utm_id=2174516&sfmc_id=223395461

“[…] so it all came spilling out and Louis CK’s movie, which had already been shot, was permanently shelved, and all the work he had done was tossed, and so was the work of hundreds of other people, and I noticed that for many, the loss of all this value was framed as something that was being done *to* Louis CK rather than something that Louis CK had done to everyone else.”

#ARMoxon #Abusers #BillCosby #LouisCK #LOST

https://armoxon.substack.com/p/what-is-lost

It’s not “see how they love one another” in American Christianity; it’s see how they smear anybody who hates abuse. #Groomers #Abusers #NoMoreLies
Dear Christians Podcast is right. 🕊️

To all the #people who #vote for Trump, #work for Trump, #simp for Trump, or shred all your values/integrity/morals to #support Trump, this is not a #hoax or witch #hunt.

You are on the side of #criminals, #traitors, #abusers, and #domestic #terror.

Video Reveals #conservative commentator and so-called #Christian ‘alpha’ Steven Crowder Emotionally Abusing Wife. In Statement, Hilary Crowder's Family Says She Hid His Emotionally Abusive Behavior For Years #hypocracy #religion #conservativechristians #conservatives #fundamentalists #toxicmasculinity #ToxicConservativism #abuse #abusers
https://yashar.substack.com/p/exclusive-video-reveals-steven-crowder

Why do #women stay with their #abusers?

There’s often speculation — much of it harmful — about why women “stay” in abusive relationships. But one simple reason is consistently overlooked: They can’t afford to leave

It is a pattern of coercion that can include emotional abuse, sexual assault, and efforts to isolate and control a partner not only socially but also financially. In countless testimonies, survivors tell of being financially trapped in abusive relationships.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/04/24/domestic-abuse-money-women/

@Tilopa so, you would have gone up to the Gestapo in Nazi Germany and said "Good Job" & tio Your Cap?
You think people that take on #sexism, #Racism, #Bigotry & #DomesticTerrorists are Wrong, Thorpa?
By #enabling #Abusers, Thorpa....
You condone #Abuse

“They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.” #Republicans #Evangelicals #Abusers 🕊️

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2023&version=NIV

“They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.” #Republicans #Evangelicals #Abusers 🕊️
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2023&version=NIV

Asked for evidence from the pro-#narcissist crowd. A link, a source, anything. At this point, I'd even have taken a blog post as evidence.

One woman whose voice I actually enjoyed quote-retweets me to explain that "maybe I should listen to #NPD people instead of believing experts."

Well I have. For forty years, I've had to deal with #narcissistic #abuse. At this point, people with NPD are fucking terrifying to me.

She explains that maybe #narcissists would give me a source if I didn't come off as confrontational and rude.

OK? So I should just take the abuse then? Like, do you not realize that this is literally how I became trapped in not one but two #relationships with narcissists who chipped at my psyche until I had to rebuild my identity from scratch during intensive #therapy?

Nah. I'm not doing that. If not even one narcissist is capable of being #empathic to a #survivor of narcissistic abuse, then what the fuck are they even arguing? That we should be nice to #abusers? That's Megan #Phelps shit right there. #Entitled, narcissistic #behavior. Those of us who've #survived it see it for what it is.

And we don't have any reason to #tolerate it. In fact, we have every reason to cut a person off who behaves that way.

Every extraordinary claim requires extraordinary evidence. In its absence, at least have the #humility to recognize the #harm that your #disorder does to the people around you and talk to survivors who are justifiably terrified of you like they're people who deserve at least as much #empathy as you're asking for.

And if you can't do that, then you kind of proved how #dangerous you are, didn't you?

I think you did. It's why I'll block you.

#psychology #neverAgain

I came across another #narcissism-is-a-#neurotype person on #Twitter today.

Again, I asked for more information about where they got their beliefs. They tell me I'm wrong for literally quoting the psychological research on #narcissists. When I ask them for a source, any source, to defend their extraordinary claim, all they have to give me are insults and their rage.

And today, as I blocked another #abusive defender of narcissism, I re-read through the symptoms, and a thought occurred to me: if all the defenders of narcissism turn aggressive the moment you don't accept their beliefs as fact without evidence, could they be #narcissistic?

I know two of the people who've attempted to convince me (not with facts, just by shouting "#ableist" over and over) were definitely diagnosed with #NPD.

The more this happens, the more convinced I become of this, and the more opposed to the idea of narcissism-as-a-neurotype I become. Particularly because this is exactly the sort of #gaslighting bullshit my narcissistic #abusers have offered me.

At this point, it's literally #triggering my #trauma to hear these people out, which only seems to welcome abuse, and I'm concerned that I may be wrong but that I'll no longer be able to hear the data when it's finally (one day perhaps) offered because I'm afraid of the #abuse I'll get.

And that, knowing that the feeling that I may be wrong and bad for believing my own experiences as a #survivor of abuse is affecting me in such a negative way, makes me very mad at anyone who tries to stand up for people with NPD.

I have to put myself before narcissists. Especially because I know my tendency is to go at far as to hurt myself to avoid hurting others, even the worst behaved others.

I hate that.

But I really don't see another option. 😿

#physiology #PTSD

Just because someone has changed doesn't mean they've grown.

An example.

Once, not as long ago as she wants you to believe, Megan #Phelps lived in and worked hard for a cult—the obsessively monstrous #Westboro Baptist Church—where she gleefully shouted anti-gay and anti-Semitic slurs, harming countless of innocent people. Her work contributed to the suicides of unknown numbers of #LGBTQIA+ youth, ultimately leading to the creation of the It Gets Better Campaign to counter their disgusting messages.

Then she had her #redemption arc, about which she wrote a book and was invited to speak at TED.

Now, rather than shill for a genocidal cult, she engages in apologetics for her past behavior, refusing to talk about the harm she's done (and even refusing to believe that she actually did any harm because she was a bad evangelist and couldn't have possibly convinced anyone that she was right), and refusing to take any #accountability for it.

She spends her time lamenting the polarization of the United States population, believing that if we—and by we she means LGBTQIA+ people—are really kind and patient with our #abusers, the #bigots in our lives who do us the most harm, then we can learn from them and find common ground. This was her reason for creating The Witch Trials of J.K. #Rowling, which you may recognize as having a name that paints her, the anti-#trans #bigot, as a victim of trans #activist hate and "cancellation." #Cancellation which J.K. Rowling has literally stated has only made her more money.

So, lots of #change.

Zero #growth.

She's the same selfish person she was then. Except now she leaves God out of the picture, argued on behalf of Donald #Trump's ability to speak his beliefs freely on social media, and offered J.K. Rowling a platform and free PR work by rewriting history multiple times in her shitty little podcast. In her memoir, she uses slurs a lot, but it's cool because she's only talking about her past, not her present. A past that she later describes as having been "fun."

You see, she's the main character of the universe, and so she can only see the world from her perspective—the perspective of a "reformed" bigot. She has no idea what it's like to be the object of that #bigotry and what it does to you. She has no #empathy for the lives she destroyed because she's "changed now." She's "moved on." She hasn't made amends, and she still has criticisms for the LGBTQIA+ community about how we talk to our most privileged attackers. We have to be nicer to them, you see, because that's how she changed.

So much change. So little growth.

Growth means taking #responsibility for your behavior. In the absence of that, any #forgiveness or empathy offered to a bigot only welcomes more #abuse.

We're done doing that.

Bigots' lives objectively do not matter more than the lives of their victims. Bigotry isn't caused by marginalized people, and it's bigots that have to make an effort to change and to grow. Any effort that we make to reach out to them is supererogatory, and they should be fucking grateful that we took that time out of living our best lives to engage with a basilisk in human skin and breathe in their poison in order to tame it.

People who don't want to change won't. People who don't want to grow won't. No matter how much help you offer them, how much empathy, how much compassion, and how much patience, these people will not alter who they've become unless they want to.

And it seems that Megan Phelps has finished changing now. She's found a new sort of #zealotry to attach herself to, a pro-bigot anti-trans cause to fight. And even though she's changed what she believed, her inability to look beyond her own prejudices continue to prevent her from challenging how she thinks about issues and not merely what she thinks.

Change. No growth.

That's very sad, but it's also very common. The stories of "reformed" bigots are few. They're nice, yeah. But usually, these folks' minds are changed by marginalized saints, and most of us are not that. We're human, and when we hurt, we say "ow." But that ow makes people like Megan Phelps feel bad.

I guess it's up to you whether you feel like silencing that ow is worth it to protect the feelings of "reformed" bigots. Me?

I'm gonna shout it louder.

#transphobia #apologetics #homophobia #socialJustice

91% of #child #sexual #abusers known and trusted by the child or family members

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childsexualabuse/fastfact.html

Anyone who could support Trump even after J6, does not deserve to be called an American. #Traitors #Abusers #Liars 🇺🇸

https://www.propublica.org/article/parental-alienation-utah-livestream-siblings

This article is really important, kids need to be protected from #abusers in their families, but they are most likely to be #gaslighted by professionals with claims that their experiences are #falsememories. To #ProtectKids means to #SmashThePatriarchy. There is no other way to stop this kind of abuse.

#Empathy, man.

I get it. People in pain can act without thinking, but that's exactly the process #abusers go through: they have pain, they act without thinking.

An apology is great, but I can't trust that an #apology will prevent you from hurting me "unintentionally" a second time.

Don't tell anyone that your pain is worse than theirs. It never is. "Someone who dies in 7 feet of water is just as dead as someone who dies in 20 feet of water." (1/2)

Why is it possible to pass antisemitism legislation, anti Asian hate legislation, protections for the lgbtq community and other populations, but NOTHING EVER for anti-Black racism? Obviously we are the most targeted and marginalized. #dnc is the biggest hypocrisy in the history of the U.S. #liars #manipulators #abusers #46admin is not only committing #ethniccleansing but operating a #holocaust @icij @AP @hrw @un #unwomen #Liberty for whom?

Deep down inside the landlord and my roommate are people deserving of love and respect. They are human beings who once wanted all the things that everyone else had, except something stopped them from becoming n empathetic human being. Trauma, childhood abuse, poverty they all played a role in who they ended up becoming, cruel, manipulative and abusive. #abusers #narcissistic #childhoodabuse