For a long time I thought I was heteromantic but after doing some research I think that I am demiromantic.

With this information I hope it will help me make more informed choices and let me live a happy life.

I could probably do with some help and advice though as this is very new to me. Any support is appreciated ♡

#demiromantic #acespectrum

OMG! Someone on Tumbler gave my urban fantasy romance, Leaving the Shadows, a shoutout for demisexual representation!
@bookstodon #Demisexual #aceSpectrum #ace #urbanfantasy #paranormalromance #Bookstodon #ShifterRomance #aspec

OMG! Someone on Tumbler gave my urban fantasy romance, Leaving the Shadows, a shoutout for demisexual representation!
@bookstodon #Demisexual #aceSpectrum #ace #urbanfantasy #paranormalromance #Bookstodon #ShifterRomance #aspec

I've always really struggled with compliments, it wasn't a thing growing up so I've had to try to learn as an adult - that taking up space in ppl's lives to say something positive is good actually.

But I am completely unable to express any kind of attraction to ppl, especially after realising I was #ace.

It's like a 50/50 fear - fear ppl will think I'm disgusting for thinking they're attractive and fear ppl will react positively to it and think it means I want to have sex with them.

I am incapable of hurting ppl's feelings. Most of my #relationships in my life have been with ppl I was not into but felt too bad to let them down (I have learned this is selfish and bad and do not do it anymore)

The idea someone might think I'm hitting on them and then have to go, yes I think you're pretty, but no I don't want to have sex with you seems absolutely mortifying.

So I just don't vocalise any interest, ever
#AceProblems

#asexual #aceSpectrum #neurodivergent

If you need to explain the asexual spectrum to someone, maybe read this.
"Asexuality, explained through cake", by Elyette Levy:

https://thelinknewspaper.ca/article/asexuality-explained-through-cake

#asexual
#ace
#asexuality
#acespectrum