@Claire Hello and welcome! I've found mastodon to be lovely, and especially as a late-comer to #adhd #ActuallyAutisic #AuDHD it's been foundational to understanding myself and my past better.

Every couple of days I have a random and unexpected "holy fucktwigglets I'm autistic!" moment. #actuallyautisic #autistic

@chin @actuallyautistic

I don’t know of a paper or article off the top of my head but I bet someone else on this thread can find one… It’s a common enough talking point in the #ActuallyAutisic community and my personal experience and conversations back it

(ftr i really appreciate you taking the time to question the assumption that autistics have low empathy/perspective and I’m not at all bothered that you expressed it - good allying 👍 😌)

I need to shower; This is not my shower.

I don't have my meds, and haven't had them for 2 days. I'm on empty.

So idk. I really don't know.

#actuallyautisic

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics @autisticadvocacy

entryways like airlocks:

instead of everyone barging into the house and starting to talk while they’re still standing around and putting their jackets in a pile on the chair or table or couch and more guests are still clustered clucking at the doorway, all talking over and physically blocking each other

my ideal autistic house needs some sort of medium-sized mudroom/cloakroom with clear affordances (hooks, benches, mats)

so each visitor/resident can come in, remove their coats and shoes, come further in, sit or step aside, and only then commence the (still too loud! but now manageable) chaotic greeting ritual

#accessibility #a11y #actuallyautisic

👆But it made me think about what I'm not doing with myself. I'm 40yo and I've developed a very strong mask. I really don't know how I am without it, how I am autistically. And that is so exhausting... I guess that's what I've been going through these past weeks, and now as well. I feel like I need to cry like my student did, I need to be accepted as I am, but I don't know who I am at all.

Do I make any sense at all?

#actuallyautisic

Nobody is worth stressing out over, especially some NT or general asshole who's dedicated to misunderstanding you.

Delete, unfollow, and block to keep your own sanity intact. RSD doesn't mean you keep subjecting yourself to painful shocks. It means sometimes you do have to count your losses. Not everyone is worth debating, either. #BlackandAutistic #actuallyautisic

Real question: for fellow #actuallyautisic folks raised as girls/women, what temperature do you like your showers?

There is a stereotype that women like super hot showers.

I cannot stand a hot shower, I need my showers to be exactly warm, not too cold not too hot. I have spent way too much time while a guest somewhere trying to figure out how to get other people's faucets to not be too hot or too cold.

I mean yes I'm also non-binary and ADHD, but I feel like those aren't the main reasons for this. (Not diagnosed until adult, self diagnosed aut)

It's another one of those days when I like that we host big community events but I hate our acoustics. #saturdaylibrarian #actuallyautisic

It's another one of those days when I like that we host big community events but I hate our acoustics. #saturdaylibrarian #actuallyautisic

I just referred to my post-shower skin and hair routine as "body maintenance" and this perfectly sums up my relationship with my body that I sometimes feel disconnected from and things surrounding it can feel like a chore.
Wonder if it's an #actuallyautisic thing cos I feel the same way about my brain..

Self‐reported cognitive decline among middle and older age autistic adults https://discovery.researcher.life/article/self-reported-cognitive-decline-among-middle-and-older-age-autistic-adults/b05ff04ee883362dab2ace60d7b0a770
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#BlerdTime #actuallyautisic #autism #neurodivergent #neurodivergence

@actuallyautistic

@Chromino let’s see…
#ttrpg
#writing
#scifi
#gamedev
#videogames
#anime (not as much recently, but I still like it)
#actuallyautisic
#lgbt
#programmer

And of course a lot of #shitposts most likely

#IntroductoryPost Wow! Here I am unmasking since May last year. Discovering my true self at 61 years young. Doing lots of work. It feels like a ride down a river on a rickety raft. Mostly good feelings. Oooh some little rapids coming up. Hurrah! #actuallyautisic

@frank @vlrny Being a lefty has always felt the same to me as when I found out at 40 something I am #actuallyautisic, and again at 58 finding out that I'm #neuroqueer

Has anyone told their employer they have #autism without a formal #diagnosis?

#actuallyautisic

IRL before #actuallyautisic

Me: I think I'm on the spectrum

Response: everybody is on the spectrum

Me: Nevermind.

I'm so glad to have found the tools to self-diagnose online. Probably the first time the internet has *improved* my mental health.

Also glad that organizations like https://www.autismbc.ca recognize self-diagnoses.

If only I could make people IRL understand.

I've gotten so good at masking - for as long as I can remember - that I'm sure no one will believe me without a formal diagnosis.

Sinking into my #alexithymia again. New year, new inability to express the overwhelm. Imagined scenes from a movie about loss and emptiness. 🥀 made using #midjourney
#actuallyautisic

Peregrine falcon on the roof of my #yyj building this morning.

#birds #birdwatching #PeregrineFalcon #actuallyautisic

@emilyladau
I like it but I am still bumbling around. There again I was always bumbling around on Twitter too. Its SOCIAL media so I guess that is not surprising. I'm bumbling around at best in social settings.
#ActuallyAutisic