Just got absolutely destroyed by opening a book and finding a letter my Dad wrote shortly after the family suddenly found out about my Grandpa Bert’s dementia, when my Grandmother died in 1997.

She’d been covering for Grandpa Bert for a long time.

The letter very sensibly says Dad doesn’t want to leave us in that sort of mess, and sets out some funeral instructions.

Which are almost what he asked for when I spent most of a week helping Mum and Dad write their Advanced Care Plans in 2019. Except he’d forgotten the songs he loved and asked for in the 1997 letter.

Now Dad has dementia, and my heart is broken. The hardest sentence was “I could just get old and change from being difficult to manage to impossible.”

Oh, Dad.

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