Until an hour ago I could have said something like "Rape is not sex, just like a beating is not dancing."

But now I've read what #AngelaChen has to say about it in #Ace.
"Rape is not sex" implies that sex is not violent or wrong, but it can be both.
Rape and sex are a spectrum.

No means no, but yes can mean any number of things:
* oh my god, yes please!
* yes, because it's you asking
* okay, let's get this over with, so you will shut up about it
or even:
* yes, because I'm afraid to say no.

#sex #rape #consent #asexuality #sexuality

I made a lot of progress with my depression these past weeks and am finally motivated to read and write again.
I've started writing an #AutoBiography a long time ago, to cope with what I've been through, but also to release it one day.

I'd love to let other people contribute chapters to my book. Essays on various topics that come up in my story.

So now I'm asking you all, if there is anyone who could think of writing such an essay for me, because you are affected by the topic yourself, or are an expert in the field.
Or if you know someone, who would be perfect for that topic.

Here are a few of the topics:
#depression
#GenderIdentity
#asexuality
#SurveillanceCapitalism
#Fediverse ( @ueckueck, you said you might write that one, still interested?)
#SocialPhobia
#WTFromance
#SelfHarm
#suicidality

There are other topics as well, but I already have people in mind who I'll directly ask to write essays about them; especially topics around #ClimateJustice.

The essays should be at least 2-5 pages long and provide a general gist about the topic, but ideally also contain something personal, like what the topic means to you.
Written in #English or #German.

Preliminary deadline is summer '24, but a lot can change until then and if you need longer, don't worry.

Please :boost: #boost. Thanks. ❤️
#author #book #writing #essay #FollowerPower

Meine erste (und bisher einzige) #Beziehung ist zu meiner großen Freude Ace-Ace.
Hat jemand aus der #Asexuality -Bubble hier Erfahrungsberichte über Ace-Allo-Beziehungen die er/sie teilen möchte?
Hab mich schon immer gefragt ob und wie sowas klappt.
#Ace #Asexualität #Asexuell

#Asexuality Is So Much More Than “Not Having #Sex”
https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/asexuality-joy-of-not-having-sex?amp;utm_medium=rss
https://www.penguin.com.au/books/ace-9780807014738
https://www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hi fellow aces! #asexual #asexuality #ace

There's a new dating/socializing website for people on the ace spectrum over at https://acespace.love/

It's only been around a few weeks, but it seems like a very pleasant place to hang out with people who understand you and...may also be interested in dating/queerplatonic partnerships/romance/whatever. Come join us!

"What does it mean to be a man in the 21st century?" That's the starting point for a fascinating musical (#Asexuality) and a fascinating #EdinburghFringe #Podcast chat with #RebeccaMcGlynn on the show and her life.

https://thepodcastcorner.com/2023/08/18/the-edinburgh-fringe-show-2023-rebecca-mcglynn-asexuality/

#trans #ace #musical #interview #edfringe

A journey begins with a single step, and some are far harder than others. If you could walk up a rainbow, those first few steps would most definitely be hardest. With such steep sides and few handholds, you’d need a helping hand.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-found-an-unexpected-rainbow-as-i-climbed-another-my-asexual-journey-7a51b5fad187?sk=fd7ddfd38a8c546c7266ada5eebd6ad4

#LGBTQ #Asexuality #Rainbow #Friendship #SelfKnowledge

Autostraddle: The Subtle Aroace Gaze of “Heartstopper” Season Two https://www.autostraddle.com/the-subtle-aroace-gaze-of-heartstopper-season-two/ #Dykes #LGBT #LGBTQ #Trans #Lesbian #2SLGBTQ #Podcast #asexuality #TVFeature

Lately, I've noticed an uptick in videos on #asexuality suggested to me on YouTube, and 1. Scary! Why does the algorithm know me that well? But also 2. Thanks for the new content!

It knows me so well because I click on those links because I'm #Asexual! And I'm always searching for validation. So far, the best has been #Loveless by Alice Oseman. #book But there's also "Let's talk about Love" and "Rick."

I’m sure lots of us have experienced the many times we have been asked questions about our sexuality or identity, often quite weird or absurd questions.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/questions-ive-been-asked-as-an-asexual-person-648f176931d6?sk=64f2e4f0db33c9c84647a9efd2a4776c

#LGBTQ #Asexuality #Transgender #Politics #Culture

Isaac has no interest in sex or relationships. Isaac is annoyed by his friends’ interest in his possible crush when they seem to show no interest in other parts of his life.Isaac wonders if there is something wrong with him.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-relate-to-heartstoppers-asexual-isaac-d9b17069ac78?sk=3af0d3d0baca97f2f04e6d6468225a24

#LGBTQ #Asexual #Asexuality #Heartstopper #Representation

Le relazioni di cura sono ciò che decidiamo noi - Carrodibuoi
https://www.carrodibuoi.it/2023/08/09/le-relazioni-di-cura-sono-cio-che-decidiamo-noi/

Taken from the English article "Asexual Intimacy: Partnered Aces Share Their Experiences with Non-Sexual Intimacy" by Yasmin Benoit

https://getcheex.com/asexual-intimacy-partnered-aces-share-their-experiences-with-non-sexual-intimacy/

#ace #asexuality #asessualità

I spent the last two days tabling at pride events for out local ace and aro group. I brought along a bunch of zines with me to hand out. Thought I'd share them here as well

Aromanticism 101: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12fQ0QbVog3v404pKWdp_EM2IxyRKD1U2/view
Taking the Cake: - An Illustrated Primer on Asexuality: https://acezinearchive.files.wordpress.com/2015/01/taking_the_cake_-_double_sided_printing_fixed.pdf
an aromantic manifesto: https://ipfs.io/ipfs/QmfNtb5aSx8kCgTsc3uv4dJJAeWvMvk19GfdefiAHbYqFc
Brown and Gray - An Asexual People of Colour Zine: https://www.mediafire.com/?qps6z2j1m694isp
Challenging Amatonormativity - A Beginner's Guide: https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/04/29/challenging-amatonormativity-a-beginners-guide/
Challenging Amatonormativity - Digging Deeper: https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/11/17/challenging-amatonormativity-digging-deeper/
I also highly recommend the site https://acezinearchive.wordpress.com/old-archive/ which has most of these zines and tons more related to asexuality and aromanticism

#asexuality #aromanticism #asexual #aromantic

Pink News: Heartstopper’s Isaac pushes the envelope for asexual representation, and it’s about time https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/08/05/heartstopper-season-2-isaac-asexual-aromantic-storyline/ #LGBT #LGBTQ #Trans #Lesbian #2SLGBTQ #Heartstopper #TobieDonovan #Asexuality #Culture #Opinion #TV

"Du bist nicht asexuell, du suchst nur wen zum Rummachen".

1) du entscheidest nicht wer sich asexuell nennen darf und wer nicht.
2) sofern du keine Gedanken lesen kannst, kannst du gar nicht wissen was ich suche
3) dass jemanden Küssen für dich schon rummachen ist das ist strange.

#Asexualität #Asexuality #Facebook

The history of asexuality | learn more about asexuality on asexuals.net

https://www.asexuals.net/the-history-of-asexuality/ #asexuality #asexualhistory #AsexualityAwareness

An interesting discussion on an interesting paper about pathologization of asexuality
"Why is absent/low sexual desire a mental disorder"
#ace #asexuality #pathologization #HSDD #FSIAD
https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2023/05/24/journal-club-why-is-absent-low-sexual-desire-a-mental-disorder/

Today's outfit is pink beach shorts with little frogs on them and a smoky Darth Vader crop top. And cat hair all over, ofc.

#serving #lewks #autism and #asexuality #notasinglegenderinsight

I identify myself as aegosexual / aromantic.

I also have a *strong* libido, at times. Elk in rut sort of moments.

Aegosexuality means that I don't picture myself in sexual situations, or fantasise about (or seek) actual sex with people. Instead, I project my libido externally. If I'm talking dirty with you, I'm projecting through one of my characters, more likely than not.

Took me a long time to work out that #asexuality and #libido aren't mutually exclusive.

I now feel obligated to make the obvious joke about Twitter slipping and falling off the Kinsey scale.

(For the non-ace people around: X was used in the Kinsey Reports to indicate asexuality.)

#asexuality #twitter