I was chatting with a fellow #kinkster last night. It’s been a while since someone stopped and acknowledged the things I share and how they flag my #submissive energy and #service #slavery. In part I was referring to those thinking my age and hairiness suggest I’m a #dominant/ #top #daddy. No. No. Not really.
My #energy is #boy #bottom submissive. My #demeanor belies my confidence and my #AuDHD can make it seem I’m being more #assertive than I often feel. And yes I get how this might all be confusing.
The fun part is he finds this even more hot, because others observing would be very confused. #Mindfuck. I get that. But it does make talking to guys harder. No really I’m a bottom who wants it #rough, no my own #orgasm isn’t the point. I don’t often enjoy #reciprocation. I’m serving and being used. Yes it’s entirely #consensual and #pleasurable. #Canes are awesome! Sure I’ll lick your #feet and #boots.
FWIW I am a #dad. I am NOT a daddy. 🤪
#kinkster #submissive #service #slavery #dominant #top #daddy #energy #boy #bottom #demeanor #AuDHD #assertive #mindfuck #rough #orgasm #reciprocation #consensual #pleasurable #canes #feet #boots #dad #bdsm #masochist #slut #painpig #cumpig
Pangaea Reveals First Album in Seven Years #2023_07_04 #xlr8r #xlr8r_staff #news #album #assertive #ben_ufo #complete #grooving #hadal
>> https://xlr8r.com/news/pangaea-reveals-first-album-in-seven-years/
#2023_07_04 #xlr8r #xlr8r_staff #news #album #assertive #ben_ufo #complete #grooving #hadal
I cant comment on the passage from the quran - i dont know enough and am not of that faith, but worth a read
""Young women fear that they will be outed as the next Karen should their assertions come across either excessively shrill or firm. It seems this radically corrective era of newfound opportunities for expression and empowerment comes with the terrible threat of social marginalization through self-advocacy.""
https://dustandtribe.com/2022/01/03/the-hidden-misogyny-of-karen/
#misogyny #sexism #karen #assertive #gender
… But if you attempt #confrontation, please avoid being accusatory: instead calmly explain how the behaviour makes you feel.
When dealing with a passive-aggressive person, hold them accountable for their bad behaviour. Stop apologizing if you’ve done nothing wrong. Try putting your needs (not wants) first.
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#howTo #conflict 👊🏼#assertive 🌧️#selfCare 🫡#selfHelp #practice #people #disappoint #relationships #support #kindness #concern #mentalHealth ☕#personalSafety 👪#communitySafety #safety
#confrontation #howto #Conflict #assertive #selfcare #selfhelp #practice #people #disappoint #relationships #support #kindness #concern #mentalhealth #personalsafety #communitysafety #safety
I just published "Constructive assertiveness" – tips on communicating your way out of a #conflict by being #assertive, not #aggressive. https://link.medium.com/ZCpVvZttsxb
#conflict #assertive #aggressive
Dr. Stan #Tatkin: “The purpose of a relationship is fundamentally grounded in safety and security: not love, not attraction, not romance. If you’re not providing that need to ensure each other’s sense of #safety and #security, it defies the whole psychobiological purpose of being with another person.”
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#quotes 🫡#assertive #positive #self #selfStudy #learning ❤️#learn 🌱#joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern
#tatkin #safety #security #quotes #assertive #positive #self #SelfStudy #learning #learn #joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern
"He who jumps into the void owes no explanation to those who stand and watch." — Jean-Luc Godard — — — #JeanLucGodard #quote #quotes #courage #action #inaction #assertive #proactive #passive #brave #fearful
#jeanlucgodard #quote #quotes #courage #action #inaction #assertive #proactive #passive #brave #fearful
Boundaries, Assertiveness, And The Right To Say “no”
WHAT TO EXPECT IN THIS EPISODE:
1. In #Recovery you need to have boundaries, assertiveness, and use your right to say “NO”
2. People that can’t handle #boundaries, are going to leave your life relatively quickly
3. How to be a little more #authentic and #assertive
4. What happens when you start to draw boundaries
#recovery #boundaries #authentic #assertive #model #integrity #yeshaia #blakeney
#Eingleði: a popular Icelandic concept denoting "the joy of being single" - a portmanteau of the Icelandic words 'Einn' (one, #single, or alone) and 'Gleði' (#joy).
Q: 'Are you going on any dates at the moment?'
A: 'No, I'm in my Eingleði era'
from https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Eingle%C3%B0i #wordsMatter #assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive
#eingledi #single #joy #wordsmatter #assertive #selfcare #positive
The social norm is constructed: not naturally occurring but created by the society in which it is found.
Hence there are no actions which in themselves are inherently #abnormal or universally condemned by all societies at all times. #Deviance is thus situational and contextual.
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#assertive #selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #bias #reputation #norm #conformation #normal #mentalHealth #sexuality #pervert #madness #morals
#abnormal #deviance #assertive #selfcare #positive #self #selfstudy #bias #reputation #norm #conformation #normal #mentalhealth #sexuality #pervert #madness #morals
"We are born with our identity, we don’t have to chase it, try to find it, try to figure it out after we’ve done all the other things as if we need enough experience points before we can level up to having an #identity other people will respect." https://pattykrawec.substack.com/p/maslows-hierarchy-is-bullshit by patty #krawec
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#Maslow #identityPolitics #assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice #learning ❤️#learn 🌱#joy #empathy #protection #kindness
#identity #krawec #maslow #identitypolitics #assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice #learning #learn #joy #empathy #protection #kindness
Naming pause. #Words are political:
- Transitive. "Development" is commonly used as in: "a tract of land is being developed". We will systematically avoid subjugation: turning things into in objects or development projects.
- Intransitive. We will try to not exploit but instead evolve. Like in: a blossom develops from a bud.
Don't use yourself. #personalDevelopment. #wordsMatter #assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice
#words #personaldevelopment #wordsmatter #assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice
Naming pause. #Words are political:
- Transitive. "Development" is commonly used as in: "a tract of land is being developed". We will systematically avoid subjugation: turning things into in objects or development projects.
- Intransitive. We will try to not exploit but instead evolve. Like in: a blossom develops from a bud.
Don't use yourself. #personalDevelopment. #wordsMatter #assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice
#words #personaldevelopment #wordsmatter #assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice
My team at work all took the #MeyersBriggs #personality test a couple weeks ago. I've done this several times over the past 20 years and I always get the same results.
My personality type is Advocate (INFJ-A)
Traits:
#Introverted – 94%
#Intuitive – 90%
#Feeling – 66%
#Judging – 58%
#Assertive – 53%
I'm super introverted and intuitive. Apparently INFJ is the rarest of the 16 types, with only 2% of people with that type.
You can find the test here: https://www.16personalities.com/
#psychology #Jung
#meyersbriggs #personality #introverted #intuitive #feeling #judging #assertive #psychology #jung
Talk to yourself like someone you love. ~ Casandra Brené Brown https://brenebrown.com
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#assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice 🌱#joy
#assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice #joy
Talk to yourself like someone you love. ~ Casandra Brené Brown https://brenebrown.com
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#assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice 🌱#joy
#assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice #joy
"No matter what you do, there will always be someone to find fault with. Do what you love or what you think is right to do, and you will be happy!" Frédéric Lenoir
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#assertive 🫡#selfCare #positive #self #selfStudy #practice #learning ❤️#learn 🌱#joy #mentalHealth
#assertive #selfcare #positive #self #SelfStudy #practice #learning #learn #joy #mentalhealth
When your #friends are #shy about sharing their #opinions
#outriders #streamer #videogame #assertive
http://tiktok.com/@chunkmcbeefchest/video/7173143719787515137
#assertive #videogame #streamer #outriders #opinions #shy #friends
When your #friends are #shy about sharing their #opinions
#outriders #streamer #videogame #assertive
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#assertive #videogame #streamer #outriders #opinions #shy #friends
When your #friends are #shy about sharing their #opinions
#outriders #streamer #videogame #assertive
https://www.tiktok.com/@chunkmcbeefchest/video/7173143719787515137?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7145329211627374081
#assertive #videogame #streamer #outriders #opinions #shy #friends