@Rajumisra I'm not sure that I understand your point.

I think that what I'm just trying to say is: I know that a lot of #trans folk have #traumatic responses to the use of their #BirthName.

I hope that my perspective might help someone else who isn't comfortable with the name/sex/gender assigned to them at birth.

Using different words, like #GovernmentName instead of #DeadName , helps me look at it in a different way.

#PersonalOpinion

I ask people to refer to me by a #GenderNeutral nickname, but I'm not bothered (much) when I have to use my #BirthName

I don't love it (yes, it used to bother me), but #ItIsWhatItIs to me now.

I think of it as my #GovernmentName instead of as a #DeadName. Even if I later change it, I feel like it will always be a part of my story. That's important to me too.

And frankly, if I was too lazy to legally change it when I got married then I'm *always* gonna be too lazy to do so.