#NarcissistDictionary" "You're an emotionless robot!"
Of course, you're not really an emotionless robot. If a #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner or ex has ever accused you of being a robot it likely means that:
a) You’ve stopped telling the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD your
thoughts and feelings, because they weaponize them against you.
b) You’ve emotionally
detached and walk away from their #ClusterB threats, tantrums, rages, name-calling and victim playing.
c) You're freezing as a defense mechanism (i.e., fight, flight, freeze or fawn).
Relationships with #narcissists, #histrionics and #borderlines eventually devolve into an endless series of no-win situations, which can instill learned helplessness then despair.
You have emotions, but you've stopped sharing them because it isn't safe. Detachment is healthy in the face of repetitive, relentless pointless conflict. The healthiest choice would be to end the relationship and have friendships with people who don't mistreat and abuse you.
Ideally, detachment and disengagement is a temporary coping strategy while planning your exit. Long-term it's no way to live.
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#Narcissists, #borderlines, #histrionics and the rest of the #ClusterB variety pack can be quite the historical revisionists. Yes, they're #PathologicalLiars in matters consequential and inconsequential. When they rewrite history, however, they almost uniformly transform themselves into innocent, rosy-smelling victims and portray their actual victims as villains.
Typically, they do this via a combination of #gaslighting, #projection, #DARVO, blatant lies, half-truths, distortions and reality TV quality acting. Even when the facts eventually come to light, they shamelessly deny, lie, cry, tantrum and obfuscate with #WordSalad.
While I understand this phenomenon in terms of their characterological pathology, I never cease to be amazed by their refusal to take #accountability especially once they’re fully exposed.
You've got video, audio or emails that prove the #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner’s or ex's lies and abuses? Spplffft! It doesn’t matter as far as the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD is concerned. They just tell more lies and play victim harder.
What they said or did last week, yesterday or two minutes ago is meaningless. They shake their Magic Victim 8 Ball and poof! It's time for freshly excreted self-serving lies.
They cry, pitch a tantrum, rage, pout and blithely ignore being fact-checked. They brazenly insist on their newest lies, distortions and false narratives and continue to deny, lie, gaslight and contradict themselves and anyone willing to listen to ever growing mountain of manure.
Then, when you point out the most recent pile of steaming, blatant BS, they're the victim and you're the asshole.
Narcissists, histrionics, psychopaths and borderlines don't see their cruelty, self-absorption, pathological lying and entitlement as bad. You deserve it. You make them do it. For that matter, anyone who holds them accountable is a bad, nasty person who's abusing them/victimizing them. It's completely backasswards.
Again, this is pure BS. The bad behavior is bad, not pointing out the bad behavior.
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#Narcissists, #borderlines, #histrionics and other #toxicpeople flare up (like a bad case of hemorrhoids) more than their usual #drama and #fucknuttery during #Christmas, #Hanukkah, other holidays and special events. If your #FamilyOfOrigin has more than one #Crazy from the #ClusterB variety pack, you've probably come to dread the holiday season.
In numerous articles and videos, I’ve discussed how to survive the holidays with a #NPD/ #BPD spouse or ex with whom you share children. But what if the Crazy is your mom, dad, sister, brother or grandparent, etc?
Are you EXPECTED to travel and pay homage to the Uber Golden Uterus Alles? Bend the knee to Narcaholic Dad? Soothe the savagely childish breast of your #BPD sister’s attention-seeking, holiday wrecking tantrums?
The key word is: EXPECTED. You’re an adult now. Have you ever considered that #NPD/BPD/ #HPD mom, dad, grandma, cousin, sister, brother, etc., can expect in one hand, #AdultTantrum in the other and see which one fills up first? ; )
Why do you visit? Why do you go? #fear, #obligation, #guilt (#FOG)? Financial dependence? #ApprovalSeeking in vain? #PeoplePleasing? In other words, what do YOU get out of it by visiting vs. not visiting?
Are your reasons healthy? Or do they perpetuate your #woundedchild #codependency? If no matter what you do is good enough, why not do what’s good for you and ignore the tantrums, caterwauling, #blame, guilt and #shame tactics instead?
Also, if #NORAD can track Santa, why can't they develop a #FlyingMonkey tracker? Just a suggestion, NORAD.
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