Giving a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or #psychopath a second chance to "be better" after they've consistently abused you without remorse isn’t evidence of your forgiving nature. It’s evidence of your #codependency and likely unresolved #ChildhoodWounds.

There’s no going back to #lovebombing land. It was a con job (and probably included lots and lots of your other favorite “jobs.”) That person is never coming back because she/he never existed in the first place.

In reality, you're giving the #NPD/ #BPD/ #HPD is another chance to break you down more than they already have to the point you no longer have the will to leave. Or another chance to create another hostage -- I mean child. Or a chance to set you up with a #FalseAllegation of #DomesticViolence to punish you for “abandoning”/rejecting them.

Instead of being be excited by the lie that “things will be better,” be insulted.

They're insulting your intelligence. Again, this is a #CONJOB. I know it's tempting to believe things can go back to the way it was before they took off the mask. But that's the thing. The abusive monster is the reality. The adoring love bomber is the mask.

Or, you can give it a try.

But don't be surprised if they become even nastier, more controlling and blame shiftier than they were before. YOU were going to LEAVE THEM. How are THEY supposed to TRUST YOU now!?!

You're going to have to prove your commitment to them all over again. How?

While the NPD/BPD/HPD is usually short on details for how you can accomplish this, the shit they'll expect you to swallow/do to prove your devotion to them is endless.As in, it’s mission impossible.

This is one of the biggest classic mindf-cks NPD/BPD/HPDs perpetrate. You agonize over ending the relationship because of how horribly they treat you. Then they flip it around. Don't take the bait!

#AbuseHasNoGender #MenToo

Many people with #codependency fill that #void or #emptiness by caretaking a #BPD, #NPD, #HPD, #alcoholic/ #addict partner and other #ToxicRelationships. I think of that emptiness as the crater left by #ChildhoodWounds -- either a #MotherWound and/or #FatherWound.

If you don't deal with the emptiness and what's caused it, you'll likely continue to be attracted to and attract to you #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic women and men.

The cartoon found here https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/i9otn3/the_void/.