BodaciousAmi · @LuckySeaQueen
30 followers · 108 posts · Server thehappyfamily.streamWhen someone acts annoyed that you don’t want to do something with them such as share in taking drugs or whatever it may be, that is a form of abuse and manipulation. They want you to be codependent with them and that is not okay. Guilt is being used as a weapon by people of all walks of life and it has to stop. Let people live and let people say NO. #abuse #codependence
Ricardo Harvin · @ricardoharvin
1321 followers · 11231 posts · Server mstdn.socialSorry, this is paywalled content.
This describes both of my #EggshellParents and my childhood, along with #alcoholism (dad) and #codependence (mom, me).
I barely made it out alive, and didn't escape its destructive effects until my #marriage blew up and brought everything I'd repressed to a roiling boil.
#AdultChildrenOfAlcoholicsAndDysfunctionalFamilies #ACA saved my life in 2012 https://adultchildren.org/
https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/family-friends/eggshell-parents/789578
#aca #adultchildrenofalcoholicsanddysfunctionalfamilies #marriage #codependence #alcoholism #eggshellparents
Enjoy · @joie
20 followers · 143 posts · Server mastodon.worldDr. Stan #Tatkin: “The purpose of a relationship is fundamentally grounded in safety and security: not love, not attraction, not romance. If you’re not providing that need to ensure each other’s sense of #safety and #security, it defies the whole psychobiological purpose of being with another person.”
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#quotes 🫡#assertive #positive #self #selfStudy #learning ❤️#learn 🌱#joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern
#tatkin #safety #security #quotes #assertive #positive #self #SelfStudy #learning #learn #joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern
Enjoy · @joie
18 followers · 115 posts · Server mastodon.world“Not #forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
― Anne #Lamott, in "Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on #Faith" #forgiveness #grudges #revenge #spite #people #relationship #codependence #addiction #simpleEnglish #mentalHealth #quotes #resentment #bitterness #mentalHealth
#forgiving #lamott #faith #forgiveness #grudges #revenge #spite #people #relationship #codependence #addiction #simpleenglish #mentalhealth #quotes #resentment #bitterness
Enjoy · @joie
18 followers · 115 posts · Server mastodon.worldAnne #Lamott: “We can’t arrange peace or lasting improvement for the people we love most in the world. […] Help is the sunny side of #control. Stop helping so much. Don’t get your help and #goodness all over everybody.”
https://www.ted.com/talks/anne_lamott_12_truths_i_learned_from_life_and_writing/transcript?language=en&subtitle=en #people #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence 🐻#benevolence #kindness #addiction #simpleEnglish #mentalHealth
#lamott #control #goodness #people #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #benevolence #kindness #addiction #simpleenglish #mentalhealth
Shrink4Men · @Shrink4Men
10 followers · 45 posts · Server lor.sh
Reading #relationship books written for “#normals” when your partner
has a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder is like reading a how to build a birdhouse
manual in order to learn how to swim safely with sharks.
In other words, it's not going to help.
A relationship with a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or Cluster B variety pack isn't dysfunctional and toxic due to the issues non-disordered people have in relationships. The problems aren't due to deficient #CommunicationSkills. Nor is because you don't "speak their #LoveLanguage." And it isn't because you're from Mars/Venus and they're from Uranus -- or whatever not take #responsibility-#BlameShifting-#DARVO bullshit excuse they concoct.
It's because they have an un/diagnosed personality disorder. Their love language is Crazy. They lack the fundamental emotional and psychological capacity to have a healthy and reciprocal emotionally mature relationship built upon mutual respect and empathy.
Furthermore, being more empathic, patient and "loving them harder" isn't going to help you either. That advice results in more #enabling, #codependence and #TraumaBonding -- not more love.
Again, the real issues are the #NPD, #BPD, #HPD character pathology, which can't be fixed. And your #codependency, #peoplepleasing, #traumahealing, etc., which you can work on.
If you want to learn how to have healthier relationships, read about how to best protect yourself from emotionally manipulative liars/predators and how to address your codependency and family of origin issues because nothing else is going to work.
#relationship #normals #clusterb #personalitydisorder #narcissist #borderline #histrionic #communicationskills #loveLanguage #responsibility #blameshifting #darvo #enabling #codependence #traumabonding #npd #bpd #hpd #codependency #peoplepleasing #traumahealing #abusehasnogender #themoreyouknow
HandgunYoga (he/him/his) · @HandgunYoga
760 followers · 5303 posts · Server mastodon.world#introduction, cont’d
My #Spiritual path has included #Addiction, #Codependence, and #Recovery, #Depression and thoughts of #Suicide, luckily punctuated my #OOBE #OutOfBodyExperiences proving to me anyway #AstralTravel is real.
I’ve practiced #Channeling, am a #ReikiMaster-Teacher able to Initiate others, former volunteer w #DistantHealingNetwork
I’ve been a moderator for #SelfInjury support groups, made a lot of friends diagnosed #DID and suspect I’m #Multiple too.
#introduction #spiritual #addiction #codependence #recovery #depression #suicide #OOBE #outofbodyexperiences #astraltravel #channeling #reikimaster #distanthealingnetwork #SelfInjury #did #multiple
wetiko · @wetiko
8 followers · 26 posts · Server kolektiva.socialCo-Dependence Anonymous: Recovery Patterns of #Codependence [pdf]
https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/2011-Patterns-of-Recovery-2015.pdf