There is no change without #accountability, #consequences, compassion and an understanding of how one's behavior and choices have impacted oneself and others. It is difficult enough for #codependents and non-disordered individuals to do this. And likely impossible for the people with a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder.

Change requires heightened personal awareness and the psychological maturity to no longer make childish excuses and blame others for the choices one makes as an adult. #DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is a cognitive behavioral management technique for emotional dysregulation. It isn't magic and it doesn't fundamentally change one's character.

It requires grieving one's childhood, leaving it in the past and doing the work to become a fully as possible responsible adult. A true measure of change, and in my opinion, the only measure of real change involves:

- The #NPD, #BPD, #HPD individual stops making excuses for their destructive behavior.

- The #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic 100% owns their behavior and choices without blaming others (especially their victims).

- Stop the victim playing and attacking and blaming anyone who holds them accountable..

- Accept the natural consequences for their choices without doing any of the above.

Same goes for codependents regarding their #codependency. #AbuseHasNoGender