So, I matched with someone who said #CovidIsNotOver in her bio, but she goes to concerts unmasked. I get that everything is a risk and sometimes people will prioritize certain high risk activities while still taking precautions in other areas of life, but...I don't know.

Stray observations:
-People wearing masks in their pictures seems to be a sign that they haven't updated their profile in a while rather than indicating that they're still masking.

-There's a pleasantly surprising number of women who are 30+ who openly admit on their profiles that they're recently out as queer and new to dating women, and I both admire and envy their courage.

-I feel like fewer and fewer people bother to write anything on their dating profiles these days. I know people have been complaining about that since the dawn of dating apps, but I feel like it's recently gotten worse? I have no problem messaging people first—back when I was only dating men, sometimes I'd message them first—but I need something to craft an opening message around, even if it's something banal or small.

#covid #pandemic #CovidDating #PandemicDating #LGBTQ #LGBTQDating #QueerDating #ComingOutAsAnAdult #WearAMask

Really envious of the people who come out later in life and seem to have no strong feelings about it. Like, "Btw, I realized recently I'm #queer, and also, the weather was really nice yesterday, and isn't that new coffee shop really cute?" How are these people so chill?

Meanwhile, there's me, who has All the Feelings™️ and all of them are big, messy and complicated and even therapists don't seem to know what to do about them. Sigh.

#LGBTQ #ComingOutAsAnAdult #ComingOut

I discovered why I hate "virgins know they're straight so you can know you're #bisexual w/out having sex w/someone of the same gender." It's infantilizing to compare a grown adult to a virgin, as though I'm some silly teenager. Plus, having been raised in and traumatized by #PurityCulture, the term "virgin" has a lot of baggage for me. Please do not say this to adults you know who come out as #queer. Just don't.
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Shout out to all the #LGBTQ older adults who mention, casually and matter-of-factly, in #queer social spaces that they only recently came out! You all give me hope that one day I can shed my shame of not coming out until I was an adult and talk more openly about it. Please know that there are those of us who see you, look up you, and appreciate you 🌈 🤍

#InternalizedQueerphobia #InternalizedBiphobia #ComingOutAsAnAdult

There are sadly almost no resources for adults coming out as queer, but I didn't hate this article and found parts of it helpful and affirming, which is something.

From Autostraddle's "You Need Help" advice column: https://www.autostraddle.com/i-just-turned-65-and-im-questioning-my-sexuality/

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