My parents are both #conflictavoidant and myself and my sister both ended up in abusive marriages. Is there a link? Either way, I’m ensuring my kids learn the importance of boundary setting.
#abuse #marriage #domesticabuse #boundaries

It dawned on me this morning that one of my #conflictavoidant behaviours is a serious case of #selfharm and #selfsabotage . I often take the blame for things that at best I’m only partially responsible for. I do this to make the other person feel better about themselves. As I repeatedly do this, I give the other person power, sapping my #selfesteem to boost theirs. It doesn’t take long before they think I’m completely useless and they’re always right. I’m consciously trying to stop now.