#WhatsApp is the de facto standard #messenger here in Germany. My #privacy choice to #deletewhatsapp meant my partner had to deal with school, neighborhood, club, and other comms #soloparenting style. After 3 years I found a way to use WA pseudonymously without giving access to my contacts, location, etc so I can #coparent better.

I feel guilty. I still tell people I'm not available on WA to keep my little bit of social pressure up, but it's not the same.

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my #coparent had a slip on the ice yesterday and fractured an elbow so we had a sharp pivot to my 10yo hosting a #sleepover at my house last night and i learned that my version of the "omgosh use a coaster and no feet on the couch" is:

"omg no liquids on top of my locked rack cabinet holding the tower of terabytes and blinkenlights!"

my synology is still grinding away on the first of four disks i'm upgrading.

Beware the #ValentinesDay #Hoover, #LoveBomb, "let's be friends," "I just want to #coparent" trojan horse. To quote Admiral Akbar, "It's a trap!"

Also, beware of cats bearing gifts ;)

#AbuseHasNoGender #NPD #BPD #HPD #narcissist #borderline #Histrionic

Human beings need time to recharge, restore and sleep. Even the #crazy ones.

Granted, many a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic seem to have a super human to keep the fires of #anger, #hostility, #aggression and #drama going for unusually protracted periods. They also need time to regroup, recharge and reload the Crazy Super Soaker with vinegar or more corrosive substances.

Don't confuse the offers of extra cold weather clothes for the kids, Christmas ornaments, extra summertime garden vegetables, etc., for a burgeoning ability to truly #coparent. The #NPD, #BPD, #HPD parent is likely either:

a) In between relationships and, thus, feeling less emboldened to be their usual rotten selves.

b) In between relationships/pissed off their usual #enabler(s) and, thus, feeling less emboldened to be their usual rotten selves and want something from you. For example, trading days, extra time to go to Disney World, agreeing to change kid schools or pediatricians, etc.

c) In between relationships, out of a job (again) or some other self-inflicted shitshow and are gearing up to ask for money.

d) Already have their next nasty Wile E. Coyote scheme in the works or are about to execute and are feeling giddy, jaunty, #DupersDelight or Machiavellian glee anticipating another Lucy Van Pelt yanking the football away again and laughing at Charlie Brown (i.e., you) falling on your back again.

e) Has finally burnt themselves out after weeks and months of drama, attempts to control, deceive, bully, exploit, etc., and needs to regroup/reload without you taking advantage of them in a vulnerable moment. Not that you would, but remember, they #project.

Trust nothing. Don't wishful think yourself into believing the crazy eye of the crazy hurricane will last. Do take advantage of the lulls to accomplish positive things for yourself and the kids. And be careful out there!

#AbuseHasNoGender

Before they decided to #coparent an OG #fediverse, the #FoundingFathers were #NepoBabies.

Coparenting with someone who openly criticizes you in front of kids. 🙃
#coparent #stepparenting #fuuuuuu