RT @RVAwonk
#LearnTheTactics:
1. #Gaslighting
2. #Manipulation
3. #Defamation
4. #CrazyMaking
5. #DARVO

Divorcing a #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic can be even more exhausting, #toxic and #CrazyMaking than being married to/dating them. Many clients (and their #FamilyLaw #attorneys) fall into the trap of playing perpetual defense. In other words, going from #drama to drama, #crisis to crisis, pathological lie to pathological lie and #FalseAllegation of abuse to false allegation of abuse. Instead of having a strategy to get the best custody arrangement and financial settlement possible, you end up operating in a near constant state of #CrisisManagement.

THIS IS NOT EFFECTIVE LAWYERING. It is, however, lucrative lawyering.

If your attorney can’t/won't articulate a clear strategy to get you and the kids a good outcome and to proverbially “declaw/defang” the #CrazyEx it’s a problem. I never cease to be amazed how many clients’ attorneys haven’t explained their strategy. A strategy beyond, “Keep generating fees until your money runs out,” that is.

In order to facilitate this, it’s important to diligently document all the nonsense and bullshit — especially its impact on the kids. #ABR (#AlwaysBeRecording) and #ABD (#AlwaysBeDocumenting). Then, you need an attorney who will actually look at and listen to your documentation and knows how to implement it in a way that, again, gets you and the kids the best outcome possible.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#georgescamtos #crazymaking #Repulicans https://www.nytimes.com/2023/01/02/nyregion/george-santos-brazil.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

Some of today sucked... the part where I list 15 years of data on my computer... docs and photos and my backups failed. #crazymaking #technology #whining