Just learned that in an attempt to be #inclusive and hip, I've actually been committing digital blackface with reaction images in the family group chat.

(They didn't call me out--I've just been wondering for a while and finally googled it to call myself out.)

Comitting to ending that starting now.

#DoTheWork

@DryBird2993 white people do need to do more than just think about themselves and their place in the system, but they also need to do #dothework on themselves. From my experience, a lot of people feel that since they themselves are no longer racist that's good enough when it's not.

For #mentalhealthawareness month, this is my write-up of training with Mental (getmental.com) as my New Year's Resolution.

https://paninid.substack.com/p/mental-gladiators

Share your life hacks!

#dothework #mentalhealth #sharing #coldshowers #brownfat #anxiety #publicspeaking #professionaldevelopment #learning #exercise #dailyroutine

For #mentalhealthawareness month, I wanted to share that I've really enjoyed training with Mental as my New Year's Resolution (combined with a gladiatorial / spin routine).

The term "stigma" originates from ancient Greek meaning "to mark as a sign of shame, punishment or disgrace."

Talking about it can help.

Please share your own life hacks!

#dothework #mentalhealth #sharing

https://sampathpanini.medium.com/mental-gladiators-61429c0c9e5

@timbray Yet Another White Dude Who Isn't Target Of Racism Saying He Never Sees Any Racism. In this case with a side of "but I'm gay, so I can't be racist".

#DoTheWork

“How long do I have to do these stupid affirmation exercises?”
“How often do I have to meditate?”

Do you find yourself asking yourself (or a guide, or mentor, or friend) these kinds of questions? Do you get frustrated with not getting results as quickly as you want? I can relate. Many of the things I’ve done for my own growth have taken far longer to bear fruit than I thought they should. But, the results will come. Read on:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/18/the-power-of-repetition/

Do you keep trying various practices for personal growth, but can’t manage to stick to any of them? If you’d like to have some help sticking to it this time, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#repetition #repetitionispower #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

ICYMI:

“I’m not smart enough to get into that school.”
“I’m not dedicated enough to be an entrepreneur.”
“I’m not good-looking enough to go out with him.”

Does the belief pattern of “I’m not X enough” sound familiar to you too? I spent decades mired in those sorts of beliefs, so I’m pretty familiar with them myself. But, I’m not there anymore, and haven’t been in a very long time. Read on for how I got here from there:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/11/im-not-enough-a-personal-story-of-limiting-beliefs/

Do you have limiting beliefs that keep you stuck? If you’d also like a way out, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#limitingbeliefs #discardinglimitingbeliefs #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“I’m not smart enough to get into that school.”
“I’m not dedicated enough to be an entrepreneur.”
“I’m not good-looking enough to go out with him.”

Does all that sound familiar? I spent decades mired in those sorts of beliefs, so I’m pretty familiar with them myself. But, I’m not there anymore, and haven’t been in a very long time. Read on for how I got here from there:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/11/im-not-enough-a-personal-story-of-limiting-beliefs/

Do you have limiting beliefs that keep you stuck? If you’d also like a way out, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#limitingbeliefs #discardinglimitingbeliefs #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“I know you can’t see this clearly, so I need to make this decision for you.”

If that sounds familiar, and it’s not in the context of a parent-child relationship or a romance novel, it’s possible that a mindset shift could help you be calmer, happier, and more productive. Sound good? Read more:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/28/let-other-people-make-their-own-damn-decisions/

How do you remember that other people are their own decision-makers? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #success #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“Oh, it was nothing.”
“I had a lot of help; Mary should really get the credit.”
“I just got lucky.”

Do these sound familiar? Many of us find it difficult to acknowledge when we’ve been successful, or accomplished something. Read on for some discussion of why it’s important to do it anyway:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/21/acknowledging-our-own-success/

What tricks do you have for acknowledging the things that you do right? How do you avoid minimizing your good qualities? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #success #ownyoursuccess #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

This week I’m talking about our motives for doing the work. Although there’s definitely merit to the idea of doing the right thing for the right reasons, in my experience, doing the right thing for whatever reason is just as good. Read more here:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/14/the-weights-dont-care-why-you-lift-them/

Do you have experience with talking yourself out of something because your motives weren’t good enough? Or, do you have experience with talking yourself into something regardless of your motives? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #personalresponsibility #success #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #humanity #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

The day didn’t go as planned and as I was contemplating this fact, I went and picked up my son from work.

As we entered a roundabout, a driver, who clearly didn’t understand how this works, almost hit me.

At that point, I was about to yell and be angrier and my son just suddenly said out loud “it’s a beautiful sunny day today!”.

Immediately, I felt disarmed and thought how foolish it was to just ruminate further on what went wrong today and simply focus on what was right instead.

It’s alright to be angry of course but not necessarily all day 😉 especially if it’s sunny outside.

#emotions #dobetter #bebetter #bebettereveryday #dothework #day #anger

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When educational leaders frame concerns over failures as opportunities for meaningful learning, more people will gain the confidence to proceed with action. Students are served when educators take action and don't waste time overthinking imagined failures.

Failure = Learning Opportunity

@edutooters @academicchatter #DoTheWork #Edquity #StudentSuccess #HigherEd #Education

When you’re trying to convince yourself about something, be sure it’s for the right reason.

For example, if you’re not helping someone to get up in the morning, is it because you want them to be able to help themselves or is it because you want to be able to point a finger at them afterwards?

The line is pretty thin and we too often justify our actions with noble gestures but we’re likely just in it for our personal gain.

#askyourself #becomebetter #dobetter #dothework #ego #help #helpothers #mindset

We all know that sleep is important and now, I must say it’s CRUCIAL.

Getting enough sleep helps against being more easily irritable (that’s a big one I’ve been battling against for years without admitting lack of sleep was the cause) and also focus.

This week has been a bit hectic with calls at all hours of the day and nights to fix stuff so it disrupted my sleep pattern in a profound way.

Normally I’d just brush it off as the usual routine and simply drink more coffee but now I see even more why I need my sleep.

With my ADHD, I’ve had issues focusing at anything really for years. Now it’s better but if I’m not cautious, it can be worse by unhealthy habits.

This morning, I had a good amount of sleep (finally) and I feel like my brain is “organized” so it’s not chaotic and noisy with all the ideas bouncing around, all wanting attention, regardless of priorities and importance.

Please don’t trade some hours of perceived productivity for the sleep you probably need: I failed to understand this for so long that now I actually wasted valuable time thinking I was accomplishing more when in fact I was just slowing my growth (literally).

Health is so important and we don’t normally think about it until we don’t have it.

#health #attention #life #dobetter #dothework #adhd #sleep #coffee #goodhabits #dowhatsright

This one might sound trivial to some but to me it’s a trip outside the comfort zone.

I went to get my son at work like I normally would but this time I went earlier than usual. Nothing too crazy so far.

I normally park closer of the entrance and this time there’s no available spot so I park a bit further. Again, nothing unusual, just normal.

I tend to just park forward but this time I decided to just back in the parking spot because I was using my truck. I don’t like to park that way but it’s simpler since I’ll see my son going out the door. Again, just pratical, right?

Now comes the interesting part and why I started with this introduction: there’s someone parked on my left and this person just backed away and went for gas in front of where I am. I notice the hood of the car seems open or maybe not properly locked. Normally, I’d just let it go as maybe it’s just broken or the person might not like to be approached by a stranger or whatever reason I tell myself so I don’t have to get out of the truck and go talk to this person.

I decide to just go because this could be dangerous and if this person is annoyed or blows me off or finds me ridiculous, it doesn’t matter. I put my anxiety aside and go. I politely say I think the hood might be unlocked and sure enough it was.

All this to say that if I have been late to pickup my son or parked the other way or in the usual spot or I didn’t decide to go talk to this person, this might’ve turned out differently.

I don’t say this for glory or pats on the back. No.

The crucial part to remember in all of this is I decided to go and talk even when anxiety and pure laziness told me otherwise: just by talking to someone, you might be able to prevent something bad to happen.

Act when you see something wrong instead of simply think it’s not your job. Safety is the job of everyone.

#safety #security #anxiety #overthink #overthinking #dothework #becomebetter

@HouseOfSchnuck @DeliaChristina I would argue this is not "white allies being not-great" but instead "white supremacy asserting itself".

#DoTheWork

What we need is more pragmatism and less absolutism

#dothework

After a month of being diagnosed with adhd, I’ve seen so many things change around and in my life.

I already mentioned a few of them but to add to that, lately I’ve seen my weeks go by a bit slower than it used to and I can complete more projects as well which helps.

I still don’t have more motivation to do stuff and that’s alright as I’m not looking for that exactly: I’m more focused on taking the first step.

One strange thing is I’m not seeking more and more wisdom outside by the way of books or seminars or online videos about self-help. This feels strange as I’ve been reading and listening to various content for over a decade now. I know it’s not because I don’t have anything else to change but I think I’m not seeking this “ideal” self I idolized for so long and I’m just trying to do my best instead. I think I’m really comparing myself to myself now and that’s what I always needed.

I think I’m making more progress now and THAT is a great step forward.

#adhd #becomebetter #dobetter #perfectionism #selfhelp #bebetter #takethestep #dothework #procrastination