As a man who enjoys presenting femme, "forced" femme was important to me for a long time: between societal and internalised transphobia, it was the only way I could imagine a partner being enthusiastic about me presenting as anything other than masc.

With hindsight what I wanted was encouragement and support. But as a young queer in a cishet society, it's often hard to believe those are possible, let alone things you deserve and can access.

I'm very glad the narrative on this stuff is shifting. @pandorablake and @SirClaireBlack@twitter.com jump to mind as folk I trust on this topic and who I know have been helping move the window. I really hope the kids working out their genders and sexualities today and tomorrow have an easier time of it than me.

#gender #kink #forcedfemme #encouragedfemme #gnc #queer