So in today's episode of "things that validate Rayne's gender in a fucked up way", I got one for y'all to that takes the cake, above all #ewwphoria Ive ever experienced..

So I'm leaving out the VA clinic cause I just got done with an appointment with my therapist. This guy yells really loudly right behind me, "You was in the military?"

I look back in case he was talking to me and he was 🙄. I was like...yeah? Lol. With some combination of "That's why I'm at the VA you fucking dipshit" and "Are you saying I'm stealing valor or some shit?"

Then he asked what branch, and I'm like Marines. So the next question that comes out of this asswipe's mouth is, "Did ya do any fighting?" I wanted to scream at him. I just answered, "I went to Afghanistan"

Then I add, "I mean, if someone's here that means they're a veteran right?" I say motioning at the VA clinic that I just left from.

He finally says, "Sorry, didn't mean to offend it's just that you're a girl"

I just walked away.

Wtf...

While I do have "he/they" pronouns listed in work Slack, and I have literally worn :pride_demisexual: colored outfits and scrunchies every time I've been in the office, I haven't technically outed myself — those topics, and :pride_agender: , have never come up.

And yet, today I got a peek into the :pride_transgender: experience: someone at work mansplained to me. In public. The full "um, actually", useless and incorrect pedantry, whoosh trifecta.

So that's happening now, I guess.

#ewwphoria ?

#ewphoria: shorter, sweeter, used by more people so far

#ewwphoria: OG hashtag, double w's is fun, implies increased grossness

*Bangs gavel*

I call forth the meeting of transes to this important matter...

Are we settling on #ewphoria or #ewwphoria? Lol

Thank you to all the old white cis men affirming that that my outfit today looks good AF, especially the one that slowed down his truck and did that creepy wave 😖

#ewwphoria

@WrenArcher gender #ewwphoria needs to catch on because that is such a real thing lol

An #ewwphoria scene from last night.
At the ballpark to watch our #SodPoodles take on the Hooks.

Me in line getting nachos and a beer.

Counter lady: “can I see some ID hon?”
Me: *in a pleading voice*
“I’m sorry. I didn’t bring my ID. I didn’t drive today. But look… I have to wear bifocals.”

Counter lady smiles. “Alright. Have a nice night.”

Drunk middle aged dude: (him in line seeing the exchange) “Did she really card you?”

Me: “Yeah.”

Drunk middle aged dude: *as he gives me a quick look up and down*
“You look old enough to me.”

And THAT my #trans sisters is eww-phoria. When you get validated as a woman but are totally grossed out by it.

I got mansplained by a contractor. He wouldn't let me sawzall the couch 🥲 my first ewwphoria. I carried that couch out over my shoulder though. Fuck that tiny girl shit stereotype. I'm a warrior princess.

#ewwphoria #trans