“Most people are going to have two or three marriages in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person.” ~ Esther Perel

Great post from #CindyWangBrandt
#exfundie #CultSurvivors #exevangelical #exmormon #exjw #deconstruction
https://open.substack.com/pub/cindywangbrandt/p/the-unity-candle-is-a-lie?r=210zt&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

It's slow and the boundaries and my assertiveness are off putting to him... But that will be the price for entry back into my life. Time will tell. 2/
#relationships #exfundie #recovery

Happy to report that there was a bit of progress in the Marco Polo exchange with my brother today. There's a lot of mistrust and hurt on both sides but I think we're moving towards acceptance that I'm not the same person and we're not going back to what was, but starting new, redefining what we want today going forward. 1/
#relationships #exfundie #recovery

The #exfundie part of me from way back wants to say that God is sending a huge blub of seaweed to punish #Florida for its #political wickedness.

Hearing the familiar stories of #ReligiousTrauma and #Deconstruction from other faith traditions like, #Mormon, #JehovahsWitnesses, #Baptist, etc., gives me a better understanding of my own experience growing up as a Seventh-day #Adventist.

We are more similar than some might think.

#Religion
#FaithJourney
#PurityCulture
#ExJW
#ExMormon
#ExFundie
#ExEvangelical
#ExVangelical

Tonight in #therapy we talked about Religious Trauma Syndrome (#RTS). It was a *rough* session. Rough.

I've been going to therapy every week for 3 years now, peeling away layers and digging deep. Tonight my shovel hit something solid: The Church. Specifically, the evangelical church. The source of emotional vacancy in our family.

Grief. Anger. Trauma. Unacknowledged harm on so many levels.

Tonight was rough. Goddamn.

#ExFundie
#ExvangelicalGrief
#Exvangelical
#ChurchTrauma

So I'm asking people who know first-hand, what are some GOOD media portrayals of cults and how they work?

For me, Severance has been the best example. The innie/outie split is exactly how it feels to be inside of cult mind control. The way Lumon twists the meanings of words to scare people is subtle but completely accurate. The walling off of memory is also reminiscent of how you deal with 'bad' thoughts.

As far as documentaries I liked the HBO one on Heaven's Gate.

#ExJW #ExCult #ExFundie

Cults are now everywhere in media, and usually the way it's handled is completely off-base.

Wearing weird clothes & singing weird songs is a small part of identity control but it's not the most important factor. Usually that's what's highlighted in documentaries, film.

The key factor is that you censor your own mind, you actively forget and avoid thoughts that are against the rules. You split your personality. Words take on new meanings which are entirely emotional. 🧵

#ExJW #ExCult #ExFundie

I was raised a traditional Southern Baptist.

And this week with my retired pastor dad showed me that my traditional #Christian upbringing left me with ZERO internal resources for maintaining good mental health or achieving healthy family dynamics.

Like, NONE.

#MentalHealth #FamilyDynamics
#Exvangelical
#ExFundie
#ThanksJamesDobson
#JesusChristLiterally

#nonbinary. #childfree by choice. aspiring #herbalist. casually pursuing #backyardpermaculture. hobbyist chicken farmer. filling my world with #edibleplants with the occasional #cacti #hoya and #succulent. #exfundie learning to love #science.

"The road to #atheism is lined with open bibles."

#Atheist
#ExChristian
#Exvangelical
#ExFundie

Howdy neighbours, I'm new around these parts 😂

By way of introduction, my name is Riley and I used to be one of #JehovahsWitnesses.

I "toot" about #Cults, #CultRecovery, #Religion #Atheism, #CriticalThinking, and everything in between.

The video below tells my whole story of growing up in a high control religion and then leaving.

#ExJW
#ExChristian
#Exvangelical
#ExFundie
#CultSurvivor
#iGotOut

https://youtu.be/AB7FHqnvyb0

Dear Believer,

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMFmwcpSJ/

#ExChristian
#Exvangelical
#ExFundie
#Atheist
#CriticalThinking

Second #introduction post, because who thinks of everything the first time?
I'm into #plants. I'm from the #midwest and love meeting who grows around me, native, invasive, and everything in between. So... #foraging. And #foodpreservation because winter exists and captalist food systems won't forever. And #foodsovereignty.

Art... dabbling in:
#weaving
#embroidery
#electroforming
#macrame

#cat parent to Flo and Rika

#mutualaid!

I believe #spirituality is crucial to liberatory movements. We know what we are against, but what do we move towards? What guides you there, towards what feels worth creating?
#exfundie
#decolonizechristianity
#tarot
#astrology
#mysticism
#pagan
#jesus as revolutionary figure.