#EthicalNonMonogamy (#ENM): #Cheating, but with better branding (i.e., what #JadaSmith and her equally crazy "intimacy coach" Michaela Boehm advocate).

Being open to ethical non-monogamy (cheating with permission) doesn't make you more enlightened, liberated or any other of the #shaming words its fans claim. Shaming a partner into agreeing to an open relationship, ENM -- or whatever you want to call it -- is wrong. And, in some cases, downright abusive.

In my experience with clients who've had this pushed on them by a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or #ClusterB variety pack partner/ex:

1) Were told there was something wrong with them if they didn’t agree to it.

2) Had to follow a completely different set of rules regarding third parties, because “it’s different for women.”

3) Were accused of being abusive and controlling if they didn’t want to agree to it.

4) After agreeing to it and then it (predictably) blew up, were #gaslighted and #FalselyAccused in family court of forcing the #BPD, #NPD, #HPD ex to have multiple sex partners.

In other words, if ethical non-monogamy/an open relationship isn’t what you want, don’t let anyone make you feel like there’s something wrong with you. If that’s what your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend believes they need to evolve, grow, feel empowered, etc., perhaps it’s time for them to evolve themselves right out of the relationship.

#AbuseHasNoGender

Prosecuting #FalseAccusers and other opportunistic perjurers doesn’t discourage real victims from coming forward to report #abuse and #SexualAssault. It discourages and disincentivizes other malicious liars and forms of #Crazy (e.g., #NPD, #BPD, #HPD and #ClusterB variety pack individuals).

The really crazy ones (i.e., entitled to the point of being delusional, pathologically #grandiose and believers of their own bullshit/not-a-victim victimhood) will still falsely accuse even after having their lies disproven (see #AmberHeard).

All persons who make #FalseAllegation should be forever flagged in law enforcement and court databases. They should also be required to prove their claims with tangible evidence before ex parte restraining orders and arrests can be made.

The real victims of #FalseAllegations are the #FalselyAccused. Not the characterologically disturbed (people with bad character) and pathological liars who falsely report abuse for attention, revenge, money, celebrity and other kinds of personal gain.

Consequences matter.

#AbuseHasNoGender #MenToo #narcissist #borderline #histrionic