i just went for it. a little nervous still. didn't overshare went into service access barriers. (the presentation was on serving surviors/victims of ipv

i got to control what i shared. i got to set the limits. i got to make service providers aware to make things better for the next person like me who needs services.

it was okay. it was a helpful and well informed presentation. i think so and the people who attended said so.

#HealingTrauma

Going through trauma and finding yourself again...tonight something shifted in me and I'll be sharing a lot over coming days. ❤

Watch: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1296487011208099

#trauma #traumatologia #traumarecovery #traumahealing #traumainformed #beautifultraumatour #beautifultrauma #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma #posttraumatic #straumann #traumaticbraininjury #traumabond #marriage #divorce #perfectionism #ocd #adhd #breakup #ptsd #selfawareness

While we’re dealing with foundation repairs and cleanup from moisture coming into the daylight basement I won’t be able to set up my yoga studio space yet. My wife bring in a clean, dry office needs to be first priority.

This all makes sense from the view of my adult brain.

However, because of #ChildhoodTrauma and #CPTSD, my 12-year-old-part is feeling bereft and afraid. She feels like her space just got trashed and there’s no place for her. She feels the same helpless fury that arose when my Mother would toss my room. Failing to fold clothing “correctly” in drawers would result in all the drawers in my room and the closet being dumped out in my bed and floor and I’d be grounded until I’d cleaned it up properly.

I’m working on reassuring her that it really is temporary and she will have an even cooler space eventually. I also (really bravely) told my wife what was coming up and she’s come up with a better temp space idea that might feel more comfortable.

As if a foundation leaking water and a move aren’t enough.

#HealingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #DevelopmentalTrauma #DisorganizedAttachment #IFS #PartsTherapy #InternalFamilySystems #StructuralDisassociation #AdventuresInTherapy

Remember the folk wisdom adage, "Feed a cold, starve a fever?" My #NoContact take on it is, "Feed a cold. Starve a #psycho."

The purpose of practicing No Contact isn't to punish or hurt the #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic ex. It's to give yourself the emotional and physical distance to clear the #FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) and begin you #grief and #healingtrauma work.

Going No Contact also denies the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD ex the access needed to read you and, thus, emotionally manipulate you. They'll likely continue to text, email, call and find other ways to breach your #boundaries. However, they'll be aiming blindfolded and unable to fine tune their #manipulation.

Additionally remaining No Contact deprives the NPD, BPD or HPD ex the oxygen of attention that they crave. If they're not getting their #NarcissisticSupply from you, they'll eventually seek it elsewhere. That is, if they weren't already during your relationship with them.

#AbuseHasNoGender #HelpForMen