Look up your NYC apartment building’s violations and complaints online.

HPD: (living condition violations)
https://hpdonline.nyc.gov/hpdonline/

DOB: (structural, safety violations, etc.)
https://a810-bisweb.nyc.gov/bisweb/bispi00.jsp

You can report HPD and DOB problems on the 311 website.

#NYC #HPD #DOB #Apartments #Housing #Urbanism

hpd.de/
"Verschwörungserzählungen in der AfD und Desinformation als koordinierter Vertrauensverlust"

die Leerdenker und Konsorten sind meiner Meinung zum großen Teilen rechts einzuordnen.

"77 Prozent der AfD-Anhänger:innen gaben demnach an, den Werten der Partei sehr oder eher nahe zu stehen."

Ja, ja, Protestwähler.
Nazis wählen Nazis weil die Nazi Sachen machen

https://hpd.de/artikel/verschwoerungserzaehlungen-afd-und-desinformation-koordinierter-vertrauensverlust-21534

#hpd.de #Leerdenker #FCKafd #Verschwörungserzählungen

My mom brought this to my attention and I was sure that there was something missing, because surely the #police would not #arrest and #detain a 10 year old over a drawing. Well, they did. This upsets me so much.

https://thehill.com/changing-america/enrichment/education/577666-10-year-old-black-girl-handcuffed-at-school-in-hawaii/

They say that race was not a factor but I am sure it really was. The police are now saying the kid wasn't questioned... So why take the kid to jail? Her mother was at the school, they did not charge the girl was anything, they just cuffed her and took her to jail knowing they had jack on holding her.

Their big statement on why this is ok? They asked the kid; that's their big thing. They trusted a 10 year old #child to understand her legal #rights, the implications of being arrested, and the implications of going to jail. She's a black girl. I'm sure that had nothing to do with it, despite #HPD having #DOJ investigation going for police excessive use of force... On and then there's this:

https://www.civilbeat.org/2020/07/aclu-presses-hpd-to-fix-racial-disparities-in-policing/

(Link to DOJ info; https://www.staradvertiser.com/2021/10/31/hawaii-news/doj-considers-probe-of-hpd-following-complaint-by-honolulu-attorney/ )

#Education #Honolulu #10YearOld #Race #Racism #BlackLivesMatter

Übrigens: Sind #hpd und/oder #GBS noch nicht "hier"? Also im #Fediverse / #Mastodon? Shame! #säkularerHumanismus

#HPD: #VerDi startet Petition zur Abschaffung #DritterWeg 👇
https://hpd.de/artikel/petition-ver-di-gegen-kirchliches-arbeitsrecht-21403
#Säkularisierung

#Policing #HPD #Race A question of race
Data: Black residents account for 72% of people seriously injured by HPD http://digital.olivesoftware.com/olive/odn/houstonchronicle/shared/ShowArticle.aspx?doc=HHC%2F2023%2F06%2F13&entity=Ar00101&sk=56A9F120&mode=text

#Lovebombing boosted with #texting is the equivalent of a #dopamine relationship speedball (cocaine and heroin). Separately, both love bombing and text messaging can create potent dopamine brain baths. Together, they’re a powerfully destructive combination.

Dopamine creates intense wanting that leads to seeking behavior. Seeking eventually leads to a reward – the release of endorphins and other feel good neurochemicals. Reward reinforces the wanting and seeking behavior that, in turn, leads to more reward. This is called a dopamine loop and it can be incredibly addictive.

Whether it’s wanting and seeking more validation of ever increasing love bombing in person or via text or on social media – you need more and more of it to get the same intense rush. Especially when everything is shiny and new, or rather, shiny and new narcissistic supply.

Therefore, when dating, resist the urge to text excessively. First, if you’ve met someone who’s not a personality disordered abuser, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. For example, you find each other on one of those god awful apps. And then you text each other like teenagers for two weeks before the first coffee date.

Dopamine! Dopamine!! DOPAMINE!!!

No normal human being of reasonable attractiveness can live up to a 2 week long dopamine binge. Regardless of how kind, intelligent and interesting they actually are. She or he will likely disappoint due to the unrealistic anticipation of the texting dopamine high.

Second, let’s say Dopamine Damsel or Dopamine Dude, does meet your wild expectations. She or he could very well be your next #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic nutter. In order to keep the dopamine loop looping, the reward needs to be obtained and then increased. And who can top the intensity of the pre-meet text-fest in person?

A person who can be intensely charming, intensely engaging and intensely provocative, flirtatious and seductive. Someone who’ll contort and shape shift themselves (i.e., #mirroring) into being anything and everything they think you want them to be to get you to fall in love with them. Again, it’s likely to be another #NPD, #BPD or #HPD nightmare.

Third, a person who’s willing and/or able to begin texting a stranger excessively from morning to night, well, I have questions. Like do they have a job? Friends, family or pets? Anything in their life that requires attention and responsibility? Do they have impulse control and self-restraint? The ability for delayed gratification? Hobbies and interests that don’t involve their phones, social media and dating apps?

Best case scenario, it’s another #codependent looking for their next intense dopamine relationship disaster. Worst case scenario, it’s the next disaster.

#AbuseHasNoGender

Ich habe ja den Verdacht, dass es sich bei den derzeitigen Vorgängen rund um den angeblichen Putsch in der #gwup um ein Lehrstück handelt. Wie Verschwörungstheorien erfolgreich in die Welt geblasen werden. Anders ist die unreflektierte Verbreitung dieses Narrativs durch vermeintlich seriöse Quellen wie #hpd nicht zu entschuldigen..

#NarcissistDictionary" "You're an emotionless robot!"

Of course, you're not really an emotionless robot. If a #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner or ex has ever accused you of being a robot it likely means that:

a) You’ve stopped telling the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD your
thoughts and feelings, because they weaponize them against you.

b) You’ve emotionally
detached and walk away from their #ClusterB threats, tantrums, rages, name-calling and victim playing.

c) You're freezing as a defense mechanism (i.e., fight, flight, freeze or fawn).

Relationships with #narcissists, #histrionics and #borderlines eventually devolve into an endless series of no-win situations, which can instill learned helplessness then despair.

You have emotions, but you've stopped sharing them because it isn't safe. Detachment is healthy in the face of repetitive, relentless pointless conflict. The healthiest choice would be to end the relationship and have friendships with people who don't mistreat and abuse you.

Ideally, detachment and disengagement is a temporary coping strategy while planning your exit. Long-term it's no way to live.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#Narcissists, #borderlines, #histrionics and the rest of the #ClusterB variety pack can be quite the historical revisionists. Yes, they're #PathologicalLiars in matters consequential and inconsequential. When they rewrite history, however, they almost uniformly transform themselves into innocent, rosy-smelling victims and portray their actual victims as villains.

Typically, they do this via a combination of #gaslighting, #projection, #DARVO, blatant lies, half-truths, distortions and reality TV quality acting. Even when the facts eventually come to light, they shamelessly deny, lie, cry, tantrum and obfuscate with #WordSalad.

While I understand this phenomenon in terms of their characterological pathology, I never cease to be amazed by their refusal to take #accountability especially once they’re fully exposed.

You've got video, audio or emails that prove the #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner’s or ex's lies and abuses? Spplffft! It doesn’t matter as far as the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD is concerned. They just tell more lies and play victim harder.

What they said or did last week, yesterday or two minutes ago is meaningless. They shake their Magic Victim 8 Ball and poof! It's time for freshly excreted self-serving lies.

They cry, pitch a tantrum, rage, pout and blithely ignore being fact-checked. They brazenly insist on their newest lies, distortions and false narratives and continue to deny, lie, gaslight and contradict themselves and anyone willing to listen to ever growing mountain of manure.

Then, when you point out the most recent pile of steaming, blatant BS, they're the victim and you're the asshole.

Narcissists, histrionics, psychopaths and borderlines don't see their cruelty, self-absorption, pathological lying and entitlement as bad. You deserve it. You make them do it. For that matter, anyone who holds them accountable is a bad, nasty person who's abusing them/victimizing them. It's completely backasswards.

Again, this is pure BS. The bad behavior is bad, not pointing out the bad behavior.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#WISSENSCHAFT
#hpd

#Klima- und #Biodiversitätskrise dürfen nicht isoliert betrachtet werden

Von:
Karlsruher Institut für Technologie (KIT)

#Klimawandel #Biodiversität #Umwelt #Studie

https://hpd.de/artikel/klima-und-biodiversitaetskrise-duerfen-nicht-isoliert-betrachtet-werden-21242

“True intimacy is a maelstrom of contradictory emotions: love and hate, attraction and repulsion, excitement and boredom.” (Esther Perel)

Bull. Shit.

This statement is an example of normalizing narcissistic, borderline, histrionic and psychopathic pathology. To put it bluntly, NORMALIZING NARCISSISM NORMALIZES ABUSE.

True emotional and sexual #intimacy, if nurtured and protected, can be deep, mutually satisfying and abiding. Intimacy grows gradually over time as two people come to know, understand, respect, trust and appreciate each other. True intimacy isn’t found in the intense, instant, projection-riddled, #LoveBombing seduction typical of relationships with a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or #psychopath.

True intimacy requires #reciprocity, #trust, #EmotionalAttunement, #EmotionalDepth and the ability to be #vulnerable (as oppose to weaponizing a partner’s vulnerabilities).

This is why many #NPD, #BPD, #HPD and other emotionally immature people call you their soulmate on Monday, and post selfies with their newest soulmate on Thursday. It’s why they rapidly oscillate between love and hate, admiration and contempt, etc. While their emotions are intense, they’re also remarkably shallow (i.e., superficial).

Intimacy requires two adults capable of emotional constancy. Not an adult toddler with wonky object constancy whose regard for you changes on a dime.

A maelstrom (i.e., a situation or state of confused movement or violent turmoil) in which one or both partners swing between love and hate, attraction and repulsion, excitement and boredom doesn’t facilitate true intimacy. Not only is this kind of emotional and psychological instability incompatible with true intimacy; it destroys it.

It isn’t advisable to trust, much less attach, to someone whose love and respect for you is volatile, changeable and, thus, meaningless.

#AbuseHasNoGenderThe

Wie Misstrauen der Gesellschaft schadet | #hpd

Gemeinsamkeiten von #Populisten und #Verschwörungsanhängern erforscht

Von:
#MaxPlanckGesellschaft

26. APR 2023

#Forschung #Umfrage #Verschwörungsmythen #Populismus

https://hpd.de/artikel/misstrauen-gesellschaft-schadet-21238

🎉🎉 Happy Publication Day 🎉🎉

Death on Cromer Beach by Ross Greenwood

Blog tour also kicks off today, my stop 4th May when I’ll publish my review 😊

#bookreviewer #HPD #BlogTour #boldwoodbloggers #bookstodon @bookstodon #bookblogger

#Wissenschaftsleugnung und #Geschichtsklitterung im Dienste nationalistischer Politik | #hpd
Von:
Udo #Endruscheit

25. APR 2023

#Indien #Bildung #Geschichte #Islam #Hinduismus #Nationalismus

https://hpd.de/artikel/wissenschaftsleugnung-und-geschichtsklitterung-im-dienste-nationalistischer-politik-21234

wüsche allen die eines haben ein schönes Wochenende, :) !

https://hpd.de/sites/hpd.de/files/field/popup_bild/230421_menze.jpg

#schönes Wochenende # HPD #pädophile Pfaffen #hpd.de/

🎉🎉 Happy Publication Day 🎉🎉

📕 The Librarian by Valerie Keogh 📕
📚 Published by Boldwood Books 📚

Blog tour kicks off today too, my stop 26th April when I’ll publish my review 😊

@bookstodon #BlogTour #HPD #NewRelease #boldwoodbloggers #bookstodon #bookreviewer #bookblogger

There’s really no difference between the #LoveBombing pedestal (#idealization) and the it’s all your fault POS status (#devaluation). While one feels better than the other, both are equally meaningless. They’re just different versions of the same #manipulation. The carrot and the stick are one and the same to the #codependent #PeoplePleaser.

Meaning, both conditions can’t simultaneously be true. You can’t be the most amazing, special-est man/woman ever and the most horrible person ever. Especially when a #borderline, #narcissist or #histrionic partner vacillates between the two extremes multiple times within the same hour.

But which one is true? Again, neither.

So many clients are easily manipulated by the mercurial opinion of their #BPD, #NPD or #HPD partner. It's the reason they walk on eggshells. #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder-ed people don’t have a cohesive, stable sense of themselves (i.e., #construct). Hence their rage and perceived #victimhood at the smallest and/or imaginary slight or criticism. As such, their construct of other people – including you -- is similarly unstable.

“You bought me a new car!!! Yay!!! I love you!!! Thank you, daddy!!!! Best daddy ever!!!!!”

“You won’t let me have a third cookie!!!! Mean mommy!!! I hate you!!!!!”

Therefore, any approval from a BPD, HPD or NPD person is meaningless if it can change on a dime. This becomes a manipulation tactic once they figure out the power they can wield by alternating withholding love or blowing smoke up your butt (i.e., variable ratio reinforcement schedule).

It’s all the same to them.

In my experience, these individuals enjoy being cruel more and resent having to love bomb or #Hoover. The overt cruelty is more enjoyable because of the contempt they feel for you for tolerating their abuse. I also suspect it makes them feel more powerful when their victim grovels for love. Contemptuous and powerful.

Furthermore, healthy adults don't change their opinion of you just because they occasionally feel irritated, hurt or disappointed by you. In fact, healthy adults can still love and respect their partner even when they’re super angry with them. And can do so without engaging in wanton cruelty or childish nonsense. Imagine that!

If you're still trying to make it work with a disordered partner because you don't think you can live without their approval, please understand that for which you’re tolerating abuse IS NOT REAL. It’s your codependency and need for external validation from someone who'll never be capable of giving it to you that's real. They'll continue to exploit your vulnerabilities and abuse you for as long as you're willing to suffer it and them.

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow

#Frauenfeindliche Islamisten treten wie Besatzer auf | #hpd

#Taliban in Afghanistan

Von:
Oranus #Mahmoodi

#Afghanistan #Islamismus #Frauen #Frauenrechte

https://hpd.de/artikel/frauenfeindliche-islamisten-treten-besatzer-21219

Das dröhnende Schweigen des Robert #Zollitsch | #hpd

Von:
Inge #Hüsgen

#Missbrauchsgutachten im Erzbistum Freiburg vorgestellt

Schlagworte:
#Missbrauch #KatholischeKirche #Aufarbeitung #Gutachten

Mit Bekanntwerden des Missbrauchsskandals in der katholischen Kirche kam die Empörung. Die Empörung der Verantwortlichen, dass sich Stimmen von außerhalb einmischten und Aufklärung forderten. Später gab man sich oft kleinlaut, verbreitete Lippenbekenntnisse.
https://hpd.de/artikel/droehnende-schweigen-des-robert-zollitsch-21220