CreativeAliza · @creativealiza
14 followers · 9 posts · Server hachyderm.io

It's been a while since I've mentioned which is part of my 😍 Today, I just updated Autodesk site lnkd.in/gKajUm9E by featuring a new project called Synthesis: lnkd.in/gedhGp7W Synthesis is a robotics simulator designed to help FIRST Robotics teams design, strategize, test, and practice. For more information on the product itself or the team, visit lnkd.in/gm6vA8mW

#opensource #loveLanguage #community

Last updated 1 year ago

Sophie · @Sophie
961 followers · 1975 posts · Server glammr.us

I just got back from a trip and look what @CaroOkay had waiting for me next to my pillow

#truelove #loveLanguage

Last updated 2 years ago

n_to · @n_to
327 followers · 1099 posts · Server digitalcourage.social

Meine ist -GebĂźhren gerne zahlen.

#gez #loveLanguage

Last updated 2 years ago

Shrink4Men · @Shrink4Men
16 followers · 58 posts · Server lor.sh

To wish the , or ex a happy birthday, or not to wish the , or ex a happy birthday? That is the no-win situation question.

1) If you don’t share minor children, heck no. Why aren’t you ? Be honest with yourself. Are you really “being nice” (vomit emoji), or hoping for some recognition that you’re really a good guy/gal?

2) If you share custody, I recommend helping younger kids (12 and under) make cards and gifts or purchase a nominal gift ($10-$20 USD). Most kids 12 and under are unemployed. Something extravagant feeds the monster. It's also behavior.

3) Once the kids are teens, acknowledging mom’s birthday, making a gift or buying a gift (if they don’t have an allowance or a job) is on them. If your ex’s is “Buy me lots of expensive crap,” you’ll likely get some fueled blowback.

4) Don’t expect a ex to encourage the kids to acknowledge your birthday whether you choose to help the kids celebrate her birthday or not.

Final thought: THINK MACARONI NECKLACE.

#narcissist #borderline #histrionic #npd #bpd #hpd #nocontact #entitlement #peoplepleaser #doormat #loveLanguage #narcissisticinjury #clusterb #personalitydisorder

Last updated 2 years ago

Shrink4Men · @Shrink4Men
10 followers · 45 posts · Server lor.sh

Reading books written for “” when your partner
has a is like reading a how to build a birdhouse
manual in order to learn how to swim safely with sharks.

In other words, it's not going to help.

A relationship with a , , or Cluster B variety pack isn't dysfunctional and toxic due to the issues non-disordered people have in relationships. The problems aren't due to deficient . Nor is because you don't "speak their ." And it isn't because you're from Mars/Venus and they're from Uranus -- or whatever not take -- bullshit excuse they concoct.

It's because they have an un/diagnosed personality disorder. Their love language is Crazy. They lack the fundamental emotional and psychological capacity to have a healthy and reciprocal emotionally mature relationship built upon mutual respect and empathy.

Furthermore, being more empathic, patient and "loving them harder" isn't going to help you either. That advice results in more , and -- not more love.

Again, the real issues are the , , character pathology, which can't be fixed. And your , , , etc., which you can work on.

If you want to learn how to have healthier relationships, read about how to best protect yourself from emotionally manipulative liars/predators and how to address your codependency and family of origin issues because nothing else is going to work.

#relationship #normals #clusterb #personalitydisorder #narcissist #borderline #histrionic #communicationskills #loveLanguage #responsibility #blameshifting #darvo #enabling #codependence #traumabonding #npd #bpd #hpd #codependency #peoplepleasing #traumahealing #abusehasnogender #themoreyouknow

Last updated 2 years ago

Dr Sukes · @susannahkirby
66 followers · 97 posts · Server hachyderm.io

A belated from a refugee!

I’m a . Zero-downtime migrations are my jam.

is a 3rd after & (). I’m holding the tech door open for other , , , & .

Being is an orientation & a worldview. Sharing information is a .

I’m militantly pro-. I love , , walking my , , , & .

#introduction #birdsite #fullstack #web #softwareengineer #software #career #mentalhealth #academia #linguistics #women #bipoc #lgbtqia #pwd #queer #loveLanguage #WorkLifeBalance #powerlifting #meditation #greyhound #reading #therapy #friendship

Last updated 2 years ago

last night my partner asked me for some background information on how some peer-to-peer software works and I got to do a big cryptography/data-structure/routing info-dump that I usually try to keep locked up in my head

#loveLanguage

Last updated 2 years ago