one of the foundational ideas I learned from doing #mensWork is to reject the label of "negative" emotions that's often attached to sadness, anger, fear, or shame. instead I try to meet these feelings as normal and healthy, let them just *be*, give them space to breathe and speak to me. it often leads toward insights & healing I didn't know I needed -- and that never would have happened if I kept the "bad" feeling at arm's length or tried to suppress it

NYT gift link:
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/21/well/mind/negative-emotions-mental-health.html?unlocked_article_code=sfYFumZHITZBQzpv9aXtkeKdFrMALKlpRkinX531HxuEhjYwQ2AqgYVgUWxksD4Uzx3FGg8zfou2JBnAsbWGYp7YOCfmAbzy5AJcfXYwK8XrbafqLKzkAtb0PTSqrwjYGFrUqMaH-2BIYmy8pWBcwMfuqZeH3wny1vH2NFg1nt_ZX891EcGE3GLBhrBM64-DH-RgwKNxqjae_jl34ihm7775E0rct1XHb1EqlSd2sYduDtjux313i8Q0ka5G8Qo3PWcFWwEKrWD_Qmeahc6gUkUoSpPV__-x09b8NowBKO7_SsVSstfrktYzBWa6pBJ1j4MN5UoLDSbjaxNUGpG06o360lbGZKqXFdec&smid=url-share

I'm co-leading a free "intro to #MensWork" session next week and I gotta say, I'm flippin' stoked. This is not a lecture -- it's an interactive experience where my co-host & I get to make space for men to open up about some of the shit we're carrying around & feel into the possibility that we don't have to carry it alone.

We're approaching it a bit differently than last time & I can't wait for the surprises the men who show up will create. Will you be one of them?

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wholehearted-masculine-mens-group-quarterly-open-session-registration-665664017997

you: smugly ragging on the collapse of corporate social media sites from the comfortably parasocial distance of your Mastodon account

me: yes, ok, doing that BUT AlSO inviting men to actually connect with our actual faces & hearts because it takes courage and vulnerability to create a network of true brotherhood and mutual support

we are not the same*

https://mailchi.mp/75ad6c8df386/mensgroup

#MensWork #masculinity

*but we probably have a lot in common! let's find out!

We've got a buncha new cool.dads around here recently, so seems like a good time to mention that I help organize an online men's group which

A. whips
B. helps me be a better dad and partner and all-around human
C. has a free & open intro session coming up on Tuesday, July 11

https://facebook.com/events/s/wholehearted-masculine-mens-gr/3488069741511362/

#MensWork #masculinity 🔄✅

rad dudes, dad dudes, men of all kinds: I'm co-leading an awesome virtual event tmrw night & it would be even awesomer with you there!

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wholehearted-masculine-mens-group-spring-2023-registration-556120721047

the Apr 11 session is a free, participatory "soft intro" to small-group #MensWork. we'll share our stories, find common ground, & tap into what we can do for ourselves & each other to be more wholehearted men, partners, dads, & all-around humans.

we're a growing community that's ready to welcome you as a brother. check us out! 🌳🔥🙋‍♂️

my men's group helps me:
- be a better dad
- be a better partner
- connect with my body
- connect with my emotions
- stay accountable for showing up as the man I want to be
- get support with my personal goals
- explore my hangups, baggage, and traumas
- create deeper and more authentic relationships
- feel less alone

we're having an open session on April 11, come learn what we're about and see if "men's work" works for you!

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wholehearted-masculine-mens-group-spring-2023-registration-556120721047

#MensWork #Masculinity

dudes can have little a [sharing the emotional labor involved in being functional human beings so the women in our lives can take the occasional night off from babysitting our underdeveloped capacity to be vulnerable with others], as a treat

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wholehearted-masculine-mens-group-winter-2023-registration-476766680977

#MensWork #masculinity #gender

this week in men's group: I've been trying to get in more exercise, so I asked one of the other members to send me a boost each time I report a successful workout. his messages are super doofy, like "yay, go you!" but they give me warm fuzzies and I'm staying more or less on track so 🥇🥳🙌

if you'd like to have more interactions like this in your life and "man" is one of your identities, you can join our winter '23 cohort here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wholehearted-masculine-mens-group-winter-2023-registration-476766680977

#MensWork #masculinity

".... it didn’t take much for man after man to access deep grief, rage, shame, brokenness, forgiveness, joy, or peace. There weren’t just tears, there were wracking sobs that came from the depths of the soul. There weren’t just shouts; there were screams of rage that came from generations of pain. Men grieved what they had lost and what they had done, what they had inflicted and what they had suffered."

#CharlesEisenstein, 2022

https://charleseisenstein.substack.com/p/i-like-to-fight

#MensWork

Another in the series of short answers to men’s questions…
https://youtube.com/shorts/Ki_Tf9KcWkI?feature=share
#Men #menshealth #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships #menswork

Answering your questions, men.
This week you asked, Is she the right one?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=u2BUQkB4A6k&feature=share
🔥 #Men #menswork #menshealth #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships

Thank you to the men who do this work, training their nervous systems to receive & hold more beauty, more love 🔥
https://youtube.com/shorts/lm3e-bTe6Pc?feature=share
#menswork #men #menshealth #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships

I should probably post something about my podcast. I mean, no one is seeing this just yet, but, you know, just in case.

So. It's called The Bind. It's for men and the people who love them.

Episode 2 dropped on 11/24. It comes out on Thursdays.

Links to most platforms are in my bio.

#podcast #menswork #howdoyouusemastadon

I hear a lot of masculine-identified men struggling with the fact that many women have raised the bar on what's acceptable from a date, a lover, a husband. Some are blaming feminism. Guys, feminism is NOT the problem. The problem is that so many of use are afraid to step up to the plate and be the men we're capable of being.

#men #menshealth #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships #menswork #feminism

https://youtube.com/shorts/W-OWs1KoCA4?feature=share

Learning (again & again) to hold onto myself. This is a basic & an important skill for us to learn, and especially if we are masculine-identified men. Holding onto our selves, gently, with compassion, helps create a safer world for all of us. And especially the women, children, and non-masculine humans in our lives.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zKT9HD5MZzs&feature=share
🔥 #Men #menshealth #menswork #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships

IN THIS SILENCE—Apprenticeship to Love: Daily Meditation, Inspirations, and Practices for the Sacred Masculine, November 22

My vulnerability practice for Nov 22: Feeling my sorrow and holding it gently, as pleasure, as beauty that I’ve resisted…

More at...
https://open.substack.com/pub/sacredbodies/p/in-this-silence?r=1bxf9g&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post
#apprenticeshiptolove #menswork #love #marriage #pathofthesacredmasculine #husbandman

Men, consider the women —yes, women, plural— who have given birth to the man you are today.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=je9R_zR8ufw&feature=share

#Men #menshealth #mensmentalhealth #pathofthesacredmasculine #authenticrelationships #menswork #polarities

In this episode of the podcast, and in keeping with issues relevant to International Men's Day, we talk about women, men, sex. My guests are men's sex and relationship coaches Aumsong Troughton and Melissa Bloxham. The title, "I don't want to f*ck if I can't feel your love" (this was the second of several conversations on this topic)
https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/vBcnfN0w9ub

#menswork #menshealth #sex #relationships #marriage #love #podcast #internationalmensday

Again, following on International Men's Day, another popular topic on the podcast is "Men communicating with women." Here's the second of these conversations with men's relationship coach Brandon Archer... https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/8HveD5xv9ub

#menswork #menshealth #relationships #podcast #internationalmensday

I'm going to be posting a few of the most popular/important conversations I've had in this week after International Men's Day.
The most popular conversation was with coach Max Trombly, about "Men & Divorce." Not surprising. It's one of the most painful experiences we as men go through, and we're not very good at supporting each other, or asking for help as we go through it.
Men, let's change this.
https://is.gd/egjHWX

#menswork #menshealth #divorce #marriage #internationalmensday #podcast