ICYMI:

Hey, everyone! I’m excited to announce that I’m continuing my series of workshops, and the next two are coming soon:

Practical Exercises to Build Self-Confidence
May 9th, 6:30pm PDT
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/may-2023-self-confidence-workshop/

Practical Tips for Stress Management
May 17th, noon PDT
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/may-2023-stress-management-workshop/

Details at the links above. Registration is free, but limited to 25 spots. If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!

#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I’ve written about this before, but it’s still true. I know that I’m blessed. I know that I have plenty to be grateful for. I know the benefits of gratitude, both from a research perspective and from a visceral, personal experience perspective. And yet, gratitude is something that I have to remind myself to do.

I’ve been playing with a morning practice of gratitude along with my meditation routine, and I’ve found it helpful as a way to shift my mind, even if just for a bit, into that space. But, even if it only lasts a few seconds, it makes gratitude more easily achieved for the rest of the day. Who doesn’t want that?

What’s your favorite way to remind yourself to be grateful? Let me know!

#limitingbeliefs #stuckinthinking #ownyourattitude #ownyourlife #mindshift #gratitude #attitudeofgratitude #intentionalgrowth #mentalfitness #blessed #emotionalhealth #emotionalfitness #stressmanagement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

Hey, everyone! I’m excited to announce that I’m continuing my series of workshops on being more successful, and the next two are coming soon:

Practical Exercises to Build Self-Confidence
May 9th, 6:30pm PDT
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/may-2023-self-confidence-workshop/

Practical Tips for Stress Management
May 17th, noon PDT
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/may-2023-stress-management-workshop/

Registration is free, but limited to 25 spots. If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!

#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“How long do I have to do these stupid affirmation exercises?”
“How often do I have to meditate?”

Do you find yourself asking yourself (or a guide, or mentor, or friend) these kinds of questions? Do you get frustrated with not getting results as quickly as you want? I can relate. Many of the things I’ve done for my own growth have taken far longer to bear fruit than I thought they should. But, the results will come. Read on:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/18/the-power-of-repetition/

Do you keep trying various practices for personal growth, but can’t manage to stick to any of them? If you’d like to have some help sticking to it this time, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#repetition #repetitionispower #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

Since most of us judge ourselves by other people’s personas, and since most people put on a confident show most of the time, it’s easy to think that being certain and confident is a requirement. It’s not. Being human comes with having doubts, or being unsure, or wondering what our place really is.

As I embrace my humanity and let go of the need to be perfect, I get to be more comfortable showing up in the world. I also become more effective, because I’m not fighting against my own mind as much. If you have doubts, that’s okay. And, if you’re struggling with your doubts, feel free to reach out for a free consult to see how I can help.

What’s your favorite way to remember that it’s okay to be human? Let me know!

#limitingbeliefs #stuckinthinking #ownyourattitude #ownyourlife #mindshift #selfawareness #thinkingtraps #personalresponsibility #mentalfitness #emotionalhealth #emotionalfitness #stressmanagement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #okaytodoubt #okaytobeunsure

ICYMI:

“I’m not smart enough to get into that school.”
“I’m not dedicated enough to be an entrepreneur.”
“I’m not good-looking enough to go out with him.”

Does the belief pattern of “I’m not X enough” sound familiar to you too? I spent decades mired in those sorts of beliefs, so I’m pretty familiar with them myself. But, I’m not there anymore, and haven’t been in a very long time. Read on for how I got here from there:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/11/im-not-enough-a-personal-story-of-limiting-beliefs/

Do you have limiting beliefs that keep you stuck? If you’d also like a way out, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#limitingbeliefs #discardinglimitingbeliefs #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“I’m not smart enough to get into that school.”
“I’m not dedicated enough to be an entrepreneur.”
“I’m not good-looking enough to go out with him.”

Does all that sound familiar? I spent decades mired in those sorts of beliefs, so I’m pretty familiar with them myself. But, I’m not there anymore, and haven’t been in a very long time. Read on for how I got here from there:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/04/11/im-not-enough-a-personal-story-of-limiting-beliefs/

Do you have limiting beliefs that keep you stuck? If you’d also like a way out, feel free to book a consultation call with me to talk about how!

#limitingbeliefs #discardinglimitingbeliefs #selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I’ve gotten much better at this, but there was a long period of time when I was too quick to insert myself in situations where I really didn’t belong. My intentions were almost always good, but I’d offer unsolicited advice, or try to problem-solve when compassion or empathy were more appropriate. Or, I’d try to be an active participant in a situation where I was really just a spectator.

Today, I find that I’m much calmer and serene as a result of keeping myself out of situations where I don’t belong. As a consequence, I’m much more able to be effective in the situations where I do belong.

How about you? What are your favorite strategies for remembering what is and isn’t an appropriate place for you to act? Let me know!

#limitingbeliefs #stuckinthinking #ownyourattitude #ownyourlife #mindshift #selfawareness #thinkingtraps #intentionalgrowth #personalresponsibility #mentalfitness #emotionalhealth #emotionalfitness #stressmanagement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“I know you can’t see this clearly, so I need to make this decision for you.”

If that sounds familiar, and it’s not in the context of a parent-child relationship or a romance novel, it’s possible that a mindset shift could help you be calmer, happier, and more productive. Sound good? Read more:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/28/let-other-people-make-their-own-damn-decisions/

How do you remember that other people are their own decision-makers? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #intentionalliving #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #success #ownyoursuccess #mindsetshift #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

LAST DAY to register for my FREE webinar:

**Practical Exercises to Build Self-Confidence**
March 29th, 12:30 PDT

In this webinar, I’ll discuss:
- Some brief background about low self-confidence;
- Several specific exercises you can do to improve your self-confidence;
- What you can expect through the process;
- My personal experience with all of the above.

Registration is free, but limited to 20 spots. You can register at:
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/march-2023-self-confidence-webinar/

If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!
\#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

One of my favorite strategies for getting out of limiting beliefs or paranoid, unpleasant thinking is to ask myself “How do I know? What’s my evidence? Where’s my proof? How else could I explain this?” and then take the exercise seriously.

Almost every time I try that, I find that I don’t actually know. My head is just making things up, and not to my benefit. If I can seriously go through this exercise, it almost always seriously shifts my attitude.

How about you? What are your favorite strategies for getting out of limiting beliefs? Let me know!

#limitingbeliefs #stuckinthinking #ownyourattitude #mindshift #selfawareness #alwaysthinking #thinkingtraps #personalresponsibility #mentalfitness #emotionalhealth #emotionalfitness #stressmanagement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I've still got space available in my upcoming FREE webinar:

Practical Exercises for Building Self-Confidence
March 29th, 12:30 PDT

In this webinar, I’ll discuss:
- Some brief background about low self-confidence;
- Several specific exercises you can do to improve your self-confidence;
- What you can expect through the process;
- My personal experience with all of the above.

Registration is free, but limited to 20 spots. You can register at:
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/march-2023-self-confidence-webinar/

If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!

#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“Oh, it was nothing.”
“I had a lot of help; Mary should really get the credit.”
“I just got lucky.”

Do these sound familiar? Many of us find it difficult to acknowledge when we’ve been successful, or accomplished something. Read on for some discussion of why it’s important to do it anyway:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/21/acknowledging-our-own-success/

What tricks do you have for acknowledging the things that you do right? How do you avoid minimizing your good qualities? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #confidence #selfconfidence #personalpower #embraceyourself #personalresponsibility #success #ownyoursuccess #takeyourcredit #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I was not raised in an emotionally fluent environment, and so spent a lot of time doing a whole variety of things to pretend that my feelings didn’t exist. One of my favorites was “This feeling doesn’t make sense, therefore I don’t feel it.”

It’s important for me to remember that even when my feelings don’t make sense, or aren’t what I want to feel, or aren’t what I think they should be, I still have them. I don’t have to act in any particular way just because I have a feeling, but I still do better if I can acknowledge what my feelings actually are.

How about you? What are your favorite strategies for acknowledging your feelings? Let me know in the comments!

#feelings #thinkingtraps #personalresponsibility #mentalfitness #emotionalhealth #emotionalfitness #selfawareness #stressmanagement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I've still got space available in my upcoming FREE webinar:

Practical Exercises for Building Self-Confidence
March 29th, 12:30 PDT

In this webinar, I’ll discuss:
- Some brief background about low self-confidence;
- Several specific exercises you can do to improve your self-confidence;
- What you can expect through the process.

Registration is free, but limited to 20 spots. You can register at:
https://brendontowlecoaching.com/march-2023-self-confidence-webinar/

If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!

#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset

This week I’m talking about our motives for doing the work. Although there’s definitely merit to the idea of doing the right thing for the right reasons, in my experience, doing the right thing for whatever reason is just as good. Read more here:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/14/the-weights-dont-care-why-you-lift-them/

Do you have experience with talking yourself out of something because your motives weren’t good enough? Or, do you have experience with talking yourself into something regardless of your motives? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #personalresponsibility #success #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #humanity #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #dothework #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

It’s easy for me to fall into the trap of thinking that things will never change, or that I will never change. When I think about anything else, I know that’s crazy—things change all the time—but my mind seems to want to think that I’m an exception to the rule.

I’m not. I’m changing all the time, and I can choose to direct those changes in ways that are useful and productive (and fun!). And, this means that I’m not bound by my past limitations. If I’ve never previously been able to do something, I can still learn how to do it. If I’ve always made the same mistake, I can learn how to make new ones (or do something that isn’t a mistake).

How about you? What are your favorite strategies to remember that you’re still growing? Let me know in the comments!

#mindset #responsibility #personalresponsibility #ownyourlife #thinkingtraps #progressnotperfection #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

ICYMI, for the weekend crowd:

“I’ll be successful when I buy my first house.”
“I’ll be successful when I graduate from school.”
“I’ll be successful when I get married.”

Have you played this game before? In addition to being vulnerable to our tendency to move the goalposts, many of these definitions of success don’t actually correspond to what we think is valuable or meaningful. This week I’m talking about some alternate ways to define success:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/07/whats-your-definition-of-success/

What’s your experience with defining success? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #personalresponsibility #success #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #humanity #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #innerpeace #calm #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

I’m really excited to announce the first in a series of webinars on personal growth:

Practical Exercises for Building Self-Confidence

In this webinar, I’ll discuss:
- Some brief background about low self-confidence;
- Several specific exercises you can do to improve your self-confidence;
- What you can expect through the process.
Registration is free, but limited to 20 spots. You can register at:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/march-2023-self-confidence-webinar/

If this isn’t for you, tell your friends. Looking forward to seeing you (or your friends) there!

#selfconfidence #confidence #webinar #successmindset #mindsetcoaching #success #ownyourlife #mentalfitness #mindshift #persistence #grit #intentionalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching

“When I buy my first house, I’ll be successful.”
“When I graduate from school, I’ll be successful.”
“When I get married, I’ll be successful.”

Have you also played this game before? In addition to being vulnerable to moving the goalposts, many of these definitions of success don’t actually correspond to what we think is valuable or meaningful. This week I’m talking about some alternate ways to define success:

https://brendontowlecoaching.com/2023/03/07/whats-your-definition-of-success/

What’s your experience with defining success? Share in the comments!

#selftalk #personalresponsibility #success #progressnotperfection #intentionalgrowth #humanity #mindshift #thinkingtraps #mentalfitness #mentalwellness #innerpeace #calm #professionalcoach #successmindset #mindsetcoaching