#Lovebombing boosted with #texting is the equivalent of a #dopamine relationship speedball (cocaine and heroin). Separately, both love bombing and text messaging can create potent dopamine brain baths. Together, they’re a powerfully destructive combination.

Dopamine creates intense wanting that leads to seeking behavior. Seeking eventually leads to a reward – the release of endorphins and other feel good neurochemicals. Reward reinforces the wanting and seeking behavior that, in turn, leads to more reward. This is called a dopamine loop and it can be incredibly addictive.

Whether it’s wanting and seeking more validation of ever increasing love bombing in person or via text or on social media – you need more and more of it to get the same intense rush. Especially when everything is shiny and new, or rather, shiny and new narcissistic supply.

Therefore, when dating, resist the urge to text excessively. First, if you’ve met someone who’s not a personality disordered abuser, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. For example, you find each other on one of those god awful apps. And then you text each other like teenagers for two weeks before the first coffee date.

Dopamine! Dopamine!! DOPAMINE!!!

No normal human being of reasonable attractiveness can live up to a 2 week long dopamine binge. Regardless of how kind, intelligent and interesting they actually are. She or he will likely disappoint due to the unrealistic anticipation of the texting dopamine high.

Second, let’s say Dopamine Damsel or Dopamine Dude, does meet your wild expectations. She or he could very well be your next #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic nutter. In order to keep the dopamine loop looping, the reward needs to be obtained and then increased. And who can top the intensity of the pre-meet text-fest in person?

A person who can be intensely charming, intensely engaging and intensely provocative, flirtatious and seductive. Someone who’ll contort and shape shift themselves (i.e., #mirroring) into being anything and everything they think you want them to be to get you to fall in love with them. Again, it’s likely to be another #NPD, #BPD or #HPD nightmare.

Third, a person who’s willing and/or able to begin texting a stranger excessively from morning to night, well, I have questions. Like do they have a job? Friends, family or pets? Anything in their life that requires attention and responsibility? Do they have impulse control and self-restraint? The ability for delayed gratification? Hobbies and interests that don’t involve their phones, social media and dating apps?

Best case scenario, it’s another #codependent looking for their next intense dopamine relationship disaster. Worst case scenario, it’s the next disaster.

#AbuseHasNoGender

I see things
#BB #Poland #Architecture #Building #House #Outdoors #Window #SashWindow #Glass
#mirroring #photography #drolasoru

Castify è meglio di Web Video Caster?
#Castify #WebVideoCaster #streaming #mirroring #cast #GoogleCast #SmartTV #Roku #app #DLNA
https://guruhitech.com/castify-e-meglio-di-web-video-caster/

I have a minor gripe with modern video apps (#videoblogging, #videoconferencing, #videochat… basically every app where the user has a camera pointed at themselves, and the app renders a preview of the camera's perspective).

I've been using #webcams since the 640x480 days, and the early implementations were all set up very intuitively. The preview would always show a #MirrorImage of the camera's input, while the actual video, whether it was recorded, broadcast, or whatever, was left unmodified. This was great!

But sometime in the last decade or so, all the video apps started doing this annoying thing where they give the user an option to toggle the #mirroring effect, but that's exactly the problem – they treat it like any other effect! When you turn mirroring on, it's on for both your own preview AND for the actual video, and vice versa.

Why on earth did they do this? When I'm on a video call, I want my preview to be mirrored, but I want everyone else to see the unmodified video! 🤬

Had to see how far I’d end up squeezing it, and this is how far.
The New Year’s original had its certain sad #SilentSunday vibe to it, so I’m connecting them by replying to that post.

#StairSunday #SurrealSunday #photography #fotografie #fotographie #BlackAndWhite #SchwarzWeiss #NoirEtBlanc #mirroring #DigitalArt #CyberArt #oronn

Shouting blanket statements about others, within the vacuum of yourself, is basically shouting at yourself.

#Listen #Hear #BlanketStatements #Reflection #Mirroring

⚡🏠🦢 Mirroring 🦢🏠⚡

#photo #photography #lake #chautla #nature #mirroring #puebla #photographers #tourism #landscapes

We keep aiming for free mirrors for our ZIM files in Asia, where so many from our users are located. See https://master.download.kiwix.org/README #FOSS #mirroring #Asia #datahoarder

@lauren
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#FOSS #Privacy #Mirroring

@lauren
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#FOSS #Privacy #Mirroring

Salzgewinnung in Aigues-Mortes (Camargue, #Frankreich) für das weit bekannte #FleurDuSel.

Salt extraction in Aigues-Mortes (#Camargue, #France) for the well-known #FleurDuSel.

#silentsunday #fotografie #Salz #Natur #Nahrungsmittel #Spiegelung #photography #salt #nature #nutrition #mirroring

There’s a big difference between being #alone and feeling all alone. Typically, clients often feel less lonely/all alone as singles than when with their exes. That’s because you are alone in a relationship with a #narcissist, #borderline, #histionic or #psychopath.

Alone in effort, #intimacy peace-keeping, problem-solving, etc. Your needs, feelings and wants don’t matter. You only exist as an ego-gratifying object and scapegoat. Presumably, you’re also all alone in terms of emotional and psychological maturity, empathy, accountability, integrity and conscience. In some ways, you’re the single parent of an angry, cruel, selfish, pathologically dishonest, destructive adult toddler you can’t put in timeout. In this respect, I agree that being a single parent of an adult toddler is the toughest job there is ; )

Why are you all alone in a relationship with a #BPD, #NPD, #HPD?

1) The #lovebomb version of them at the beginning of the relationship wasn’t real. It’s a patchwork of #idealization, #mirroring, #projection, #TraumaBonding via #intensity and #bullshit.

2) It’s impossible for an adult to have an equal/equitable partnership with a child. This includes the #AdultToddler of the #ClusterB variety pack. They don’t want a partner; they want enablers. Even if you enable like an Olympic champion-level doormat/nanny/ego fluffer, they’ll eventually resent you for that, too. And then, the more you enable them – which is super unhealthy, btw – the worse they treat you.

3) Relationships with BPD/NPD/HPD aren’t two-way streets (i.e., mutual and reciprocal). They’re one-way streets paved with double standards. These individuals are pathologically self-absorbed and selfish.

4) After the #LoveBombing stage, you become a screen onto which they #project all of their flaws and psychological sewage. Objective reality is irrelevant.

You are alone in these relationships because you never really existed to them in the first place. Meaning, they never really appreciate a partner for who they truly are. But rather how willing you are to:

- Tolerate abuse and exploitation.
- #Enable them.
- Sacrifice/care for them without getting anything in return.
- Never hold them accountable.

Basically, any #codependent, trauma bond/ #RepetitionCompulsion/ #PeoplePleaser/ #fixer/ #resuer will do.

Therefore, isn’t it better to be alone than to feel all alone in a #ToxicRelationship? Or, to be alone rather than wish you were alone? Table for one, please!

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow

1/2 the oak tree:

#mirroring - reminiscent of child-like kaleidoscopes. But l can’t help but love what it can #manifest. I am absorbed by the mythical god like entities, that if we cared to look properly, thriving ecological complexity is full of.

How urgently do our minds need to be far more engaged with the reverence, importance of ecological complexity?

#nature #EcologicalCommunity #photography - #climateaction #art

1/2 the oak tree:

#mirroring - reminiscent of child-like kaleidoscopes. But l can’t help but love what it can #manifest. I am absorbed by the mythical god like entities, that if we cared to look properly, thriving ecological complexity is full of.

How urgently do our minds need to be far more engaged with the reverence, importance of ecological complexity?

#nature #EcologicalCommunity #photography - #climateaction #art

Here is Flower, her tiny human, and her sister, Poe.
Poe and Flower were both born in December of 2019.
One cool thing about them is that they mirror each other, as seen in this photo.
They are complete opposites in almost every way but they still love a good cuddle puddle with each other
#snakes #snake #cuddlepuddle #ballpython #royalpython #snakemirroring #mirroring #reptiles #parenting #kids

(Also, yes, Tiny King had lipstick on, she had gotten back from a ballet dress rehearsal)

#⛺ #pictureoftheday #hrvatska🇭🇷
#vranskejezero #ptacirezervace #lakewakeup
#photooftheday #picture #instaphoto #nature
#naturephotography #clouds #wildlife #mirroring
#photoshoot #photoediting #mothernature #mistyclouds
#bluesky #peacefulplace #tranquility #rakosi
#foggylake #foggymorning #landschaft #blue
#foggymornings nings #lostplaces #olympusontour
#JardaRyjacek

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#Zagreb #perspective #photo #photography #sunset #evening #CityPhotography #reflection #mirroring

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Muffins in the oven.

#photo #photography #monochrome #blackandwhitephotography #BlackAndWhite #food #reflection #mirroring
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Mirroring.
Slovakia, Bachledova dolina.
Queue to the chairlift.
Staň se králem lesů Bachledovky.

#Mirroring #Reflection #BlackAndWhitePhotography #BlackAndWhite #Fotografie #Leica #Foto #Photo #Candid #Travelling #Slovakia

#Serve/Return
#Mirroring
#ExternalCoRegulation
#Dyad
#AllanSchore
#Bowlby
#MentalHealth