@hollie [good post! wearing headphones helps me deal with chores and housework, not always because of too much ambient noise, but some times because it reduces the chance of me being understimulated and being disrupted by this. similarly, i some times Like to be talked directly to periodically while doing housework etc (i dont like to feel forgotten/understimulated) ]

[my #ADHD wife has different needs for tackling the housework - were still talking about it and learning ]
#neurodivergentHome

https://youtu.be/3kS3gPMQuP8

[sharing helpful videos with my (suspected #ADHD) wife ]

[we Have to watch how to adhd's 'adhd friendly house hacks' video very soon - we have plenty of division of labour strategies but things are constantly lost, filed-on-flat-surfaces or in some interminable liminal state of moving from place a to place b ]
#neurodivergentHome

[fighting the sad feelings today by making spreadsheets and trying to manage the changes in my finances for 2023 ]

[it became my new favourite game last year after it finally became inescapable in 2020, and it has been teaching me and my #neurodivergent wife a bit about ourselves as we go ]

[finances always fell by the wayside as were were using so much brain power on other coping strategies in the past - the cost of struggling in ignorance. with gnosis comes resources ]
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@autoperipatetikos no worries. I feel like this is my #NeurodivergentHome and we should be so patient with each other on this amazing social networking instance. (#NeurodifferentMe)

That is what I want from this place, just #MuchPatience 😃 so feel free to use this as little or as much.

I hardly interact with anybody here, I just sometimes comment on people's posts and since I don't get many replies I kinda often feel it natural to not be too attached to the place.

[getting to spend some time with my wife after a whole week was lovely yesterday ]

[we did some #ADHD chat, some #autism chat, and reminisced about the different #executiveDysfunction challenges we have encountered over twelve years of marriage. its nice to have a new framework to understand them that isnt 'why do we suck' ]

[im greatly looking forward to engaging with our new #neurodivergentHome - theres lots to do and so many lessons learned since we first lived together ]

[like i heard on that podcast a couple of days ago that said '#ADHD doesnt just turn off when you go to sleep', were still #neurodiverse at home. i get sensory issues, decision paralysis, and meltdowns at home - its supposed to be my safe space. but my home is filled with assumptions that im neurotypical ]

[you can feel ashamed to struggle in your safe space, and its okay to frame this not as personal failure, but more of a world not designed for us ]
#actuallyAutistic #neurodivergentHome

@Fawn [i dont think youll do much harm by sharing ]

[my domestic life is a mess, and im moving into a new house soon! share away ]
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