#Spousification #Parentification #Psychology #MentalHealth

So prevalent, and often leads to #AttachmentTrauma and #CPTSD

https://youtu.be/TbmoR2Mz4cs

#Spousification #SingleMoms #Parentification #Psychology #MentalHealth

So prevalent, and often leads to #AttachmentTrauma and #CPTSD

https://youtu.be/TbmoR2Mz4cs

#EmotionalIncest #Abandonment #Parentification #AttachmentTheory #Psychology

https://youtu.be/QByahY5fuyo

#Spousification #SingleMoms #Parentification #Psychology #MentalHealth

So prevalent, and often leads to #AttachmentTrauma and #CPTSD

https://youtu.be/EeORJ0ICnRw

I had to take my roommates daughter to school one day when she missed the bus. The mom went to workout at the gym early in the morning. She instructed her daughter to come to me when she needs anything without asking me first. A 10 year old shouldn't be negotiating school and rides by herself. She shouldn't be left alone either but is frequently left alone since there are so many adults in the home. #adultification #parentification #childhoodneglect #childabuse #ACE #mother #daughter

Nothing makes me angrier than the adults I knew growing up prattling about how “sweet and mature” I was for dealing with living in an unstable home. You always listened so well to your parents problems. #Adultification #parentification

顺便提醒一下——
在照护者失职的家庭中确实存在一种问题，即孩童与照护者的角色倒置，这种现象称为#亲职化 #Parentification
很多家长酗酒/吸毒等导致抚养责任失职，或者因为孩子过多无力照看等，缺少照护的孩子会表现出「懂事」「早熟」，但这是不对的——孩子就是孩子，祂应当是一个被照护的角色，祂需要足够的爱与关怀才能健康成长。

而亲职化和家庭构成完全没有关系——单身父亲/母亲、同性家庭、乃至跨代抚养（由祖辈抚养），都是有能力给予爱意和支持的。换句话说，家庭中没有什么角色是必须的——爸爸、妈妈、双亲、血亲都不是，关键是要能够为孩子提供无条件的爱、关注和支持。

My roommate parentifies her children because she is psychologically a child herself and projects helplessness onto her children. They feel responsible for their own mother and fight battles for her while having few age appropriate skills in one area and a plethora of adult skills in another. This confusion will debilitate them later in life. #parentification #neglect #trauma

One of my favorite phrases from the #AA #BigBook is "what are we going to do about a thing like that?" (P. 81)

Today I realized my parents and brother have avoided adulting a lot & for years.

Followed by, I'm here trying to make up for it by doing industrial level #adulting for 2 weeks.

Followed by, I've been adulting for these folks since I was 11, that's what #parentification means.

But my dad's old & sweet & fragile & I love him. 🤷‍♀️ So what am I going to do about a thing like that?