@ShadSterling @futurebird @corbden

Is it #perfectionism that is acquired or rather some #realism on what human society is that comes with age?

Quoting #Gide [his|mine]:

“Anything new about [the letters|life]?”

“New? New?… What on earth that’s new can happen [between Oscar and me|at all]?”

“[He was|We were all] expecting an explanation.”

“So was I. I was expecting an explanation. All one’s life long one expects explanations.”

1/3

It is a truth universally acknowledged that a researcher who has just spent an entire week talking about her research and answering critical questions from others, must be in want of a week off so she can rewrite the entire paper. 😓

#PostdocLife #IJCAI2023 #Research #AcademicMastodon #AcademicChatter #perfectionism #writing #IJCAI

WELP

"Perfectionism doesn't lead to perfection; it often leads to avoiding doing anything about that project"

I did nothing to deserve being called out this LOUDLY.

(On the other hand, I may go ahead and finish at least two things that have been sitting on my desk for over a year--they won't be perfect but they will be DONE, and that's exponentially better than 'potential perfection' that never comes to pass)

#Perfectionism #Making

https://youtu.be/_gWBIKZhdf0?si=xg-IVKtNQhBgCwCG&t=168

WELP

"Perfectionism doesn't lead to perfection; it often leads to avoiding doing anything about that project"

I did nothing to deserve being called out this LOUDLY.

(On the other hand, I may go ahead and finish at least two things that have been sitting on my desk for over a year--they won't be perfect but they will be DONE, and that's exponentially better than 'potential perfection' that never comes to pass)

#Perfectionism #Making

https://youtu.be/_gWBIKZhdf0?si=xg-IVKtNQhBgCwCG&t=168

Now that I have a #library card again, I've been excited to start exploring my very long "want to read" lists. Included in those are #books about #ADHD (to better understand how Hubz thinks and communicates) and #perfectionism (soy yo). I just started this book. I do not appreciate that on page TWO, the author described me so accurately that the very next chapter might as well have been called "Just Kidding Matt, This Is Actually Your Biography."

#bookstodon #ocd

my ( #perfectionism / #impostersyndrome ) tendency to overthink things, as described by DH:

" I'm going to do a thing, and it's going to be a ..--**THING**--.. !! "

Objectif quotidien atteint en me mettant au lit.
#PerfectionAtteinte #perfectionism #GarminConnect

What I’m going to do when I think that there’s something better to use than what I use right now, or how I stop following influencers and do my own thing.

https://sylviamuses.xyz/2023/07/the-restlessness

#perfectionism #blog #inspiration

Sleepless In Alameda writes to Ask Alina for advice after a year of interrupted sleep plagued by anxiety, panic, and excessive worry.

https://alamedapost.com/features/health-fitness/ask-alina-how-to-catch-some-zzzs/

#alameda #anxiety #PanicAttacks #SleepTrouble #perfectionism

What if there's no such thing as a perfectly optimized life?

What if, in fact, the desire for such is making us (or certainly me) unhappy?

https://annehelen.substack.com/p/the-optimization-sinkhole

Worth your time, especially for those of us recovering from various kinds of perfectionism.

#Optimization #culture #perfectionism

📚🎙 NEW PODCAST EPISODE!

Great to speak to Google's former in-house psychotherapist and The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control author Katherine Morgan Schafler on #perfectionism.

Listen to the episode: https://rb.gy/htht6
Watch the interview: https://tinyurl.com/53399cvx
#books #podcast #bookstodon #bookRecommendations #perfect

“How to stare at your phone without losing your soul” was hands (and phones!) down the most clicked link from last week’s Hold That Thought newsletter

And for good reason.

Find out for yourself:

https://insight.witten.kim/posts/did-i-summon-this-app-or-did-it-summon-me-sim

Words: 369
Reading time: 2 minutes
Value: Getting out of your own way and getting on with it => priceless

#HoldThatThought
#procrastination
#perfectionism
#productivity
#coaching
#overthinking

The rise of #perfectionism – and the harm it’s doing us all

📌 Many of us believe striving for perfection leads to success. But perfectionism is counter-productive and can result in soaring levels of stress. The answer, believes Professor Thomas Curran, is to go a little easier on yourself

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/jun/04/the-rise-of-perfectionism-and-the-harm-its-doing-us-all

Perfectionism can have harmful collateral consequences. It affects not only the individual but those around them. It can feel exhausting, stressful, critical and lacking in compassion (for self/others), riven with inequalities, and, ultimately, impossible.

The rise of #perfectionism – and the harm it's doing us all.
#Psychology #Health #Anxiety
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/jun/04/the-rise-of-perfectionism-and-the-harm-its-doing-us-all?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter

You will never make it perfect.

Trying to do so is just another kind of being blocked: it stops you from making anything new.

Creative, good enough IS good enough. Call it done... and go make something new. #CreateIt22

#writingcommunity #artistsoninstagram #creativehelp #encouragement #forwriters #forartists #artistsofmasto #writersofmastodon #perfectionism

https://youtu.be/S8p4SOmkOAU

Letting Go of Perfectionism
Embracing imperfection can lead us to a path of meditative liberation. It's okay to make mistakes and not be perfect.
https://www.adambernard.com/letting-go-of-perfectionism/
#Meditation #EmbracingImperfection #MeditativePractice #Perfectionism

It’s my first time as #gitflow release manager this week.

So far:
• Overwhelming todo list!
• Struggling with #perfectionism and not being 100% amazing at a new thing the very first time round
• It does feel nice to have a high level overview of the team accomplishments
• Nice break from working on complicated front-end tickets of my own
• It is nice to finally have some understanding of the moving parts at the other end of the #software release cycle

Bad news, everyone, I just discovered that my game is literally unplayable. >:|

#pixelart #perfectionism #indiegame #gamedev #rpgmaker

RT @CRalphNearman
Super excited for this paper to come out soon in Behavior Therapy testing the theory of #clinical #perfectionism in #eatingdisorders A huge shoutout to my amazing & lovely co-authors @psychbren @amlortiz @CheriLev 🎉🎉 @uofl https://twitter.com/uofleatlab/status/1653832722408677379

"Perfectionism is the voice
of the oppressor, the enemy
of the people."

Anne Lamott

#Quote #AnneLamott #Art #Writting #Life #Perfectionism