Critics say Biden is old and tired. But so is his most likely opponent, Trump | Jill Filipovic | The Guardian
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/aug/30/biden-trump-age-presidential-election-2024

#Biden
#Trump
#Age
#CognitiveDecline
#Obesity
#Narcissism
#PhysicalHealth
#CognitiveHealth
#PersonalityDisorder

#trump #narcissism #narcisstic #personalitydisorder
Entering end-stage narcissistic collapse, Trump finally nears "bottom"...
https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2023/6/23/2174882/-Entering-end-stage-narcissistic-collapse-Trump-finally-nears-bottom

Three BPD sufferers break the myths around borderline personality disorder #bpd #personalitydisorder #borderline #mentalhealth
https://metro.co.uk/2018/04/05/three-bpd-sufferers-break-the-myths-around-borderline-personality-disorder-7429602/

There’s really no difference between the #LoveBombing pedestal (#idealization) and the it’s all your fault POS status (#devaluation). While one feels better than the other, both are equally meaningless. They’re just different versions of the same #manipulation. The carrot and the stick are one and the same to the #codependent #PeoplePleaser.

Meaning, both conditions can’t simultaneously be true. You can’t be the most amazing, special-est man/woman ever and the most horrible person ever. Especially when a #borderline, #narcissist or #histrionic partner vacillates between the two extremes multiple times within the same hour.

But which one is true? Again, neither.

So many clients are easily manipulated by the mercurial opinion of their #BPD, #NPD or #HPD partner. It's the reason they walk on eggshells. #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder-ed people don’t have a cohesive, stable sense of themselves (i.e., #construct). Hence their rage and perceived #victimhood at the smallest and/or imaginary slight or criticism. As such, their construct of other people – including you -- is similarly unstable.

“You bought me a new car!!! Yay!!! I love you!!! Thank you, daddy!!!! Best daddy ever!!!!!”

“You won’t let me have a third cookie!!!! Mean mommy!!! I hate you!!!!!”

Therefore, any approval from a BPD, HPD or NPD person is meaningless if it can change on a dime. This becomes a manipulation tactic once they figure out the power they can wield by alternating withholding love or blowing smoke up your butt (i.e., variable ratio reinforcement schedule).

It’s all the same to them.

In my experience, these individuals enjoy being cruel more and resent having to love bomb or #Hoover. The overt cruelty is more enjoyable because of the contempt they feel for you for tolerating their abuse. I also suspect it makes them feel more powerful when their victim grovels for love. Contemptuous and powerful.

Furthermore, healthy adults don't change their opinion of you just because they occasionally feel irritated, hurt or disappointed by you. In fact, healthy adults can still love and respect their partner even when they’re super angry with them. And can do so without engaging in wanton cruelty or childish nonsense. Imagine that!

If you're still trying to make it work with a disordered partner because you don't think you can live without their approval, please understand that for which you’re tolerating abuse IS NOT REAL. It’s your codependency and need for external validation from someone who'll never be capable of giving it to you that's real. They'll continue to exploit your vulnerabilities and abuse you for as long as you're willing to suffer it and them.

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow

Sociopaths like my roommate manipulate and work behind the scenes to discredit people. I tell people what they do. Sometimes you have to. Although it generally back fires as people tend to side with bullies or want nothing to do with chaos, this situation was easier because both the LL and sociopath are unhinged in our group chats where the rest of us keep the peace and work together. #text #roommates #home #family #friends #chaos #personalitydisorder

Anorher useless punk drawing.
#art #illustration #drawing #draw #picture #artist #sketch #bpd #sketchbook #mentalhealthawareness #dbt #darkart #darksurrealism #instaart #borderline #gallery #mentalillness #creative #instaartist #depression #graphic #soberlife #graphics #personalitydisorder #ptss #ptsd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #artovereverything #animation

#RedFlag: It seems like everyone's a victim these days. Yes, some people who claim to have been victimized have objectively truly been harmed (not the #MyTruth truth, which are usually lies).

Unlike #ProfessionalVictims, these individuals don't build an identity (and a career) centered on being a #victim. They seek support, heal, get on with their lives and are capable of having healthy, functional relationships.

Furthermore, professional victims are often the actual aggressors in their relationships. So, when a new acquaintance, date, coworker, etc., launches into their tales of victimhood and grievances upon first meeting them, exercise caution. Switch off your empathy, and ask yourself why this stranger is telling you such intimate (and possibly false) details about their history.

Best case scenario, they're freshly out of a bad relationship and are vulnerable (and not yet relationship ready). Worst case scenario, they're sizing you up to be their next #NPD, #HPD, #BPD happy meal.

Give people who do the following a VERY wide berth and don't share anything too personal with them (i.e., keep it superficial and arm's length):

1) Makes money from victimhood claims (especially absent any criminal complaints/convictions of the alleged perp).

2) Brags about being able to wallpaper their living rooms with restraining orders against multiple former partners. In this case, the restraining orders are trophies of the many exes they've abused.

3) Is an “influencer”/seeks followers and attention from being a victim.

4) Trashes their supposed #narcissist ex(es) online while taking support money and refusing to get an actual job. Extra caution points if they're continuously back in #FamilyCourt trying to take custody away from their ex over objectively stupid shit. For example, not replying to their #HighConflictDivorce name-calling, demands to ignore/violate the custody order at will and other petty dramas.

5) Still identifies as a victim and hates their ex with the same venomous intensity years after the relationship has ended. Non-#PersonalityDisorder people are able to eventually let go of their hurt, anger and resentment and move on.

If you choose to ignore these warning signs, odds are you'll become the professional victim's next victim.

#AbuseHasNoGender #histrionic #borderline #AmberHeard #DumbPrinceAndHisStupidWife #MeghanMarkle

Long road.

#art #illustration #drawing #draw #picture #artist #sketch #bpd #sketchbook #mentalhealthawareness #dbt #darkart #darksurrealism #instaart #borderline #gallery #mentalillness #creative #instaartist #depression #graphic #soberlife #graphics #personalitydisorder #ptss #ptsd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #artovereverything #insomnia #animation

My mother is amazed that all the cafeteria staff at her senior facility know her by name. “Because you’re trouble,” I tell her. She thinks I’m kidding. #PersonalityDisorder + #Dementia

There is no change without #accountability, #consequences, compassion and an understanding of how one's behavior and choices have impacted oneself and others. It is difficult enough for #codependents and non-disordered individuals to do this. And likely impossible for the people with a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder.

Change requires heightened personal awareness and the psychological maturity to no longer make childish excuses and blame others for the choices one makes as an adult. #DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is a cognitive behavioral management technique for emotional dysregulation. It isn't magic and it doesn't fundamentally change one's character.

It requires grieving one's childhood, leaving it in the past and doing the work to become a fully as possible responsible adult. A true measure of change, and in my opinion, the only measure of real change involves:

- The #NPD, #BPD, #HPD individual stops making excuses for their destructive behavior.

- The #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic 100% owns their behavior and choices without blaming others (especially their victims).

- Stop the victim playing and attacking and blaming anyone who holds them accountable..

- Accept the natural consequences for their choices without doing any of the above.

Same goes for codependents regarding their #codependency. #AbuseHasNoGender

To wish the #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic ex a happy birthday, or not to wish the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD ex a happy birthday? That is the no-win situation question.

1) If you don’t share minor children, heck no. Why aren’t you #NoContact? Be honest with yourself. Are you really “being nice” (vomit emoji), or hoping for some recognition that you’re really a good guy/gal?

2) If you share custody, I recommend helping younger kids (12 and under) make cards and gifts or purchase a nominal gift ($10-$20 USD). Most kids 12 and under are unemployed. Something extravagant feeds the #entitlement monster. It's also #PeoplePleaser #doormat behavior.

3) Once the kids are teens, acknowledging mom’s birthday, making a gift or buying a gift (if they don’t have an allowance or a job) is on them. If your ex’s #LoveLanguage is “Buy me lots of expensive crap,” you’ll likely get some #NarcissisticInjury fueled blowback.

4) Don’t expect a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder ex to encourage the kids to acknowledge your birthday whether you choose to help the kids celebrate her birthday or not.

Final thought: THINK MACARONI NECKLACE.

I can see you
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Gouache & Neocolor II pastels on paper - 26-07-2022
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#art #illustration #drawing #draw #picture #artist #sketch #bpd #sketchbook #mentalhealthawareness #dbt #darkart #darksurrealism #instaart #borderline #gallery #mentalillness #creative #instaartist #depression #graphic #soberlife #graphics #personalitydisorder #ptss #ptsd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #artovereverything #fuckthislife #icanseeyou

After the #LoveBombing stage, many clients settle for crumbs of affection in their relationship with a #NPD, #BPD, #HPD partner because that’s what they subsisted on in their #FamilyOfOrigin as kids. The unloved child within
holds onto the crap relationship out of fear of “losing love.” Or rather, what little love they can #PeoplePlease from a self-absorbed, selfish unfit parent and, as an adult, partner.

You’re not losing love, though. That's the lie of #abuse. In reality,
you’re ending a relationship with someone who’s incapable of love.

If you don't know how to love yourself, begin by respecting yourself. Respect your grown self and hurting younger versions of yourself enough to walk away from people who don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. A #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic partner is no more capable of love than a similarly #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder parent.

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow

Crisis - not answering calls from people feeling suicidal. Mental health services once again letting people down.

#MentalHealth #personalitydisorder
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-64235372

Beth Matthews and others deserved better. My heart goes out to her family. Mental health care is inconsistent and still not taken seriously enough. #MentalHealth #personalitydisorder https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-64156223

For anyone who’s ever been #abused by a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic, #psychopath or #ClusterB variety pack. Anyone who’s been the target of #gaslighting, #projection, #DARVO, #PathologicalLying, #EmotionalReasoning, #CircularLogic and other #mindfuckery and thought, Why? What? Huh? Does s/he know they’re lying?” Read this quote from #SpareMe by #PrinceHarry.

Furthermore, any #therapist, #psychologist or other mental health worker who peddles this kind of twaddle is not helping you. Best case, they’re just regurgitating something they were taught in grad school and it hasn’t occurred to them to question it. Worst case, they have their own #PersonalityDisorder traits of their own.

#NPD #BPD #HPD #AbuseHasNoGender #FactsMatter #ObjectiveRealityMatters #Markled

#NarcissistDictionary: “Your family needs to #apologize to me.”

#Apology demands are for imaginary slights, innocent misunderstandings and/or in-law boundary adjustments that wouldn’t be a big deal for reasonable normies. This is a power grab and domination move. It can also be a #DARVO and projection tactic. Meaning, the #MeghanMarkleisToxic demands an apology when held #accountable or is #exposed for their bad behavior. The perpetrator expects an apology from the victim.

As such, an apology doesn’t resolve the “issue” because the real issue is the character pathology of a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder. In other words, it won’t stop or get better.

Basically, “Your family needs to apologize to me” translates to “Bend the knee; kiss the ring.” And if you oblige their initial outrageous #ego, #ControlFreak, #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic #VerucaSalt demands, it opens the floodgates for more of the same and far worse.

I’ve worked with families desperate to reconcile with their sons, grandsons, brothers and uncles who’ve married a #MeghanMarkle type. It’s heartbreaking. In many ways it’s similar to losing a family member to a #cult. If you try to defend yourself or point how destructive the relationship is, it “proves” the #NPD, #BPD, #HPD #FalseNarrative grievances. Apologizing to “keep the peace” also fuels the false narrative grievances.

There’s not much these families can do until or unless the “#PrinceHarry” recognizes how they’re being abused, manipulated, exploited, isolated and estranged. Sadly, this usually doesn’t occur until they’ve been #devalued, #discarded and become the victim of a #FalseAccusation of #DomesticViolence and #ParentalAlienation.

However, in #PrinceSpareMe’s case, I suspect he has some Cluster B pathology of his own. In fact, I’m beginning to think it’s a NPD-BPD coupling. In which case, when they finally turn on each other it’s going to get UGLY, or rather, UGLIER.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#GeorgeSantos he is (likely) a #personalitydisorder and a #PseudologiaFantastica but whatever the case, his constituents deserve better.

#RedFlag: She has an erratic history of employment, unemployment and under-employment. Naturally, none of it’s her fault. Coworkers were/are jealous and she was/is a “#victim" of #discrimination, #sexism, #harassment, (choose your favorite -#ism), being too pretty/smart, etc.

Direct and indirect requests for money, a place to live, utility bills, gas money, car payments and other expenses begin. "But she never asks!" you say? It's because she doesn't need to. She makes some "who'll save me from myself" nosies and your wallet opens.

A few things:

1) Many people don’t view women exhibiting these issues as a problem. Society makes excuses for them and applaud men who financially #enable them. Whereas men who make similar poor choices are seen as undateable deadbeat losers. “Oh, look at that good man supporting his stay at home (with the kids enrolled in school full-time) mom.” vs. “Poor Debbie. Her husband is such a lazy POS. He can’t hold down a job and sits home all day playing games on his phone. Driving the kids to and from school? Spppppft! It’s the least he can do. I'd #divorce his broke ass.”

2) For you gents who see it as a point of pride that “your wife doesn’t have to work,” yeah. When she files for divorce and demands maximum spousal and child support, the family court judge will like order you to keep subsidizing her #entitlement and #TooSpecial to work attitude.

3) A good work ethic, good judgment and financial responsibility are desirable traits in all adults. An erratic work history is a possible indicator of:
- pathological entitlement
- a childlike demand to be "taken care of” emotional and psychological #immaturity
- inability/little interest in anything requiring effort and persistence (aside from getting others to support them, that is)
- inability/little interest in getting along with others
- possible indicator of a #PersonalityDisorder (e.g., #narcissist, #histrionic, #borderline, #paranoid, #dependent)
- lack of #empathy (i.e., putting 100% of the financial burden on one’s partner is selfish in the extreme)

4) If it isn’t already, this should be a deal-breaker for you for the above reasons and more.

5) I’m not a lawyer. Does anyone know if consistent employment can be included in a #prenuptial agreement?

Ignore at your own peril.

#AbuseHasNoGender #NPD #BPD #HPD #FinancialAbuse

I’m in pink. It just continued on and on. I stopped after awhile bc I was so upset. I included one nice comment tho. Which I came back to later today and someone else had made another not so nice comment on it. I don’t think I included it. These seriously made me cry hearing what people think of us. 2/ #cruel #Mentalhealth #bpd #borderline #mentalhealthmatters #personalitydisorder #mentalillness