#RedFlag: She has an erratic history of employment, unemployment and under-employment. Naturally, none of it’s her fault. Coworkers were/are jealous and she was/is a “#victim" of #discrimination, #sexism, #harassment, (choose your favorite -#ism), being too pretty/smart, etc.

Direct and indirect requests for money, a place to live, utility bills, gas money, car payments and other expenses begin. "But she never asks!" you say? It's because she doesn't need to. She makes some "who'll save me from myself" nosies and your wallet opens.

A few things:

1) Many people don’t view women exhibiting these issues as a problem. Society makes excuses for them and applaud men who financially #enable them. Whereas men who make similar poor choices are seen as undateable deadbeat losers. “Oh, look at that good man supporting his stay at home (with the kids enrolled in school full-time) mom.” vs. “Poor Debbie. Her husband is such a lazy POS. He can’t hold down a job and sits home all day playing games on his phone. Driving the kids to and from school? Spppppft! It’s the least he can do. I'd #divorce his broke ass.”

2) For you gents who see it as a point of pride that “your wife doesn’t have to work,” yeah. When she files for divorce and demands maximum spousal and child support, the family court judge will like order you to keep subsidizing her #entitlement and #TooSpecial to work attitude.

3) A good work ethic, good judgment and financial responsibility are desirable traits in all adults. An erratic work history is a possible indicator of:
- pathological entitlement
- a childlike demand to be "taken care of” emotional and psychological #immaturity
- inability/little interest in anything requiring effort and persistence (aside from getting others to support them, that is)
- inability/little interest in getting along with others
- possible indicator of a #PersonalityDisorder (e.g., #narcissist, #histrionic, #borderline, #paranoid, #dependent)
- lack of #empathy (i.e., putting 100% of the financial burden on one’s partner is selfish in the extreme)

4) If it isn’t already, this should be a deal-breaker for you for the above reasons and more.

5) I’m not a lawyer. Does anyone know if consistent employment can be included in a #prenuptial agreement?

Ignore at your own peril.

#AbuseHasNoGender #NPD #BPD #HPD #FinancialAbuse