Experiencing Healthcare As A Woman
https://medium.com/modern-women/experiencing-healthcare-as-a-woman-88f367baef8d #health #healthcare #women #sexism #medium #selfcare #selfadvocacy #mentalhealth #wellness #genderbias #life #personal #personalgrowth #spoonie #chronicillness #pain

10 ways being a woman sucks from the mundane to the life threatening. What’s one of your top 10?
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Continuing my sourdough wellness journey, detailing the symptoms of B6 toxicity common to fellow hypophosphotasia sufferers. https://medium.com/@gktaydesigns/adventures-of-baby-dough-tang-for-days-and-the-woes-of-a-woman-with-a-rare-illness-c76f26e4e98f #medium #wellness #spoonie #chronicillness #invisibleillness #doctor #health #baking #makingbread #selfadvocacy

When’s the last time you asked for a raise? When did you last sit and reflect on your accomplishments? I hope at least one woman out there can use this to help grow their self confidence (and salary!). https://medium.com/womenintechnology/how-i-increased-my-salary-by-45k-in-4-years-5d7509ba9660 #womenintech #wit #tech #developer #webdev #react #leadership #team #aws #experience #salary #tech #genderpaygap #accomplishments #selfimprovement #selfadvocacy #raise #promotion

5. Le conseil d'administration a été renouvelé avec l'entrée de l'antenne locale d'île de France et deux membres individuels Jessy et Nirina pour 1 an.
Rien pour nous Sans Nous ! #selfadvocacy

Autism medical alert cards are a thing! I found mine on Etsy, and you may want to grab one too.

Many of us high-masking autistics probably haven’t thought about having something like this, but there are good reasons we should consider it, one of which highlighted on this very card, which is why I bought it:

“Do not assume because I look ‘normal’ that I am not in crisis.”

So many of us have had the experience of being pressured to process input and respond to it faster than our brains can do it, and that pressure exacerbates the problem. If we otherwise seem “normal”, people are less likely to be understanding about what’s happening, and they may make unfair and sometimes downright judgmental assumptions.

When I was about 19, I had a meltdown in the middle of a therapy session. Neither I nor my therapist understood what was happening, so she panicked and called an ambulance. By the time I was in that ambulance, I was almost entirely calm, and the ambulance driver was understandably confused. At the hospital I remember hearing him tell someone “she’s just sad.” It was a humiliating day that resulted in a devastating bill.

I feel safer knowing I have this card on my lanyard. (My lanyard is my totem!) If I’m acting strange in any way, or need help, the card will not only provide context to overwrite their assumptions, but also information on how to treat me appropriately.

Plus - maybe they’ll learn something about autistic people in general that they’ll carry forward into their lives! 😁

#actuallyautistic #asd #autism #selfadvocacy #highmasking #unmasking

Learning more about self-advocacy in the DID community.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubOcWYovcdY&t=1218s

#DID #TheRingsSystem #SelfAdvocacy

#ActuallyAutistic #AutismAwareness #SelfAcceptance #SelfLove #Kindness #SelfAdvocacy #InnerChildWork #Values #BestFriends #Parenting

One of these days I'm gonna make a video I'm thinking of calling "Freedom in A Box." I get a lot of comments from people telling me that my ideas don't apply to their situation because, for various reasons, they don't have the freedom to apply them. And I have no intention of belittling anyone's specific situation, but I want to help anyone I can, however I can.

I spent most of my life in a gilded cage, but I felt mostly imprisoned by my own brain, so I look at everything from that perspective. We are all in some manner contained by the circumstances we are born into, and can feel powerless under their weight. I try to gear everything I produce toward the end of focusing on what power we DO have, despite these limitations.

While my brain was imprisoning, my mind was always free. My mind is the one interpreting the signals being thrown at it. (Some might think of the part of us that makes these decisions as our soul.) The more constructive ideas I'm exposed to, the more constructive the signals are being sent to my mind, and the more powerful my mind becomes. I want to share ideas that strengthen others in a similar way.

Despite the box we are in, the question is, how do we exercise what freedoms we have in that box in the most healing way?

Heimerdinger here gets it because he's 200 something years old. 😂 Who else loves Arcane??

#arcane #tvquotes #empowerment #selfadvocacy #traumahealing

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re more like genres. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly. And in turn, to respect that right in other neurodivergent people with similar experiences who choose a different path.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

Others can't POSSIBLY grasp the amount of work that flexibility would take, because we're the only ones with all the relevant data. No one has the right to make us change, whether we have a diagnosis or not, unless we give it to them.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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Is it ADHD? Is it autism? Or is it trauma? As Dwayne The Rock Johnson famously said - “IT DOESN’T MATTER” What matters is getting our needs met.

There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re more like genres. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

Others can't POSSIBLY grasp the amount of work that flexibility would take, because we're the only ones with all the relevant data.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

I really really really want to get a new video out, but dang have I ever needed to organize my notes! I've been making Notion documents that I'm calling "content buckets" where I'm compiling all of my ideas that support particular theses. This way I'll know I have all my shit together in one doc before I turn it into a script.

I have one script pretty much done though - we'll be talking about how our needs are valid regardless of diagnosis.

In the meantime, enjoy this blurry mysterious list of concepts we'll be exploring in the future. 😁

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#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd

Unintended Harm: Are We Still Accountable? 💔🩹💖

As autistic people we have been punished mercilessly for crimes we had no idea we were committing, so it’s natural for us to feel like it’s totally unfair to be held accountable for harm we couldn’t have possibly predicted.

Nonetheless, it is vital to our healing, and our sanity, that we hold ourselves accountable for harm whether we intended it or not. Because if we carry the belief that feeling wronged is only valid if the wrongdoer intended it, then we’ll believe our OWN feelings of being wronged are only valid if the wrongdoer intended it. And since we NEED our feelings to be valid, we’ll NEED the wrongdoer to have intent, so we’ll end up pinning intent on people who just didn’t know any better.

Instead of thinking of it as admitting fault, think of it as acknowledging harm. We need to stop being lawyers and start being humans. Yes, we didn’t know better, we couldn’t have been expected to know better, we did the best we knew how to do - but - we recognize, and care, that someone got hurt, and we wish that hadn’t happened.

If we don’t apologize for unintended harm, the harmed party learns we care more about being right than we do about their pain. People don’t feel safe around people who don’t care whether they suffer or not, and that’s perfectly reasonable.

#asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism #neurodivergence #awakening #awareness #findingyourself #selfwork #weareallconnected #cptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy

Victim Blaming 💔🩹💖 Clip from “Imagining Trauma as Spilled Milk”

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Sometimes we have to clean messes other people made in our lives, even if it’s not fair.

Some may see that perspective as victim blaming, but I only talk about cleaning up our own milk. You’ll never hear me say it’s our fault it got spilled. You’ll never hear me say that we can punch ourselves with someone else’s fist. We’re responsible for our trauma healing, we’re accountable for our trauma responses, but we are not at fault for the trauma itself.

And damn right it’s not fair. But nothing about life, from an individual perspective, is fair. We are all handed messes we didn’t choose, but still have to deal with. Our bodies, culture, illnesses, accidents, disasters, tragedies, lack of privilege? Not fair.

Trauma is no different. It’s another one of life’s random-ass challenges we gotta maneuver ourselves through.

The reason I talk about what we traumatized people can do to help ourselves, and not what abusers should do to help us, is because focusing on what other people should do feels pointless. I talk about ideas that help me, and that would not help me at all. I’d feel like I was hosting a circle jerk for self pity.

So how about we accomplish something worthwhile together and clean our fucking floors? 😜

#actuallyautistic #neurodivergence #awakening #awareness #findingyourself #selfwork #cptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy

Autism & Gaslighting Trauma 💔🩹💖 The need to live in a shared reality

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There’s an inevitable ‘autism-to-gaslighting trauma’ pipeline, because we have fierce aversions to discomforts that feel very minor to allistic and neurotypical people.

We learn that our experiences won’t be taken seriously, our needs will not be met, and we won’t be socially accepted, unless our experience is shared by others.

We need more time to process information, and we often need it presented in a particular way for it to make sense to us. Otherwise we’re confused, that confusion is emotionally dysregulating, and the outward presentation of that dysregulation is harshly judged.

#asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism #neurodivergence #adhd #audhd #awakening #awareness #consciousness #findingyourself #selfwork #spiritualawakening #cptsd #ptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #unmasking

During final wks till graduation, we're starting the process of finding employment, paying fees for exam prep, exams, license fees, & begining the long haul of getting the 3000 supervised hrs in no < 2 yrs. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Pacing ourselves, keeping our thoughts hopeful & encouraging & advocating for our own happiness & peace of mind. Comparison is the thief of joy. Fist bumps to everyone in this home stretch!!!
#classof2023 #selfadvocacy #msw #socialwork #capitalism #StayCurious

I wrote my first article on LinkedIn today. Just a friendly reminder that nobody is replaceable. Every single employee has value.

Which means you have power.

Use it to advocate for yourself.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/you-replaceable-matthew-brotherton

#Leadership #selfadvocacy

💫Permanences et réunions du groupe IDF chaque 2nd samedi du mois.
🗓14 janvier 10h30 (réunion) et 11h30 (permanence). Chacun.e est bienvenue.
📍MVAC20
#selfadvocacy
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Whether we are physically tired or find certain people tiring, we need rest. How hard is it to say something like, "I have a little headache. I'm going to lie down for a few minutes," to buy some alone time? Sometimes a nap is all we need to bounce back to 100%

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