checking on my Feeld pings with dread.

it might be time to update my profile for lulz again.

#SoPo #ENM

Someone on another platform asked her followers: What did you replace your ex with?

The responses make for some fascinating reading. I'm always interested in glow-up narratives, especially from women.

My answer: I replaced my X with ME.

That's my glow-up.

#SoPo
#LadyBachelor
#DecenterM3n
#CompHetNonsense

Had a very cool experience with Joyfriend A last night. A night of snacks, music, low lights, headrubs and scritches, talking about the ethics of editing the human genome to alleviate human suffering (he's pro; I've got questions), some cuddling and then cooling off in the night air.
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#BensonUpdate Benson Dubois is beginning to show a preference for being inside. He's more and more reluctant to come with me when I need to pop outside quickly for whatever reason. He just grumps, looks at the leash in my hand, and closes his eyes.

Heh. My plan is working. He's getting so tired of being with Mommy he wants his space. Heh.
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Joyfriend A: Do you want to own me?

Me: I'm #SoPo. Ownership is...heavy. But fostering....I could do that. Yes. You will be like my foster kitten.

Joyfriend A: [wriggling happily]

#Shenanigans #LadyBachelor

Everyone wants to be on my leash. I've only got room for one. And he's a thicc boi schmoopie face.

@magdalenahai #söpö

Why I'm #SoPo and date as un-heteronormatively as I can. (Shout out to the Joyfriends+ Heaux I spend time with.)

Because *who* has time to be a Feminist Studies tutor for her partner at this stage? Not me.

Yesterday I told a girlfriend that at 53 I'm basically dating myself and shenanigans-ing who I want, when I want, if I want.

I've got a drivers license to get and a passport to renew. Nobody has time for comp het nonsense.

#FLR #FeministPoly #ENM #DatingInTheBay #LadyBachelorWithADog

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8dMGhDx/

Checking in on the active roster today by sending a series of Signals. Just because one is #SoPo doesn't mean the Heaux don't need feeding+watering.

#Heauxtation
#ENM #FeministPoly
#Shenanigans

[looking at the updated roster]

Well, dang.
Things got uncomplicated fast.

Looks like getting Benson made me make some choices about my roster. Released a few and have a much leaner bench this season.

Heh.

#ENM #SoPo #FeministAndPoly

The thrills of being #SoPo:

Updating my Joyfriend chart, aka my #Heauxtation roster.

There've been some changes.

Heh.

Relay Bikes is pulling out of #Atlanta but on the plus side #Sopo Bike Co-op now has 120 city bikes…

Ei. En voi sille mitään, että olen näin #söpö.

#Laika #ÄänislinnanLaika #koira #koirat #DogsOfMastodon #mastodogs #DogsOfFediverse #dog #dogs

Joyfriend A: noooooooo!
Me: what? what is it? what's happening?
Joyfriend A: The A's are leaving 😭
Me: 😑

#sfba #oakland #SportzBall
#ENM #Communication #SoPo

We're finishing up the move for #Sopo Bike Co-op from our location in Reynolds town to The Met in the West End today if anyone wants to help load or unload! DM me for details (though I may be slow to respond)

We built some shelves! #Sopo

I'm going to be building out the new shop at #Sopo Bicycle Co-op today—Friday March 24th—from 11:00 to 15:00 or there abouts. If anyone wants to see the new shop or help build shelves, stop on by! Bring your own tools if you have any and I'll get us food! 680 Murphy Ave ("The Met") Suite 6072 #Atlanta

The local #Atlanta bike co-op, #Sopo is moving to The Met to share space with Free Bikes For Kids! I'm moving a few things to prep for build out tomorrow and it's the first time I've been in the fantastic new location! #FB4K

"Cashel Stewart, South Portland’s sustainable transportation coordinator, told the panel that his city has offered rebates of $300 for e-bikes and $500 for electric cargo bikes since September. It has given out 25 rebates so far, Stewart said.

“Bicycling is critical to Maine meeting its climate action goals,” Stewart told legislators, adding that “electric bicycle technology is particularly transformative and inclusive." #SoPo #SouthPortlandME #ebikerebates #Bikes4Climate #MaineBikeTooters

There's a joke that poly folks have a scheduling kink.

My calendar is another benign tool of control.

I mete out my availability like gold coins and watch a couple of them strain against their leash.

Heh.

#SoPo #ENM
#FemDom #KinkToot #SoftTop

I take a perverse enjoyment in the sudden silence from a man when he realizes my #ENM is not theoretical, and no, I really don't want to be his girlfriend or His Woman (yuck).

It's sort of a thrill.

Adrienne Rich asks what it would be like if women actively *chose* their sexual praxis without the coercion of patriarchy.

Well, this is one facet of what it would look like.

#SoPo
#FeministPoly

The bolognese turned out amazing.
Deep, rich, thick, hearty. It is sooo over indulgent.

In the last 45 min while it was simmering I dropped in a packet of Trader Joe's cheese ravioli and they cooked perfectly, too!

Mmm. I'll post a pic tomorrow.

I'm so pleased!

#Cooking
#LadyBachelor #LivingSolo
#Nesting #SoPo

Me: [reorganizing my Heauxtation chart]

Him: Am I on the chart?

Me: [slowly adding him to the chart] Of course.

Reader, he was not on the chart.

#SoPo #Poly #ENM #RA
#Friends
#charts