@subzero
Yeah, absolutely. And it's a rather sad state of affairs, given that submission by definition isn't weakness. To deliberately give up some portion of your autonomy requires courage, a decent dollop of introspection and building a stable relationship.

I wrote about that ages ago: https://www.silkenclaws.com/2018/12/22/submission-is-not-weakness/

Not to mention, to let someone else control you, you need to be able to have control of yourself first.

It's really why we need to separate gender from power exchange and make it clear that, while power exchange dynamics may appear to be based on superiority / inferiority, it's based on a mutual fulfillment of needs / wants.

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Another thread on Reddit, another sub guy perturbed by how to be masculine and submissive.

If you think being masculine means being dominant, you have some assumptions you should unpick. Masculinity and feminity aren't inherently linked with either side of the slash.

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