I feel like in the last year I'm finally understanding how trauma is held in my body, at least a little bit. And that there is a trauma healing that's outside of my conscious thoughts, somewhere deeper in my mind too.

About 3 years ago I couldn't have a good cry and emotionally process anything without triggering my chronic pain and fatigue. In the last 8 months I have been able to be present in my grief without the massive physical reaction. I still have some pain and fatigue but it's infinitely more manageable and doesn't prevent me from processing. Before I had to actively dissociate to maintain my body.

I can also feel like the secret inner resolution that's outside my consciousness for the first time. I never felt that before. Being at peace with something is very foreign to me. I believe that inner healing is why I am able to cry without pain again.

#trauma #traumaHealing #neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #disability

Tonight's trauma healing technique: a spot of interpretive dance!

I've always been really disconnected from my body, and hated dancing because I'm so bad at it. But just lately, I find a spot of interpretive dance to a song reflecting my current emotions real nice.

That means moving my body in whatever way feels right, whether I'm echoing the lyrics in my movements or just how I'm feeling. And it doesn't matter that I'm "bad" at it, because the door's closed, and so are my eyes, and if I bump into furniture a lot that's just part of it.

If I want to dance but can't make myself get up to do it due to ADHD and PDA or whatever, I just put on a song and wiggle a lil bit in bed until I'm feeling it enough to stand up and dance with my full body. And even if I don't--bed dances count too 🧡

Do you dance for your mental health? What does it look like for you?

#Dance #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #MentalHealth

always fun to remember that chronic trauma significantly reduces your lifespan AND makes it harder for you to do the things you want while you're still alive

#CPTSD #PTSD #TraumaHealing #MentalHealth

Great quote from Holy Man (1998)! Anyone remember this movie? How long will it take for us to let this type of messaging sink in...

#decolonize #traumahealing #spiritualawakening

📺 Holy Man is available for purchase on Google Play, Apple TV, Redbox, Vudu, Amazon Prime Video, and YouTube. 📺

Anyone else here love The OA? This quote hit hard. #cptsd #traumahealing

One of these days I'm gonna make a video I'm thinking of calling "Freedom in A Box." I get a lot of comments from people telling me that my ideas don't apply to their situation because, for various reasons, they don't have the freedom to apply them. And I have no intention of belittling anyone's specific situation, but I want to help anyone I can, however I can.

I spent most of my life in a gilded cage, but I felt mostly imprisoned by my own brain, so I look at everything from that perspective. We are all in some manner contained by the circumstances we are born into, and can feel powerless under their weight. I try to gear everything I produce toward the end of focusing on what power we DO have, despite these limitations.

While my brain was imprisoning, my mind was always free. My mind is the one interpreting the signals being thrown at it. (Some might think of the part of us that makes these decisions as our soul.) The more constructive ideas I'm exposed to, the more constructive the signals are being sent to my mind, and the more powerful my mind becomes. I want to share ideas that strengthen others in a similar way.

Despite the box we are in, the question is, how do we exercise what freedoms we have in that box in the most healing way?

Heimerdinger here gets it because he's 200 something years old. 😂 Who else loves Arcane??

#arcane #tvquotes #empowerment #selfadvocacy #traumahealing

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re more like genres. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly. And in turn, to respect that right in other neurodivergent people with similar experiences who choose a different path.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

Others can't POSSIBLY grasp the amount of work that flexibility would take, because we're the only ones with all the relevant data. No one has the right to make us change, whether we have a diagnosis or not, unless we give it to them.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

We’re Valid Regardless of Diagnosis 💔🩹💖 Our needs are our business

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Is it ADHD? Is it autism? Or is it trauma? As Dwayne The Rock Johnson famously said - “IT DOESN’T MATTER” What matters is getting our needs met.

There appears to be an underlying belief that our needs are only valid if they’re justified by the right diagnosis. But these diagnoses should have absolutely zero impact on how we feel about ourselves. At all.

They aren’t the empirical judgment of God Himself. Nor are they comparable to testing positive for lupus, or having a CT scan that reveals a tumor. One day, it may very well be a diagnostic standard to “scan” the brain for definitive markers of neurodivergence, but when that happens, the labels and their criteria will inevitably change accordingly.

The experiences and behaviors we associate with diagnoses ARE things, but diagnoses in and of themselves are not. They’re more like genres. They’re circles around traits drawn by fallible humans, and they change shape every day. Even if our neurodivergence is assessed by an educated professional, that professional is making an educated guess based on these circles. The ‘truth’ is a big blurry mess of genes, environment, and trauma, crashing into each other.

So it’s reasonable, and our right, to decide for ourselves the best way to frame our divergence and care for ourselves accordingly.

WE decide what we want out of life, what aspects of our divergence are in our way, and whether we want to be flexible about our needs.

Others can't POSSIBLY grasp the amount of work that flexibility would take, because we're the only ones with all the relevant data.

#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd #adhd

I really really really want to get a new video out, but dang have I ever needed to organize my notes! I've been making Notion documents that I'm calling "content buckets" where I'm compiling all of my ideas that support particular theses. This way I'll know I have all my shit together in one doc before I turn it into a script.

I have one script pretty much done though - we'll be talking about how our needs are valid regardless of diagnosis.

In the meantime, enjoy this blurry mysterious list of concepts we'll be exploring in the future. 😁

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#traumahealing #actuallyautistic #audhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #autistic #autism #awareness #cptsd #spiritualawakening #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #selfwork #findingyourself #healing #asd

https://www.jennifersweeton.com/heres-your-brain-on-trauma/ Recommend this article: #trauma #traumahealing #brainhealth #neuroscience #PTSD

Unintended Harm: Are We Still Accountable? 💔🩹💖

As autistic people we have been punished mercilessly for crimes we had no idea we were committing, so it’s natural for us to feel like it’s totally unfair to be held accountable for harm we couldn’t have possibly predicted.

Nonetheless, it is vital to our healing, and our sanity, that we hold ourselves accountable for harm whether we intended it or not. Because if we carry the belief that feeling wronged is only valid if the wrongdoer intended it, then we’ll believe our OWN feelings of being wronged are only valid if the wrongdoer intended it. And since we NEED our feelings to be valid, we’ll NEED the wrongdoer to have intent, so we’ll end up pinning intent on people who just didn’t know any better.

Instead of thinking of it as admitting fault, think of it as acknowledging harm. We need to stop being lawyers and start being humans. Yes, we didn’t know better, we couldn’t have been expected to know better, we did the best we knew how to do - but - we recognize, and care, that someone got hurt, and we wish that hadn’t happened.

If we don’t apologize for unintended harm, the harmed party learns we care more about being right than we do about their pain. People don’t feel safe around people who don’t care whether they suffer or not, and that’s perfectly reasonable.

#asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism #neurodivergence #awakening #awareness #findingyourself #selfwork #weareallconnected #cptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy

“My goal for today is to make it to tomorrow.

My goal for this week is to make it to next week.

My goal for this month is to make it to the end of the year.

Beyond that, I don't know what the goal is.
~ Kelli Murbach”

#goals #ApproachToLife #LivingWhole #BeingHuman #HealingPathTruths #TraumaHealing #RecoveryPath #ComplexTraumaHealing

Tonight’s Life Support Moment

Remembering that the life I want includes not yaking in two hours due to acid reflux and choosing to put the ice cream away uneaten.

#LifeSupport #LifeSupportParadigm #ReframingSelfCare #SelfCare #ApproachToLife #LivingWhole #BeingHuman #HealingPathTruths #TraumaHealing #RecoveryPath#ComplexTraumaHealing

In trying to round out the concept of life support (doing the things tyou need to do to have the life you want) and understand how that works in my life from a holistic perspective, I created the Life Support Paradigm

https://medium.com/p/1acb7f8e5045

#LifeSupport #LifeSupportParadigm #ReframingSelfCare #SelfCare #ApproachToLife #LivingWhole #BeingHuman #HealingPathTruths #TraumaHealing #ComplexTraumaHealing #RecoveryPath

“Trauma and attachment…get in our way from really being the most we can be – the most expanded part of ourselves.”

Those are comments by Diane Poole Heller, a psychotherapist “specializing in trauma recovery and the healing of early attachment wounds, especially as they affect our adult relationships.”

Listen to her comments in podcast episode in this article:
How attachment styles and trauma impact our lives and relationships https://thecreativemind.net/8392/how-attachment-styles-and-trauma-impact-our-lives-and-relationships/

#traumahealing #trauma #relationships

"I’m trying to live my life as if I’m walking a path and not fighting a war. The challenges are hills, rocks, and rivers. This perspective is what I need if I want to live a life free of over-armoring and connected to the world." ~Kelli Murbach

#ApproachToLife
#LiveWhole
#TraumaHealing
#RecoveryPath
#BeingHuman

Victim Blaming 💔🩹💖 Clip from “Imagining Trauma as Spilled Milk”

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Sometimes we have to clean messes other people made in our lives, even if it’s not fair.

Some may see that perspective as victim blaming, but I only talk about cleaning up our own milk. You’ll never hear me say it’s our fault it got spilled. You’ll never hear me say that we can punch ourselves with someone else’s fist. We’re responsible for our trauma healing, we’re accountable for our trauma responses, but we are not at fault for the trauma itself.

And damn right it’s not fair. But nothing about life, from an individual perspective, is fair. We are all handed messes we didn’t choose, but still have to deal with. Our bodies, culture, illnesses, accidents, disasters, tragedies, lack of privilege? Not fair.

Trauma is no different. It’s another one of life’s random-ass challenges we gotta maneuver ourselves through.

The reason I talk about what we traumatized people can do to help ourselves, and not what abusers should do to help us, is because focusing on what other people should do feels pointless. I talk about ideas that help me, and that would not help me at all. I’d feel like I was hosting a circle jerk for self pity.

So how about we accomplish something worthwhile together and clean our fucking floors? 😜

#actuallyautistic #neurodivergence #awakening #awareness #findingyourself #selfwork #cptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy

Autism & Gaslighting Trauma 💔🩹💖 The need to live in a shared reality

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There’s an inevitable ‘autism-to-gaslighting trauma’ pipeline, because we have fierce aversions to discomforts that feel very minor to allistic and neurotypical people.

We learn that our experiences won’t be taken seriously, our needs will not be met, and we won’t be socially accepted, unless our experience is shared by others.

We need more time to process information, and we often need it presented in a particular way for it to make sense to us. Otherwise we’re confused, that confusion is emotionally dysregulating, and the outward presentation of that dysregulation is harshly judged.

#asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism #neurodivergence #adhd #audhd #awakening #awareness #consciousness #findingyourself #selfwork #spiritualawakening #cptsd #ptsd #healing #traumahealing #selfawareness #selfadvocacy #unmasking

Anna Kendrick on 'Alice, Darling' and living in an abusive relationship

Anna Kendrick has commented about starring in the movie ‘Alice, Darling’ which she helped get made as an executive producer: “I was coming out of a personal experience with emotional abuse and psychological abuse.”

Describing her former relationship, Kendrick shares, “I was in a situation where I loved and trusted this person more than I trusted myself.

"So when that person is telling you that you have a distorted sense of reality and that you are impossible and that all the stuff that you think is going on is not going on, your life gets really confusing really quickly.

“And I was in a situation where, at the end, I had the unique experience of finding out that everything I thought was going on was in fact going on.

"So I had this kind of springboard for feeling and recovery that a lot of people don’t get.”

https://youtu.be/euLbYRDCIcE

#abusiverelationship #traumahealing #psychologicalabuse