@docower nice read, was glad to see you added some positive examples at the end.
of course, times change and it's #VeryEasy to find examples of sexism and various -phobias in older titles, especially of the Japanese variety. things are getting better; however, there will always be sexualized fan service on both sides of the spectrum as long as libido exists, it's just a matter of making it tasteful which, like your Xenoblade 2 example shows, is easier said than done.
2 Ingredient No Bake #Lemon #Pie (No Eggs or Butter)
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