This is the best explanation of #grooming. Learning it is important to understand why stop the victms of glooming through violence will work as confirmation bias to them; of their feelings about their Groomers offering the emotional safety they haven't found in their family or community.

https://youtu.be/e61YHcYqWyo

When you talk with the victmes, not like an authority but listening to them, you are giving space for #emotional #safety, trust and #belonging, but this time as #community.

If you only study political #philosophy to understand power relashions without understand basic #psychology and behavioural biology it is going to be a problem to actually stop #abusers. Trust me. We all should have started from here: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL848F2368C90DDC3D

This is why #anarchists who have prejudices against psychology and behavioural biology, as far as calling Winnicott, Bowlby, Hrdy and Hustvedt as abusers apologists, as many of you did on Twitter, and claiming to know more about abuse than them, are not ready and prepared to protect the victms of Grooming.

If you are not ready to listen to your own member of anarchist community and scientists then you are not ready to listen to victms of abuse. You will mistake listening the victme for "respecting their consent" because you can only think about solve things through authoritative violence. As so many of you expressed on Twitter.

Cooperative breeding and #awareness of our psychology, #emotions and #behaviour from biological point of view must be our priority if is we want to actually understand people, and so #society, to consciously work for a society that heals and truly protects the most vulnerable against Grooming and other kinds of abuses. It requires a true interest on people to understand them and ourselves before anything else.

I know that being good at discourse, to dominate the language you are speaking as a native speaker and to have a reach and precise vocabulary according to each group you talk to is important to gain people's #trust. But more important than that is knowing how to listen, because if we don't we end up misinterpreting people for our #prejudices, confirmation #bias and repressing #victmes of #abuse that makes them feel more attached to their abusers. And lastly, it makes us fall for the egocentric, myopitic and prejudices of the ones who are skilled communicator, who become the personality of our idolatry.

#Anarchist Twitter (now Mastodon) has a lot to learn and grow yet, but it will not be possible when it remains a community of egocentric and authoritative academics unwilling to listen and learn from each other, taking for granted the prejudices and false accusations of their closed and isolated circles centered on idolatry of online content creators and Witch hunters.