getmisch · @GetMisch
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getmisch · @GetMisch
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Birds Books and Bullshit · @NanoBookReview
291 followers · 724 posts · Server zirk.us

The challenge then, in saying no, is to express the need–the interest, desire, or concern–without the neediness. The neediness creates stress for both of you: a feeling of coercion for the other, of weakness and dependence for you.
You may have certain needs, but you don't need the other to cooperate. You would very much like them to cooperate, but if not, you have alternative ways to address your needs.

–The Power of a Positive No

#Books #quotes #no #Disagreement #negotiation #needs #wants

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Jon Bowie · @JonBowie
187 followers · 541 posts · Server universeodon.com

Must be to get

#spring #biffthecowdog #wants #gardening

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Ruth · @Ruth_074
409 followers · 3633 posts · Server mstdn.social
Sampath Pāṇini ® ✅ · @paninid
581 followers · 4487 posts · Server mastodon.world

The idea of “foodies” makes me want to laugh and grimace at our society and lived reality relative to human history.

Some folks at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs have self-actualized sustenance and calorie intake into a - sometimes - high-end hobby of privilege.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

We’ve set up extractive forces, abstracted away the costs, and are blind to the fact we live like - relative - kings.

#foodies #maslow #needs #wants #privilege

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C.L. Irwin :verified: · @authorclirwin
139 followers · 891 posts · Server mstdn.social
C.L. Irwin :verified: · @authorclirwin
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Ana Thema · @ana_thema
25 followers · 110 posts · Server kolektiva.social

I never responded to an article about it that came out a couple years ago, but I have been thinking of the " problem" a lot on and off. how can the production of things to meet human and scale to the amount of people there are now, in a system beyond capitalism?

got my utilities bill and even living alone in a small studio apt, I used 580 gallons of water in two months (63 days exactly) of normal life bathroom + kitchen usage. I conserve water a lot and this is still about as much as a hot tub.

there are 775,523 people living in seattle, and even though there is a lot of variance in water use per person, the only number I have is my own usage. if everyone used that much, it would be 449,803,340 for 63 days. per day, the city population alone, not considering businesses, uses somewhere around 7,139,735 gallons of water per day.

that water comes from rainwater via aquifers, but how much does it actually rain here?

in the same two months, the avg rainfall is about 10 inches. seattle is 142 sq mi in area, which means it is 570,300,000,000 sq inches. the average rainfall in this time of the year, tho different other times of the year obv, is 10, which gives 5,703,000,000,000 cubic inches of rain over the entire city. realistically, the average rainfall is measured in a few spots and the number would be different if all the area was covered, but using this number shows about 24,690,000,000 gallons of rain.

the population of seattle using my apartment's amount of water for the past 2 months would use about 0.03% of the rainfall in the same period.

most of the water demand comes from businesses. anyone who has worked as a dishwasher at a restaurant knows how much goes down that drain in a day. also manufacturing and agriculture, the latter being not common in the city (but the city wouldn't be able to exist without it)

if there was a decentralized system of collecting rainwater (that was also safe and didn't mess the env up), in the rainy season of a rainy city, there seems to be more than enough water to live on.

the lowest average rainfall is in in july, with .9 inches, which gives 2,222,000,000 gallons of water per the area of seattle (about 10x less). this could cause problems depending on how much water could be stored from the rainy season

where does it get stored? how does that storage get maintained? I can imagine every apartment having cool (?) water gathering container that gets piped to the sinks/toilets/showers/whatev for the apartment, but more scalable would be water tank "hubs" for the networks that are multi person housing units.

then the problem of uneven distribution of rain comes up: there are little micro rainshadow pockets caused by various buildings, as you can see by how certain walls stay dry when it's raining sometimes, but most everything gets soaked here. the logistics of delivering water to those areas seem like they'd be minimal.

this particular problem of decentralized organization of resources seems very scalable, given imagination and cooperation, but what about in a place where water is scarce? or with other resources? there are also questions about ecology, sewage etc etc. and the problem of it relying on a technological change (altho i don't see how any change of society wouldn't have an accompanying technology change) that itself would use resources.

#scale #needs #wants #solarpunk #hydropunk

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Catherine Wilks · @catherinewilks
67 followers · 225 posts · Server mastodonapp.uk

Looking at your own wants, without explaining them away is a powerful practice of self acceptance and love.
By seeing your wants you are seeing yourself... you are giving yourself your own attention.
Attention is love.
And love... love is magic.
I have created a little free spellbook to help you tap into this magic ❤️

mailchi.mp/f640780de465/e0fs5c

#magic #spell #spellbook #witch #coach #love #attention #want #wants

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Catherine Wilks · @catherinewilks
67 followers · 220 posts · Server mastodonapp.uk
Ray Lovegrove · @Bearhouse
931 followers · 915 posts · Server mastodon.green

“Can anything be so elegant as to have few wants, and to serve them one’s self?”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

#simpleliving #radicalchange #wants

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Catherine Wilks · @catherinewilks
65 followers · 200 posts · Server mastodonapp.uk
Ray Lovegrove · @Bearhouse
898 followers · 858 posts · Server mastodon.green

"You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need."  

~Vernon Howard  

#simpleliving #radicalchange #needs #wants

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Catherine Wilks · @catherinewilks
65 followers · 192 posts · Server mastodonapp.uk

No two lives are exactly the same… so why do we grade their success or value by the same metrics?!

I am so tired of the narrative that if you try a little harder, or improve a little more, you too can have it all.

What is “all” but a pre-determined list of the things we are told we should want.

YOUR wants have to potential create a rich tapestry of experiences. A life that is your and yours alone. You just got to drop the “shoulds” ❤️

#want #wants

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The TJ Walker Habit · @thetjwalkerhabit
1 followers · 327 posts · Server mas.to
Catherine Wilks · @catherinewilks
64 followers · 179 posts · Server mastodonapp.uk

Seeing your wants… witnessing your wants without judgment regardless of whether or not you take any action towards them is a powerful thing.

It is self love. It is self care. It is self acceptance.

#want #wants #love

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RamenCatholic 🐢 · @RamenCatholic
61 followers · 393 posts · Server mindly.social

My is & I am considering replacing it with a different

:
* durable
* doesn't charge subscription fees for basic features 💸 (one-and-done purchase)

:
* doesn't any 😤 (eff that noise)


Please for visibility

#fitbit #versa2 #broken #fitnesstracker #lookingfor #advice #needs #wants #pinktax #features #suggestions #joinin #boost

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Farista Sairuv · @FSairuv
3 followers · 30 posts · Server mas.to

Emelyne Museaux:

to work .”

Nobody wanted to work at . We wanted to be , be , be part of a , be , be , and have the and to . No one wants to in of their to “” necessities.

#earn #life #hours #trade #actually #rest #truly #space #time #validated #supported #community #creative #productive #all #ever #anymore #wants #nobody

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Farista Sairuv · @FSairuv
4 followers · 38 posts · Server mas.to

Emelyne Museaux:

to work .”

Nobody wanted to work at . We wanted to be , be , be part of a , be , be , and have the and to . No one wants to in of their to “” necessities.

#earn #life #hours #trade #actually #rest #truly #space #time #validated #supported #community #creative #productive #all #ever #anymore #wants #nobody

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