A quotation from Martial:

«««««
You serve the best wine always, my dear sir,
And yet they say your wines are not so good.
They say you are four times a widower.
They say … A drink? I don’t believe I would.
[Tu Setina quidem semper vel Massica ponis,
Papyle, sed rumor tam bona vina negat:
Diceris hac factus caelebs quater esse lagona.
Nec puto nec credo, Papy…
»»»»»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/martial/60986/

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Yesterday afternoon, local pub in the garden with the dogs. Not that busy. Sunny but slightly chilly. Lime & soda, chucking sticks for one dog, fussing the other. Then I had a thought. Problem was this thought came in clattering loudly in neon lights.
"My wife should be here" (I used her name which I'm not writing here).

She died Dec 2018, and yet the grief has just come flooding back.
I'm at the point of tears, sitting here doing nothing, taking nothing in.

#widower #grief #bereavement

My youngest - almost 30 - msgd to ask if she’d ever had Chicken Pox. Had to reply that I had no idea. We both know that her mum - my late wife - would have known not just the answer but the dates too.

I miss her

#widower

@soundhobo

I know this is a bit late, I hope you had a good holiday.
The holidays and places can definitely be reminders of our loved ones.

The loss totally sucks, I know.
March 3rd, 2021 was the day that I took my wife into the hospital for pneumonia....

#widower
#grief

I hope your 💔 ❤️‍🩹 .
R_

@soundhobo

Well, you got some time to use it up.
I've got two bottles of chocolate syrup one is 2 years beyond its best used by date and the other ones 3 years.

Yesterday I ate some saltine crackers that were 6 months beyond the best used date but they seem to be okay.

#widower discoveries

Kind of hard on the mind to read about President Carter going into hospice care on the first anniversary of my wife's death.

Miss you Mim.

#Widower #PresidentCarter #JimmyCarter #Hospice

I cannot wait until I've run out of "first X since" occasions. Filing taxes, another one down. One of the last.

#Widower

So I just found out someone I knew from a Discord support group for widows/widowers died by suicide last night.

I don't really know what to do with that. Just have to process it, I guess.

#Widow #Widower #Suicide

Going to the model train show had a weird vibe. It was for some stretch the same route I drove many times to take my wife to chemotherapy. I don't think I've had to drive that route for anything since she died.

#Widower

It's midnight. It's your birthday Mim. Wish you were here.

#Widower #Birthday

Life's Autumn

It is the autumn of my life,
and I find myself alone.
The winds of solitude,
chilling me to the bone.

Perhaps in time,
I'll find someone new.
A loving mate,
to turn my lips red-hot from blue.

© R.D. Decker, 2023

#poetry #poem #aging #seniorsingle #widow #widower #literature #midlife #fedipoetry #singlesenior #life #seniorcitizen

#TBT #widower #love
My late husband Michael and I. Gone 1year,3 months. Seems like a lifetime. 💔

Merry Christmas 🎄 one and all.
Selworthy Beacon and the Trigpoint on a very, very bitterly cold winters day at
sunset 🌅
Me & Mole 🐾 are on our lonesome this Christmas as my wife passed away in November.
Linda may be gone but she will never be forgotten ❤️ This was one of our favourite spots for a stroll.
#exmoor #exmoornationalpark #selworthybeacon #trigpoint #cairns #widower #getoutsideandexplore #southwestcoastpath #exmoorwalks #dronephotography #abstractaerialart #exmoorfromabove 👀

My older son expressed concern for the first time about whether I'd have any presents at Christmas. I did not see that coming.

My birthday went by without note. I guess Christmas penetrates the mental radar differently.

#Autism #Widower #Christmas

Weird having to think about how much to deduct for next year's medical flexible spending account. For the last few years it was an easy non-choice: max it out. I forgot it was going to be an actual decision again. Widower's life.

#Widower

Recent #widower discoverys…I found this edited snap of me and the very young pup Mole 🐾 taken by my late wife whilst on a wintertime walk at dusk on Saunton Sands in North Devon in 2012. It was on here iPhone Lock Screen.
#widowerreality #wemissthemeveryday ❤️ #sauntonsands #northdevon #mansbestfriend #walkies #beachwalk #gonebutnotforgotten

@exharmonte

Sorry to hear that you're part of the #widower club. It's hard to process.

@cosullivan

My name is Tim, recently widowed and retired. I worked in IT for State Government
(South Carolina) for 21 years.I am presently just working on my cabin, processing loss,
and hoping sdf will be able to manage all the Twitter users that may migrate here. I am staying at the bird until it is taken away from me or splats. My present interests are...

#introduction
#SouthCarolina
#liberal
#progressive
#Democrat
#widower
#retired
#vinyl_records
#computerTech
#JADAM
#Cabin
#seniorCitizen

The start of the holiday season and I wonder how many #Christmas movies will have a widowed storyline. It makes me so angry that #hollywood romanticizes spousal loss for the sake of holiday entertainment. While I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, I wish every writer and producer of the #hallmark, #romcom, holiday movies would know what it’s really like to be a #widow or #widower.